Father’s Day Drama – Focus On The Positives

With a large percentage of multiple parent families¹ these days being civil to all involved can be an exercise in restraint, taking the higher road, control of impulses and  using emotional intelligence.

Lesson today: Focus on Positives and being Kind.

Case Study: This weeks Father Day’s Aftermath News…

Denise Richards Had The Best Response To Charlie Sheen’s Angry Father’s Day Tweets

Charlie Sheen showed that he can still totally shock people when he took to Twitter during Father’s Day yesterday, targeting ex-wife Denise Richards and branding her ‘the worst mum alive’.

Luckily, Denise was taught to kill such nasty comments with kindness, and responded on her own Twitter in the best way possible.

Charlie, 49, went on something of a vile Twitter rant on Sunday, taking aim at his 44-year-old ex-wife (and the mother of two of his kids, 11-year-old Sam and 10-year-old Lola), writing: “Brooke M is a sexy rok star whom I adore D Richards a heretic washed up piglet Shame pile Happy Father’s Day!!! [sic]”

Brooke M most likely refers to Brooke Mueller, his third ex-wife and the mother of his twin sons Bob and Max, who were once in Denise’s custody.

He wasn’t done there though, continuing on to add: “Cadre: On FD; Father’s Rights! I INSIST we devour the mendacity of these “kidnapping” D Richards “types” & bring justice to “us,”.“

He later seemed to clear up what he was referring to (sort of) in a “open letter to the media,” in which he hints that his anger stems from a conflict over money. Possibly.

The letter starts by saying: “Denise Richards is a shake down piece of s**t doosh phace & worst mom alive!”

The whole Twitlonger is removed along with his other tweets deleted.

Denise Response:
Happy Dad’s Day! @charliesheen have a great trip in Mexico! Kids were disappointed u weren’t here for it- Hey we’ll celebrate when u r back!

However, rather than fighting fire with fire, Denise had THE classiest response to the rant, tweeting simply to wish Charlie a Happy Father’s Day.

She wrote: “Happy Dad’s Day! @charliesheen have a great trip in Mexico! Kids were disappointed u weren’t here for it- Hey we’ll celebrate when u r back!”

Kill them with kindness, babes.

And Happy Fathers Day to all the dads including my own dad Irv! Best dad ever & an amazing Grandpa!

Yup ain’t that the truth https://t.co/5SZyosCvat

She later tweeted another message to all the other amazing dads in the world, before retweeting a Twitter user’s inspirational message about not letting negativity get you down.

YAAAAAS

Other Twitter users were ready to show the actress a ton of support following her message, with Louise Mensch writing: “classy and classic burn, sis.”

Source: http://rachelannepilcher.tumblr.com/post/122156541802/denise-richards-had-the-best-response-to-charlie

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ADVICE: If you cannot control your impulses you should not use Social Media. See first Episode of HBO “Ballers” starring Dwayne Johnson on Sunday nights. Advice he gives to one of the characters who destroys his career with impulse control issues.

Denise Richards teaches us to focus on the Positives and being Kind. You cannot control another but you can CHOOSE to control yourself. As I say, “Another’s person’s chaos is theirs, not yours.” Remain neutral and do not get sucked in.” It is called maintaining your boundaries.

Anger Management awareness has increased since the first movie “Anger Management”
and Charlie’s Sheen’s TV series “Anger Management”. Those of us who coach Anger Management appreciate this increased awareness. There is a real need for true research based Anger Management practices to help people control their emotions.

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Anger Is An Emotion

DO I NEED ANGER MANAGEMENT? Answer YES to any of these and you need help managing your anger or rage so you do not destroy your life. ANGER IS A PROBLEM: • When it occurs too frequently • When it is too intense • When it lasts too long for days • When it leads to health issues – heart disease, GI issues, stress attacks and anxiety • When it destroys relationships: personal life, at work and expressed in public • When it results in person-directed aggression: verbal abuse or physical abuse Blow up with little provocation Yell when you are angry Curse when you are angry Damage property Hurt yourself when angry Hit or slap others when angry Humiliate others Poor loser Always have to be right Your siblings are angry people Family relationships are no longer pursued I like being alone I dream of being alone I use work so you do not have to deal with your partner I never rest, I feel I have to be busy all the time I am a perfectionist Low Frustration Tolerance Extremely fast to express yourself without any thought of outcome I find little pleasure in simple things anymore I drink to mask my discomfort; to “feel better” I smoke pot to “feel better” Intimate relationships have always been very volatile I prefer to isolate myself from others I like long distant relationship to enjoy my freedom I like long distant relationship to prevent deep intimacy ties I prefer to not feel I get angry while driving I get angry while playing sports I am a angry golfer I have difficulty accepting criticism I get defensive in conversations I am inattentive while listening I am impatient while listening I prefer to talk rather than listen I interupt every conversation I redirect conversation to my talking points I like to give advice to everyone I like to be right I like pain so hurt myself I have violent dreams often I have violent day dreams or fantasies often I think about “pay backs” and getting even often I think about shooting someone often I feel trapped by my life Life sucks then you die I watch hours of TV to pass the time I sleep all the time Conversations become debates or arguments frequently I end relationships often I can’t keep a job I move a lot I do not maintain family ties I admit I am angry People tell me I need anger management   Call Richard Taylor at 678.576.1913 for help. COUPLE CONFLICT MANAGEMENT HELP TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS 25 Ways to Tell if Your Relationship is Toxic   1) □ Your partner puts you down verbally, in private or in front of others. 2) □ Your partner tells you he/she loves you but behavior shows otherwise. 3) □ Your partner doesn’t want you to see or talk to friends or family. 4) □ Your partner is jealous of the time you spend with your kids. 5) □ Your partner shows up often at your work unexpectedly or opens your mail. 6) □ Your partner calls you often to see what you are doing. 7) □ You cry often or feel depressed over your relationship. 8) □ Your partner says you would have the perfect relationship if only you would change. 9) □ Your partner wants you to be dependent on him. 10) □ Your partner does things for you and then uses them to make you feel obligated. 11) □ Your thoughts, opinions, accomplishments, or words are devalued. 12) □ You don’t know who you are anymore without him/her, or how you would survive. 13) □ Your friends/family don’t like your partner or don’t think he is good for you. 14) □ You have changed things about yourself to suit your partner, even when it is not your taste. 15) □ You always go where your partner wants to, like movies, restaurants, etc. 16) □ Your partner has made you feel afraid or unsafe, and you have been afraid to speak the truth at times for fear of upsetting him/her (walking on eggshells). 17) □ You don’t feel you have control of your life anymore. 18) □ Your self-esteem is lower since you’ve been with your partner. 19) □ You think it’s up to you to make the relationship work. 20) □ You keep secrets about your relationship from others who love you because they wouldn’t understand. 21) □ Your partner makes you feel unattractive or stupid. 22) □ Your partner accuses you of cheating and is overly jealous. 23) □ Your partner can be really sweet to you one minute, and really mean the next. 24) □ Your partner seems really sweet/loving to you when he/she thinks you are about to leave the relationship, or after he/she has been mean to you. 25) □ You can’t remember the last time you felt happy for more than a few days straight.   Many people are in relationships that are unhealthy. When a person is in the middle of this relationship, it is often difficult to see how detrimental the relationship is to his or her self-esteem. Others may tell you that your partner is not “good for you” or that they can’t understand “why you don’t leave.” Your partner may be a good provider, a good father, and at times, loving and kind to you. However, there are other times when you are left feeling alone, afraid, or upset and don’t understand what is going on. Dr. Lillian Glass, author of Toxic People, describes a toxic person as “anyone who manages to drag you down, make you feel angry, worn out, deflated, belittled or confused.” It may be difficult for people to admit they are in a toxic relationship, because they are intelligent, self-sufficient individuals in other aspects of their lives. Most people in toxic relationships, however, have the sense that something is just not right. By Kathy Reed O’Gorman If you need help with your relationship, talk to a friend or family member, a clergyman, an anger management provider. Call Richard Taylor at 678.576.1913 at Atlanta Anger Management to set up appointment. If you are in danger, help is available at The National Domestic Violence Hotline, (800) 799-SAFE, where someone can put you in touch with battered women’s shelters and other resources. Remember, no one can take care of you as well as YOU can. Get the help you need.

More resources http://www.newliving.com/issues/dec_2003/articles/toxic%20relationships.html http://www.gerzon.com/resources/getting_out.html 2010 © Associated Content, All rights reserved.

 

Takeaways

You don’t have to be physical abused to be in an unhealthy relationship.

Some relationships are toxic, so unhealthy they can seriously affect one’s self-esteem.

Toxic partners can be very loving and giving at times.

Call Richard Taylor owner and chief facilitator at 678.576.1913 for immediate help and start getting on the right track for better living.

Richard’s one of a kind sense of humor will help you lighten up.

Anger Management is not counseling. It is education based and actually enjoyable.

Attend individually, and/or as a couple.

Use Private Sessions or Anger Management Classes.

What Is Anger Management?

Call right now and make a change. Anger does not go away on it’s own as you know.

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REMINDER: Focus on Positives, practice kindness, attitude of gratitude, acceptance,
move from a reactive impulse driven emotional style to a choice based slower neutral or nice response style. This is Anger Management/Emotional Intelligence development!

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References
¹ Less than half (46%) of U.S. kids younger than 18 years of age are living in a home with two married heterosexual parents in their first marriage. This is a marked change from 1960, when 73% of children fit this description, and 1980, when 61% did, according to a Pew Research Center analysis of recently-released American Community Survey (ACS) and Decennial Census data.
http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/12/22/less-than-half-of-u-s-kids-today-live-in-a-traditional-family/