ANGER MANAGEMENT – WHAT IS IT

Anger Management  – What Is It?

ATLANTA ANGER MANAGEMENT

Anger Management is a course of treatment that seeks to help people whose anger emotion is causing negative problems in their personal, business or public life.

Anderson & Anderson’s Certified Anger Management Facilitators are influencing how anger management is practiced throughout the United States. Anger Management has moved from the basic idea of management of anger to a broader understanding of the relationship between anger, stress, communication, self-awareness, social awareness, impulse control, optimism, decision making, self-perception, flexibility and relationship management. This provides the client with self understanding (awareness), learning to control one’s emotions, social awareness for better interactions and more productive relationship management. 1

In most cases reduced recidivism is also achieved.

Professionally Certified Anger Management Facilitators (CAMF) take an active interest is specializing in understanding anger and all of it’s ramifications. Anger Management is not psychotherapy. Anger Management is psycho-education and a highly personalized form of treatment.

Anger Management does not seek to help those in need of counseling to find ways of avoiding their anger altogether. According to the American Psychiatric Association, anger is a normal human emotion. It is not a mental disorder, consequently it is not responsive to traditional counseling, psychotherapy or psychotropic medication. Additionally anger is not listed in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) DSM-IV-TR. 3

Anger is exemplified by anger outbursts or tempers that flair out of proportion to the causing stimuli or situation. Anger can be aggressive as in verbal or physical abuse but also passive as in emotional blackmail, negative control issues, silent treatment etc. The individual experiencing anger often lashes out against family members, friends, acquaintances coworkers, even strangers.

Anger is a problem under the following circumstances: 2

• When it occurs too frequently
• When it is too intense
• When it lasts too long
• When it leads to health issues
• When it destroys interpersonal relationships: personal, work and public
• When it results in person-directed aggression: verbal or physical abuse

Anger can be managed using skills/tools that can be learned through a course of proven Anger Management curriculum.

At Atlanta Anger Management, Atlanta, GA  Anger Management is offered:

 

Definitions:

Session (s): Meet in discrete private one on one Monday through Friday agreed upon time slot and individualize treatment plan. You receive an Action Plan (To Do List) that mobilizes you into changing your situation immediately. People around you will notice and things improve quickly.

Book Monday through Friday 8:00AM to 5:00PM | Monday 8:00AM to 10:00PM

Group Class / Class: Join a group of other people usually from 2-7 people and use an anger management workbook to learn the Anderson and Anderson™ four Anchors for change and life skills to better/change your life. Some conversation results from topics.
You can join an open class at any time. This is like attending a Self Improvement Class / Seminar. It is best if you can attend 8 Hours of Class Time to receive the main content so you can actually use all the material in a combined approach for lasting change.

Anger Management Class Schedule:
Tuesday Anger Management Classes
Wednesday Anger Management Classes
Thursday Anger Management Classes
Saturday Anger Management Classes

Accelerated / Intensive: A Monday through Friday usually 8 Hour Private One On One Session. Combines Individual Session Concepts and help with Workbook Structure.
Most often Corporate Sponsored or when Individual is going to jail and needs it right now.

Book Monday through Friday. Any number of hours needed. Inquire. 678.576.1913

VIP Concierge Service – We come to you. One on One private discrete Sessions.
Any length of time you want. Individual, Couples, Family, Teens, Corporate. Seminars.

Disruptive Physicians handled personally by Mr. George Anderson  ( Brentwood, CA)

VIP Concierge Anger Management Coaching Services Worldwide.
Harstfield – Jackson International Airport – Busiest Passenger Airport In World – Affordable Flights Everyday.
Certified In All 50 US States and Accepted By All Courts.

 Seminars – Group Classes for 2 or more people.
 
 

Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management teaches core life skills in the following domains:

• Self Observing Self
• Anger Awareness and Anger Management
• Stress Awareness and Stress Management
• Improved Communication through Assertion Training & Active Listening
• Emotional Intelligence:
self-awareness, self control, social awareness and relationship management
• Relationship Management
• Cognitive Restructuring
• Learning to Respond To Another Person’s Anger
• Optimism and Gratitude

The first step is to call Richard at 678-576-1913 and we get to know one another. It is usually fairly brief but provides you the opportunity to discuss current situation and what some of the issues are.

Atlanta Anger Management work with Individuals, Companies, Corporations, City and Federal Government Institutions, Schools, Colleges and Universities, Health Care Companies in designing classes or group seminar programs in Anger Management, Stress Management, Improved Communication Styles, Couples Conflict Management, Rage Management, and Emotional Intelligence.

NOTE: NO INSURANCE IS ACCEPTED.

Anger is not listed in The Diagnostic & Statistical Manual of Nervous and Mental Disorders (DSM IV). Anger is a normal human emotion, which is a problem when it is too intense, occurs too frequently, lasts too long, has health implications, impacts interpersonal relationships or leads to person-directed aggression or violence. 3

Therefore anger is not considered a Psychological Disorder by either the American Psychiatric Association or the American Psychological Association in the way that depression or schizophrenia are, therefore services cannot be billed to client’s health insurance.

CONTACT:

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

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References:

1. https://www.andersonservices.com/blog/

2. https://www.andersonservices.com/blog/

3. https://www.andersonservices.com/blog/

SATURDAY ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASS FEBRUARY SCHEDULE ANNOUNCED

Saturday Anger Management Class Schedule 

ATLANTA ANGER MANAGEMENT

Saturday Anger Management Class Schedule
Georgia State Approved.

 Call Richard at 678-576-1913 to enroll and reserve a seat for free.

Judges, Solicitor General’s, Probation Officers, PreTrial Officers in different counties all have different anger management requirements to fulfill their needs for you. It is your responsibility to check with them and ask questions to what they will accept to fulfill your court requirements.

Check With Your Referring Party If They Will Accept A One Day Anger Management Course. If Not Attend a Tuesday or Wednesday Evening Class. or Thursday Evening Class.

  • All Payments Non Refundable.
  • Call your contact and ask what they will accept/require.

Limited Seating. Call to reserve your chair!

We sit around a conference table and learn principles of better relationships learning about anger, stress, communication styles and emotional intelligence. All to improve your reactions to anger and stress producing activating events. DVD’s and Videotapes also watched.

You are treated with respect.

Come join a select few who want the best anger management program [ Anderson and Anderson™ ] on the planet with a facilitator who is engaging, funny, gifted storyteller, and teacher.

Besides getting your Court Ordered needed Certificate of Completion you also learn something! Get your money’s worth!

Court Ordered Participants Usually Require 8 Hours Or More Of Classes.

People needing six hours can also attend for 6 hours $180.00

Call Richard Taylor To Discuss. 678-576-1913


WHAT YOU RECEIVE:

A.) All documents to relieve you of your case requirements.

B.) Certificate Of Completion Offered For All Who Complete The Class hand signed by our Certified Facilitator and Corporate Seal.

C.) Letter Of Completion Addressed To Your Referring Party With All Your Case Particulars, Completion of # of Hours Required, Explains Our Methodology, and who we are.

D.) Work Book of Class Topics

E.) You receive a model of Anger Management with tools/methods that actually work. When used they will improve your interpersonal relationships in your personal, business and public life. You will be able to reduce your reaction to anger triggering events to more appropriate responses that enhance your life.

F.) Complimentary Designer Coffee, Hot Tea, Hot Chocolate, Cappuccino, Filtered Water
OK To Bring Your Own or Snacks

G.) Free Safe Parking, Building has 24/7 Security

Call 678-576-1913 to join a class. No Drop Ins.

DIRECTIONS

CONTACT

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in: http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

LIVE LONGER BY PLAYING – STRESS MANAGEMENT – HEALTH

Live Longer By Playing – Stress Management – Atlanta Anger Management

Stephen Jepson Video

Building Neuroplasticity For Improved Living

Stephen Jepson of Never Leave the Playground is a program of activities that stimulates the growth of the brain and body by specific training of the hands and feet.

My method has two goals: to promote good health and to have fun.

About Stephen Jepson…

At age 72, Stephen Jepson is living proof of his philosophy of lifetime fitness called Never Leave the Playground. He rides a unicycle, juggles while balancing on a bongo board, throws knives and plays jacks with both hands, walks a tightrope, swam across Iowa’s Spirit Lake at age 66, and has won over 80 gold medals in swimming since age 65. And more. Much more.

He knows the secret is to “just keep moving” through constant play, not exercise. He’s developed toys for all ages and degrees of physical fitness to use throughout our daily lives so we never have to leave the playground no matter where we are or what we’re doing.

No matter how impaired the body has become through neglect or disease or aging, consistent movement is imperative to regain and maintain balance, stability, coordination and growth. He calls it “age proofing the brain and body,” and it can begin at any age or any condition of the body.

Stephen received his MFA in ceramics from Alfred University and was a professor at the University of Florida for eight years before starting his own company, Jepson Pottery. He’s won many awards for his pottery including having a piece purchased by the Smithsonian, and has an international following with his instructional videos and teaching seminars at his World Pottery Institute.

However, the last three years, he has committed himself to researching and documenting his theory of lifetime fitness which has culminated in Never Leave the Playground.

He can help you, too, no matter where you are in your physical journey, and he’s invented the toys and games to help us play our way to and maintain our health at any age.

Website: http://neverleavetheplayground.com/welcome/

Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management  is committed to research and teaching principles of better living. 

Sitting Too Much Can Kill You

Topics include but limited to:

Anger Management
Emotional Intelligence
Stress Management
Improved Communication 
Rage Management
Improved Health Through Nutrition
Neuroplasticity For Improved Living
Character Development
Couples Conflict Management
Relationship Management
Executive Coaching
Emotional Intelligence Coaching

CONTACT IN ATLANTA, GA

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD – ANGER MANAGEMENT – ATLANTA

Be Impeccable With Your Word

Be Impeccable with Your Word is the first of The Four Agreements 2 developed by Don Miguel Ruiz.1

Expressing yourself impeccably is to express yourself in the direction of truth and love. This includes expressing love, respect, and acceptance for yourself.

It is to say what you mean. Do what you say. To live up to your core values and do not violate them.

We should consider our Word to be much more than the words and phrases that we speak. Our words came from our thoughts that come from our beliefs in how the world works, evolved from our socialization process and life experience. So our Word reflects our beliefs, attitude, our cognitive distortions, our emotions, become our words, and resulting physical actions in the things we do.

If we increase our awareness of ourselves, the first step towards growth we start to pay attention to what we believe, think and the words we speak.

Do we do what we say? No? Why?

In my own experience I have people every week who call and set up an appointment for help with anger. We agree on a time and they know the cost. I call them to remind them of the appointment time. They confirm the appointment and then do not call or show up for the appointment. It seems to be more prevalent then people actually appearing for their appointment. Why is this? Today a lot of people do not do what they say. A simple text or phone call cancelling the appointment would be the grown up responsible action to do. People who  break this agreement (Be Impeccable) , do not respect themselves nor other people. They are unreliable people and this manifests in all their relationships. No wonder anger and broken troubled relationships are increasing.

The word fickle 3 comes to my mind. Often people who need real help in Anger Management often are fickle. Old English version says they are deceitful. Not trustworthy.

fick·le  (fkl)

adj.

Characterized by erratic changeableness or instability, especially with regard to affections or attachments; capricious.


[Middle English fikel, from Old English ficol, deceitful.]


fickle·ness n.

fickly adv.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.


fickle [ˈfɪkəl]

adj

changeable in purpose, affections, etc.; capricious

[Old English ficol deceitful; related to fician to wheedle, befician to deceive]

fickleness  n

Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003

ThesaurusLegend:  Synonyms Related Words Antonyms

Adj. 1. fickle – marked by erratic changeableness in affections or attachments; “fickle friends”; “a flirt’s volatile affections”volatile

inconstant – likely to change frequently often without apparent or cogent reason; variable; “inconstant affections”; “an inconstant lover”; “swear not by…the inconstant moon”- Shakespeare

2. fickle – liable to sudden unpredictable change; “erratic behavior”; “fickle weather”; “mercurial twists of temperament”; “a quicksilver character, cool and willful at one moment, utterly fragile the next”erraticmercurialquicksilver

changefulchangeable – such that alteration is possible; having a marked tendency to change; ” “changeable moods”

Based on WordNet 3.0, Farlex clipart collection. © 2003-2012 Princeton University, Farlex Inc.

Self Awareness

Question to ask yourself:

  • Are you good to your Word?
  • Do you do what you say?
  • Do you live up to your core values?
  • Do you respect other people time and affections?
  • Are you reliable?
  • Are you trustworthy?
  • Do you have integrity?

If you answered “No” to any of these above questions, embrace Self Awareness and embrace Be Impeccable to Your Word and change for the better. Work towards truth and love.

These traits seems to be lacking in many people today.

To Be Impeccable with Your Word isn’t as simple as it might seem. Exploring the meaning of this first agreement your understanding of it will expand. Your self-awareness ( a key to personal growth) begins with paying attention to each moment of the day as it unfolds. This is called Mindfulness. You notice your thoughts that used to go unnoticed. You notice your comments that seemed you represent as true but notice they are not based on facts or faith you just copied something your read, heard on TV or YouTube. You notice that some of what you say is really personal beliefs not rooted in truth or love. You become aware of your subtle thoughts, beliefs, words, actions, and expressions of the day. Compared with this agreement Be Impeccable with Your Word things become more challenging than one originally imagined.

To master being impeccable requires that you heighten your awareness not just:

  • The words you say
  • The emotions you express
  • Your attitude
  • Your actions
  • Why you express the power of your belief and where it came from

You will need to develop a discipline of mindfulness to be impeccable in these expressional modes throughout the day.

Looking at emotions that bring up “negative” feelings in us: 4
  • jealousy
  • envy
  • frustration
  • sadness
  • anger
  • anxiety
  • fear
  • sorrow
  • disrespected (dissed)
  • offended
  • disgust
  • hate
  • grief
  • shame
  • embarrassed
  • panic
  • nervousness
  • insulted
  • humiliated
  • isolated
  • defeated
  • hopeless
  • grouchiness
  • moodiness
  • feeling misunderstood
  • isolation
  • alone
  • abandoned
  • self rejection
  • mad
  • enraged

While the feelings are what we feel, often being filtered though our Cognitive Distortions that are not rooted in truth and love. They are what we fall into without discernment. We react to stimuli, to events, to people, to things, and quickly let these “negative” unpleasant feeling wash over us. Many embrace them for days, for weeks, for a life time. Feeling Depressed? You let a feeling or many take a home in you instead of flowing through you as you should.

A key to good Emotional Health is to let our feeling flow through us. They are just a feeling and we observe them, we stay with them, embrace them, even if unpleasant. But they have a time and we let them go and move unto the next feeling. If we focus our attention to a positive experience, a positive thought, and positive action then they will replace the negative.

INCREASE THE POSITIVES

Positive always win over negative. Light always dispels the darkness. Truth always triumphants over lies.  The Sun will shine another day.

  • You can create and change how you feel emotionally by generating emotions, and then you feel them.
  • You can create dynamics of respect in relationship by being silent and active listening attentively.
  • Refrain from emotional reactions can create a different experience for yourself and others.
  • Express caring, compassion, appreciation in the activity of your actions.
  • Create a new different self image by new and different positive thoughts. New research shows it rewires your brain. You must implant the positive with 10-30 seconds of intentional focus. This helps the brain “remember”.

Being Impeccable To Your Word can be expressed in many ways in each moment that forms your day. ½ a day at a time. Being Present in the Moment. Being Mindful. This moment is what we have right now. The past is gone. The future, we can only hope for. It may never come. Death cannot be negotiated with. Live in the Present Moment to relieve suffering.

Silence can be Impeccable

Silence is an expression. And sometimes silence and refrain says a lot more than words can. Your actions are a part of how you create. Silence with good feelings is a positive. Silence with contempt is negative and not being impeccable. Active Listening with compassion goes a long way toward relationship building. Learn to not argue or quarrel.

Saying Sorry

Saying you are sorry is Being Impeccable To Your Word. It moves toward truth, love and forgiveness.

Fear – Anxiety – Panic

 

Fear – Anxiety – Panic are “negative emotions” that do not enhance life, they take energy away from us. They dehabilitate us. They render us ineffective.

Examples:

  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Death
  • Fear of Rejection
  • Fear of Ridicule
  • Fear of Loneliness
  • Fear of Misery – Poverty
  • Fear of Disappointment  – Ourselves vs. Others
  • Fear of Pain
  • Fear of The Unknown
  • Fear of Losing Your Freedom
  • Fear of Dating
  • Fear of Public Speaking
  • Fear of Success

Fear, Anxiety, Panic hold you back and are not being Impeccable.

When you experience Fear, Anxiety or Panic notice it. Embrace it. If you can stay with the feeling like diving into a deep swimming pool, swim to the bottom and be with the feeling. If you can stay with it without addictions like alcohol, drugs or other crutches it will ease. Peace will come. You can let it go. You make a choice to let it go. It goes. Then decide for a positive thought, a positive action and stay with that. Let that hold. Embrace it for as long as you can. Rewire you brain for the positive. Fear Anxiety or Panic will lessen and go elsewhere. Embrace Love. Fear and Love cannot exist side by side in you.

To Be Impeccable with Your Word is an art requiring constant vigilance with active awareness. You begin today and master over a lifetime of work. Some never master it.

It is in the trying, in the consistent practice to master our emotional expression, master our beliefs, master our thoughts, master our words and master our actions that we change into a person with Integrity, Character, Virtue, Truth and Love.

We become Impeccable.

Why not start today?

Result: Your life will become a masterpiece of beauty, grace, happiness and love.

The Four Agreements – 15th Anniversary Illustrated Edition 5

“Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are the ones we make with ourselves. In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible. One single agreement is not such a problem, but we have many agreements that come from fear, deplete our energy, and diminish our self-worth.”

“In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible.”

In this powerful book that has remained on The New York Times Bestseller List for over eight years, don Miguel reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. When we are ready to change these agreements, there are four deceptively simple, yet powerful agreements that we can adopt as guiding principles. The Four Agreements® offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

The Four Agreements are:

Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don’t Take Anything Personally
Don’t Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best

CONTACT

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

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References:

1. Don Miguel Ruiz Website: http://www.miguelruiz.com/index.php

2. The Four Agreements Amazon

3. Fickle The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003

Based on WordNet 3.0, Farlex clipart collection. © 2003-2012 Princeton University, Farlex Inc.

4.  Emotions    http://atlantaangermanagement.com/anger.htm

5.  The Four Agreements – 15th Anniversary Illustrated Edition

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE SERIES II

Emotional Intelligence – What is it anyway?

Emotional Intelligence Series – Part II

Continuing this Emotional Intelligence Series,  I wanted to get more into “What is Emotional Intelligence.”

Links to Series below:

Emotional Intelligence Series – Part I
Emotional Intelligence Series – Part II

In Part I, I mentioned this is not a complete definitive article on Emotional Intelligence [ EI ] as that would be overwhelming and not serve the purpose I seek; namely to bring the term Emotional Intelligence [ EI ] and it meaning and it’s application in a more understandable way to the “normal” person interested or having to take court ordered/employer mandated course/class.

To keep things really simple, I like to open with the term Emotional Intelligence as saying “Lets reverse the words to Intelligence With Our Emotions”.

Many of us live in a reactive world to other people, events, situations, our own beliefs and therefore our emotions are highly experienced and expressed without a moment of thought or internal interaction. We simply react to stimuli.

If we observe animals, like our pet dog, we see how it inter-reacts to other dogs while walking it in the park, runners, children, smells, watching TV, etc. Our dog reacts. We often understand it dog’s nature, Dogs bark. Some people try to make their dog “behave” and not bark. They apply Behavior Training so their dog learns more “acceptable” ways of being at the park and at home in the backyard. Some dogs bark at everything others seem better suited to go along smelling, walking and doing their business. Some of this may have to do with the dog’s breed, some the pet owner and their vibes/beliefs, tolerance for the dog’s behavior, perhaps training.

We as human beings have a larger brain and have the ability to perceive more. Both in an IQ (Intelligence Quotient) analytical left brain sort of way and also on an Emotional level (Emotional Intelligence) right brain sort of way.

For example: Some of us are able to “read” people’s expressions, eye movements / eye expression and body positions / language to sense what they are saying….it adds clues to whether we “think” …”Are they are telling the truth?”…whether we are to “believe” that what they are saying is believable and therefore acceptable and true. We accept and discard the conversation and often the person too. So this ability can be also be called “common sense” or “street smarts”.

Most of us have some idea about those two terms called “common sense” or “street smarts”. We laugh and say the 21st Century person has lost that, hence all the online forums asking the most trivial questions, Facebook, the Call In Radio Shows, the Call In TV Shows, Reality TV, older newspaper columns handling such questions. People are very interested in what others think about their situation and what to best do about it. Most people do not look for inner wisdom or guidance from the quiet within.

On the other hand there are people with “Common Sense or Street Smarts” who do pretty well to very well in their lives, many without any or less than the best education. Why is this? They have a “knowing” to how things work and “work it.” This is a component of what is now called the field of Emotional-Social Intelligence. Fancy term for what many of us already know. But what about the others? What about you who think you know what is going on but find yourself reprimanded by the court system, your spouse, your family member, your employer. Are they just plain wrong? Or is there something more to be open to and learn and grow?

Is it possible to grow and learn about this interesting field of emotions?

I firmly believe there is! Emotions are complex and as we start to pay attention to ourselves we start to know who and what we are. Self knowledge often takes a life time of devotion and work. Who really are we as a person,  an individual? We do we accept/reject? Why?

Most people accept we are complex beings (called human beings) and that we are made up of three to four components or layers/levels.

  • Physical Level
  • Mental Level
  • Emotional Level
  • and overlooked/disputed: Spiritual Level
4 Domains

4 Domains

Most people have a hard time balancing all three or four levels. Since I believe in the Spiritual and most people believe in some kind of Higher Power let’s call it four levels or domains.

The two most overlooked as you can acknowledge are the Emotional and Spiritual domains.

We will look at these four domains next. – Richard

Emotional Intelligence Assessment
Emotional Intelligence Coaching – Call 678-576-1913 to set up Individual Session.
Emotional Intelligence For Business
Books

Resources:

Daniel Goleman, PH.D 
Mayer-Salovey-Caruso Group
Reuven Bar-On

Richard Taylor BS, CAMF

Richard Taylor BS, CAMF

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

BUILDING OPTIMISM

Learning to be Optimistic

REWIRE THE BRAIN WITH FOCUSED THOUGHT

ABCDE MODEL 

Learn to be optimistic using a technique based on Albert Ellis – Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy.

Professor Martin Seligman has elaborated on this in his book ‘Authentic Happiness’

This is a method for building optimism by recognizing and disputing pessimistic thoughts. The key to disputing your own pessimistic thoughts is to first recognize them and then to treat them as if they were uttered by an external person, a rival whose mission in life is to make you miserable.

  1. Become more aware of your conscious thought processes and begin to treat them as if they were being uttered by an external person whose goal in life is to make you unhappy.  (Distancing)
  2. Distract yourself from the thoughts – i.e. don’t allow yourself to think about them by directing your mind elsewhere. The rubber band technique is useful. Distraction is the best technique if you have to perform a task and it would be unhelpful to think about it.
  3. Dispute the beliefs. Disputation is the most important technique here and involves checking out the accuracy of the beliefs about ourselves that are encouraging us to feel pessimistic.  When we dispute we use the same techniques which we use to argue with other people.

Once you recognize that you have a pessimistic thought that seems unwarranted, counteract it by using the ABCDE model.

A stands for Activating Event
B for the Beliefs you automatically have when it occurs
C for Consequences of the belief
D for your Disputing your routine belief – using facts and logic, not wasteful thinking on affirmations.
E for the Energization that occurs when you dispute it successfully (this simply means to pay attention to how you feel (e.g. lighter, more energized, more optimistic) as a result of disputing your negative thoughts)

By effectively disputing the beliefs that follow an activating event or adversity, you can change your reaction from dejection and giving up to activity and embrace good cheer.

Exercise – During the next 5 activating events or adversity you face in your daily life, listen closely for your beliefs, observe the consequences, and dispute your beliefs vigorously. Record all this on a piece of paper.  Once you have done this on paper a few times you can then simply go through the process in your head.

Example:

Adversity:      

You gave a presentation and didn’t use your allocated time and stumbled in a few places.

Belief:    

I’m really bad at public speaking.  I always make a mess of it.  I really ought not to do it again because I’ll just be as bad.  My boss must think I’m not up to the job.

Consequences: 

You turn down appointments to speak and therefore let your fear get the better of
you.  If you speak again you are very nervous and apprehensive and therefore much more likely to make mistakes.

Disputation:    

I haven’t had much experience of giving presentations.  That was only my third.
The head of department spoke for less time as well and no-one was bothering about it.  A number  of people asked me questions and were interested in what I was saying.  Kevin even said he liked my slides and he isn’t one to say positive things to people.  I might not have been that fluent but I was ok and if I can conquer my nerves I should be better next time.

There are 4 different ways to make your disputations convincing:

Evidence – shows that the negative beliefs are factually incorrect. Most negative beliefs are overreactions. So ask ‘what is the evidence for this belief?’  (This is not just about affirmations or repeating positive statements it is about employing logical arguments.)

Alternatives ask yourself if there are alternative ways to look at the problem which are less damaging to yourself. Focus in particular on causes which are changeable (e.i. you were tired), the specific (e.i. only this instance), and the non personal (other people’s contribution to the problem).

Implications – even if you still take a negative view of what you have done you can still decatastrophize. E.I. even if you did put your foot in it at the interview and didn’t get this job what are the implications for other jobs or the rest of your life? [You are not defined by failure, success is on the horizon.]

Usefulness – question the usefulness of your belief. It can be helpful here to realize that even negative situations can in the long run work out well. We can also realize that some of our beliefs about the world (e.i. that it should be fair) though laudable lead us to be unduly negative. [Think: “Everything turns out as it out to be for the better good.”]

 

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FOCUS – A KEY TO SELF CONTROL

FOCUS – Is one of the keys to self control and improved Social Intelligence.

Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management uses the Anderson and Anderson Contrasting Wheels of Behavior to help clients move quickly into more positive constructive relationship patterns.

Today we look at FOCUS or Paying Attention with Awareness.

Is your mind wandering?

The Practice

Pay attention.

Why?

Moment to moment, the flows of thoughts and feelings, sensations and desires, and conscious and unconscious processes sculpt your nervous system like water gradually carving furrows and eventually gullies on a hillside. Your brain is continually changing its structure. The only question is: Is it for better or worse?

In particular, because of what’s called “experience-dependent neuroplasticity,” whatever you hold in attention has a special power to change your brain. Attention is like a combination spotlight and vacuum cleaner: it illuminates what it rests upon and then sucks it into your brain – and your self.

Therefore, controlling your attention – becoming more able to place it where you want it and keep it there, and more able to pull it away from what’s bothersome or pointless (such as looping again and again through anxious preoccupations, mental grumbling, or self-criticism) – is the foundation of changing your brain, and thus your life, for the better.

As the great psychologist, William James, wrote over a century ago: “The education of attention would be the education par excellence.”

But to gain better control of attention – to become more mindful and more able to concentrate – we need to overcome a few challenges. In order to survive, our ancestors evolved to be stimulation-hungry and easily distracted, continually scanning their interior and their environment for opportunities and threats, carrots and sticks. There is also a natural range of temperament, from focused and cautious “turtles” to distractible and adventuresome “jackrabbits.” Upsetting experiences – especially traumatic ones – train the brain to be vigilant, with attention skittering from one thing to another. And modern culture makes us accustomed to an intense incoming fire hose of stimuli, so anything less – like the sensations of simply breathing – can feel unrewarding, boring, or frustrating.

To overcome these challenges, it’s useful to cultivate some neural factors of attention – in effect, getting your brain on your side to help you get a better grip on this spotlight/vacuum cleaner.

How?

You can use one or more of the seven factors below at the start of any deliberate focusing of attention – from keeping your head in a dull business meeting to contemplative practices such as meditation or prayer – and then let them move to the background as you shift into whatever the activity is.

You can also draw upon one or more during the activity if your attention is flagging. They are listed in an order that makes sense to me, but you can vary the sequence. (There’s more information about attention, mindfulness, concentration, and contemplative absorption inBuddha’s Brain.)

7 Things To Help Keep Focus:

1.  Set the intention to sustain your attention, to be mindful. You can do this both top-down, by giving yourself a gentle instruction to be attentive, and bottom-up, by opening to the sense in your body of what mindfulness feels like.

2.  Relax. Use Conscious Breathing. For example, take several exhalations that are twice as long as your inhalations. This stimulates the calming, centering parasympathetic nervous system and settles down the fight-or-flight stress-response sympathetic nervous system that jiggles the spotlight of attention this way and that, looking for carrots and sticks.

3.  Without straining at it, think of things that help you feel cared about – that you matter to someone, that you belong in a relationship or group, that you are seen and appreciated, or even cherished and loved. It’s OK if the relationship isn’t perfect, or that you bring to mind people from the past, or pets, or spiritual beings. You could also get a sense of your own goodwill for others, your own compassion, kindness, and love. Warming up the heart in this way helps you feel protected, and it brings a rewarding juiciness to the moment – which support #4 and #5 below.

4.  Think of things that help you feel safer, and thus more able to rest attention on your activities, rather than vigilantly scanning. Notice that you are likely in a relatively safe setting, with resources inside you to cope with whatever life brings. Let go of any unreasonable anxiety, any unnecessary guarding or bracing.

5.  Gently encourage some positive feelings, even mild or subtle ones. For example, think of something you feel glad about or grateful for; go-to’s for me include my kids, Yosemite, and just being alive. Open as you can to an underlying sense of well-being that may nonetheless contain some struggles or pain. The sense of pleasure or reward in positive emotions increases the neurotransmitter, dopamine, which closes a kind of gate in the neural substrates of working memory, thus keeping out any “barbarians,” any invasive distractions.

6.  Get a sense of the body as a whole, its many sensations appearing together each moment in the boundless space of awareness. This sense of things as a unified gestalt, perceived within a large and panoramic perspective, activates networks on the sides of the brain (especially the right – for right-handed people) that support sustained mindfulness. And it de-activates the networks along the midline of the brain that we use when we’re lost in thought.

7.  For 10-20-30 seconds in a row, stay with whatever positive experiences you’re having or lessons you’re learning. Since “neurons that fire together, wire together,” this savoring and registering helps weave the fruits of your attentive efforts into the fabric of your brain and your self. [You change.]

by

Rick Hanson, Ph.D.
25 Mitchell Blvd.
San Rafael, California 94903

Used With Permission

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE & ANGER MANAGEMENT go hand in hand.
First Step: Self Awareness
Second Step: Self Control
Third Step: Social Intelligence & Awareness
Fourth Step: Relationship Management

FOCUS – Using Mindful Attention To What We Are Doing is key to rewire the brain
to become more (slower) responsive then caveman fight, flight, freeze instant reactivity.

My Suggestion:

1. Stop Multi-Tasking when you can.

2. Turn off TV and Radio when you can. Embrace silence.

3. Silence allows us to hear our inner brain (ego) chatter.

4. Catch Negative thoughts. Change them to Positive thoughts. Click -> Change the channel! Called: 3 C’s -> Catch It. Check It. Change It.

5. Linger 10-20-30 seconds on these positive thoughts or experiences to rewire the brain.

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REWIRE YOUR BRAIN – PRACTICE NOT QUARRELING

Who do you argue with?

The Practice

Don’t quarrel.

Why?

It’s one thing to stick up for yourself and others. But it’s a different matter to get caught up in wrangles, contentiousness, squabbles . . . in a word: quarrels.

Similarly, it’s one thing to disagree with someone, even to the point of arguing – but it’s a different matter to get so caught up in your position that you lose sight of the bigger picture, including your relationship with the other person. Then you’re quarreling.

You know you’re quarreling when you find yourself getting irritated, especially with that sticky feeling that you’re just not gonna quit until you’ve won.

Quarrels happen both out in the open, between people, and inside the mind, like when you make a case in your head about another person or keep revisiting an argument to make your point more forcefully. We quarrel most with family and friends – imagine that! – but also with people on TV, or politicians and groups we don’t like. We can even quarrel with conditions in life (such as an illness or tight money) or with physical objects, like a sticky drawer slammed shut in anger.

However they happen, quarrels are stressful, activating the ancient fight-or-flight machinery in your brain and body: a bit of this won’t harm you, but a regular diet of quarreling is not good for your long-term physical and mental health.

Plus it eats away like acid on a relationship. For example, I was in a serious relationship in my mid-twenties that was headed for marriage, but our regular quarrels finally so scorched the earth in our hearts that no love could grow there for each other.

This week, try not quarrel with anyone or anything.

How?

Be mindful of what quarreling feels like, in your body, emotions, and thoughts. For example, be aware of that sense of revving up, pushing against, being right, and driving your view home that is so characteristic of quarreling. Ask yourself: Does this feel good? Is this good for me?

Observe the impact of quarreling in relationships, whether you’re doing it or others are (including on the world stage). Ask yourself:Are the results good? What would my relationships be like if I did not quarrel in them?

If you sense yourself warming up to a quarrel, step back, slow down, don’t do it. Try a different approach: Say only what truly needs saying; stay calm and contained, without trying to persuade the other person; don’t take any bait. If it comes to this, let the other person, not you, look over-heated and argumentative.

Richard Taylor adds: [ “If you want to always be right you will end up single.”]

Much of the time, you’ll realize that nothing needs to be said at all:you just don’t have to resist the other person. His or her words can pass on by like a gust of air swirling some leaves along its way. You don’t have to be contentious. Your silence does not equal agreement. Nor does it mean that the other person has won the point – and even if he or she has, would that actually matter so much in a week – or year – or so?

If you do get caught up in a quarrel, as soon as you realize that’s happened, back out of it. A good first step is to get quieter. Think about what really matters in the interaction – like saying what you are going to do in the future, or finding out some key fact – and then zero in on that thing, whatever it is. Maybe acknowledge to the other person that you’ve realized you’ve gotten into a kind of argument here, but that’s not what you really want to do. If that person tries to keep up the fight, you don’t have to. It takes two to quarrel, and only one to stop it. Then when the time is right, as you can, try to repair the damage of the quarrel.

Overall, explore the sense of being at peace with the world, without a quarrel with anyone.

(The feeling of this reminds me of a saying from my wife’s childhood, which should be adapted to one’s own situation: Be a friend to all, and a sister to every Girl Scout!)

by

Rick Hanson, Ph.D.
25 Mitchell Blvd.
San Rafael, California 94903

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Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management

5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: http://www.atlantaangermanagement.com
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SATURDAY ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASS IN ATLANTA FOR 12 HOUR OR LONGER PARTICIPANTS

Saturday Anger Management Class In Atlanta for 12 Hour or Longer Participants

Atlanta Anger Management presents Anger Management
Training and Education for Court Ordered Folks needing longer than 8 hours of class time.

First things first. Always check with your referring party to what they will accept to fulfill

the court’s requirement.

  • Many will only accept 8 once a week anger management class. = 8 weeks
  • Many will only accept 12 once a week anger management class. = 12 weeks
  • Many will only accept 16 once a week anger management class. = 16 weeks

For lesser charges or requirements many needing 12 hours or longer are allowed to attend
the Saturday 8 Hour Class and then take this class to finish their court obligation in two visits.

SATURDAY ANGER MANAGEMENT 8 HOUR CLASS INFO

Call Richard at 678-576-1913 for information, explanation, register for a class.

NOTE:

Judges, Solicitor General’s, Probation Officers, Pre-Trial Officers in different counties all have different anger management requirements to fulfill their needs for you. It is your responsibility to check with them and ask questions to what they will accept to fulfill your court requirements.

Some require:

DIRECTIONS:

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

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The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT CLASS IN ATLANTA

Character Development Class In Atlanta

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Atlanta Anger Management – Richard Taylor, BS, CAMF

Court Ordered Character Development Class

Call Richard at 678-576-1913 for information.

Often Court will tell you
number of hours needed.
Description: 16 group sessions,8 on will power
8 on self-discipline

Workbook Cost: $25.00

Class $30/hour

Call Richard at 678-576-1913 for information.

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

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