ANGER MANAGEMENT – WHAT IS IT

Anger Management  – What Is It?

ATLANTA ANGER MANAGEMENT

Anger Management is a course of treatment that seeks to help people whose anger emotion is causing negative problems in their personal, business or public life.

Anderson & Anderson’s Certified Anger Management Facilitators are influencing how anger management is practiced throughout the United States. Anger Management has moved from the basic idea of management of anger to a broader understanding of the relationship between anger, stress, communication, self-awareness, social awareness, impulse control, optimism, decision making, self-perception, flexibility and relationship management. This provides the client with self understanding (awareness), learning to control one’s emotions, social awareness for better interactions and more productive relationship management. 1

In most cases reduced recidivism is also achieved.

Professionally Certified Anger Management Facilitators (CAMF) take an active interest is specializing in understanding anger and all of it’s ramifications. Anger Management is not psychotherapy. Anger Management is psycho-education and a highly personalized form of treatment.

Anger Management does not seek to help those in need of counseling to find ways of avoiding their anger altogether. According to the American Psychiatric Association, anger is a normal human emotion. It is not a mental disorder, consequently it is not responsive to traditional counseling, psychotherapy or psychotropic medication. Additionally anger is not listed in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) DSM-IV-TR. 3

Anger is exemplified by anger outbursts or tempers that flair out of proportion to the causing stimuli or situation. Anger can be aggressive as in verbal or physical abuse but also passive as in emotional blackmail, negative control issues, silent treatment etc. The individual experiencing anger often lashes out against family members, friends, acquaintances coworkers, even strangers.

Anger is a problem under the following circumstances: 2

• When it occurs too frequently
• When it is too intense
• When it lasts too long
• When it leads to health issues
• When it destroys interpersonal relationships: personal, work and public
• When it results in person-directed aggression: verbal or physical abuse

Anger can be managed using skills/tools that can be learned through a course of proven Anger Management curriculum.

At Atlanta Anger Management, Atlanta, GA  Anger Management is offered:

 

Definitions:

Session (s): Meet in discrete private one on one Monday through Friday agreed upon time slot and individualize treatment plan. You receive an Action Plan (To Do List) that mobilizes you into changing your situation immediately. People around you will notice and things improve quickly.

Book Monday through Friday 8:00AM to 5:00PM | Monday 8:00AM to 10:00PM

Group Class / Class: Join a group of other people usually from 2-7 people and use an anger management workbook to learn the Anderson and Anderson™ four Anchors for change and life skills to better/change your life. Some conversation results from topics.
You can join an open class at any time. This is like attending a Self Improvement Class / Seminar. It is best if you can attend 8 Hours of Class Time to receive the main content so you can actually use all the material in a combined approach for lasting change.

Anger Management Class Schedule:
Tuesday Anger Management Classes
Wednesday Anger Management Classes
Thursday Anger Management Classes
Saturday Anger Management Classes

Accelerated / Intensive: A Monday through Friday usually 8 Hour Private One On One Session. Combines Individual Session Concepts and help with Workbook Structure.
Most often Corporate Sponsored or when Individual is going to jail and needs it right now.

Book Monday through Friday. Any number of hours needed. Inquire. 678.576.1913

VIP Concierge Service – We come to you. One on One private discrete Sessions.
Any length of time you want. Individual, Couples, Family, Teens, Corporate. Seminars.

Disruptive Physicians handled personally by Mr. George Anderson  ( Brentwood, CA)

VIP Concierge Anger Management Coaching Services Worldwide.
Harstfield – Jackson International Airport – Busiest Passenger Airport In World – Affordable Flights Everyday.
Certified In All 50 US States and Accepted By All Courts.

 Seminars – Group Classes for 2 or more people.
 
 

Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management teaches core life skills in the following domains:

• Self Observing Self
• Anger Awareness and Anger Management
• Stress Awareness and Stress Management
• Improved Communication through Assertion Training & Active Listening
• Emotional Intelligence:
self-awareness, self control, social awareness and relationship management
• Relationship Management
• Cognitive Restructuring
• Learning to Respond To Another Person’s Anger
• Optimism and Gratitude

The first step is to call Richard at 678-576-1913 and we get to know one another. It is usually fairly brief but provides you the opportunity to discuss current situation and what some of the issues are.

Atlanta Anger Management work with Individuals, Companies, Corporations, City and Federal Government Institutions, Schools, Colleges and Universities, Health Care Companies in designing classes or group seminar programs in Anger Management, Stress Management, Improved Communication Styles, Couples Conflict Management, Rage Management, and Emotional Intelligence.

NOTE: NO INSURANCE IS ACCEPTED.

Anger is not listed in The Diagnostic & Statistical Manual of Nervous and Mental Disorders (DSM IV). Anger is a normal human emotion, which is a problem when it is too intense, occurs too frequently, lasts too long, has health implications, impacts interpersonal relationships or leads to person-directed aggression or violence. 3

Therefore anger is not considered a Psychological Disorder by either the American Psychiatric Association or the American Psychological Association in the way that depression or schizophrenia are, therefore services cannot be billed to client’s health insurance.

CONTACT:

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

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References:

1. https://www.andersonservices.com/blog/

2. https://www.andersonservices.com/blog/

3. https://www.andersonservices.com/blog/

SATURDAY ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASS FEBRUARY SCHEDULE ANNOUNCED

Saturday Anger Management Class Schedule 

ATLANTA ANGER MANAGEMENT

Saturday Anger Management Class Schedule
Georgia State Approved.

 Call Richard at 678-576-1913 to enroll and reserve a seat for free.

Judges, Solicitor General’s, Probation Officers, PreTrial Officers in different counties all have different anger management requirements to fulfill their needs for you. It is your responsibility to check with them and ask questions to what they will accept to fulfill your court requirements.

Check With Your Referring Party If They Will Accept A One Day Anger Management Course. If Not Attend a Tuesday or Wednesday Evening Class. or Thursday Evening Class.

  • All Payments Non Refundable.
  • Call your contact and ask what they will accept/require.

Limited Seating. Call to reserve your chair!

We sit around a conference table and learn principles of better relationships learning about anger, stress, communication styles and emotional intelligence. All to improve your reactions to anger and stress producing activating events. DVD’s and Videotapes also watched.

You are treated with respect.

Come join a select few who want the best anger management program [ Anderson and Anderson™ ] on the planet with a facilitator who is engaging, funny, gifted storyteller, and teacher.

Besides getting your Court Ordered needed Certificate of Completion you also learn something! Get your money’s worth!

Court Ordered Participants Usually Require 8 Hours Or More Of Classes.

People needing six hours can also attend for 6 hours $180.00

Call Richard Taylor To Discuss. 678-576-1913


WHAT YOU RECEIVE:

A.) All documents to relieve you of your case requirements.

B.) Certificate Of Completion Offered For All Who Complete The Class hand signed by our Certified Facilitator and Corporate Seal.

C.) Letter Of Completion Addressed To Your Referring Party With All Your Case Particulars, Completion of # of Hours Required, Explains Our Methodology, and who we are.

D.) Work Book of Class Topics

E.) You receive a model of Anger Management with tools/methods that actually work. When used they will improve your interpersonal relationships in your personal, business and public life. You will be able to reduce your reaction to anger triggering events to more appropriate responses that enhance your life.

F.) Complimentary Designer Coffee, Hot Tea, Hot Chocolate, Cappuccino, Filtered Water
OK To Bring Your Own or Snacks

G.) Free Safe Parking, Building has 24/7 Security

Call 678-576-1913 to join a class. No Drop Ins.

DIRECTIONS

CONTACT

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in: http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD – ANGER MANAGEMENT – ATLANTA

Be Impeccable With Your Word

Be Impeccable with Your Word is the first of The Four Agreements 2 developed by Don Miguel Ruiz.1

Expressing yourself impeccably is to express yourself in the direction of truth and love. This includes expressing love, respect, and acceptance for yourself.

It is to say what you mean. Do what you say. To live up to your core values and do not violate them.

We should consider our Word to be much more than the words and phrases that we speak. Our words came from our thoughts that come from our beliefs in how the world works, evolved from our socialization process and life experience. So our Word reflects our beliefs, attitude, our cognitive distortions, our emotions, become our words, and resulting physical actions in the things we do.

If we increase our awareness of ourselves, the first step towards growth we start to pay attention to what we believe, think and the words we speak.

Do we do what we say? No? Why?

In my own experience I have people every week who call and set up an appointment for help with anger. We agree on a time and they know the cost. I call them to remind them of the appointment time. They confirm the appointment and then do not call or show up for the appointment. It seems to be more prevalent then people actually appearing for their appointment. Why is this? Today a lot of people do not do what they say. A simple text or phone call cancelling the appointment would be the grown up responsible action to do. People who  break this agreement (Be Impeccable) , do not respect themselves nor other people. They are unreliable people and this manifests in all their relationships. No wonder anger and broken troubled relationships are increasing.

The word fickle 3 comes to my mind. Often people who need real help in Anger Management often are fickle. Old English version says they are deceitful. Not trustworthy.

fick·le  (fkl)

adj.

Characterized by erratic changeableness or instability, especially with regard to affections or attachments; capricious.


[Middle English fikel, from Old English ficol, deceitful.]


fickle·ness n.

fickly adv.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.


fickle [ˈfɪkəl]

adj

changeable in purpose, affections, etc.; capricious

[Old English ficol deceitful; related to fician to wheedle, befician to deceive]

fickleness  n

Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003

ThesaurusLegend:  Synonyms Related Words Antonyms

Adj. 1. fickle – marked by erratic changeableness in affections or attachments; “fickle friends”; “a flirt’s volatile affections”volatile

inconstant – likely to change frequently often without apparent or cogent reason; variable; “inconstant affections”; “an inconstant lover”; “swear not by…the inconstant moon”- Shakespeare

2. fickle – liable to sudden unpredictable change; “erratic behavior”; “fickle weather”; “mercurial twists of temperament”; “a quicksilver character, cool and willful at one moment, utterly fragile the next”erraticmercurialquicksilver

changefulchangeable – such that alteration is possible; having a marked tendency to change; ” “changeable moods”

Based on WordNet 3.0, Farlex clipart collection. © 2003-2012 Princeton University, Farlex Inc.

Self Awareness

Question to ask yourself:

  • Are you good to your Word?
  • Do you do what you say?
  • Do you live up to your core values?
  • Do you respect other people time and affections?
  • Are you reliable?
  • Are you trustworthy?
  • Do you have integrity?

If you answered “No” to any of these above questions, embrace Self Awareness and embrace Be Impeccable to Your Word and change for the better. Work towards truth and love.

These traits seems to be lacking in many people today.

To Be Impeccable with Your Word isn’t as simple as it might seem. Exploring the meaning of this first agreement your understanding of it will expand. Your self-awareness ( a key to personal growth) begins with paying attention to each moment of the day as it unfolds. This is called Mindfulness. You notice your thoughts that used to go unnoticed. You notice your comments that seemed you represent as true but notice they are not based on facts or faith you just copied something your read, heard on TV or YouTube. You notice that some of what you say is really personal beliefs not rooted in truth or love. You become aware of your subtle thoughts, beliefs, words, actions, and expressions of the day. Compared with this agreement Be Impeccable with Your Word things become more challenging than one originally imagined.

To master being impeccable requires that you heighten your awareness not just:

  • The words you say
  • The emotions you express
  • Your attitude
  • Your actions
  • Why you express the power of your belief and where it came from

You will need to develop a discipline of mindfulness to be impeccable in these expressional modes throughout the day.

Looking at emotions that bring up “negative” feelings in us: 4
  • jealousy
  • envy
  • frustration
  • sadness
  • anger
  • anxiety
  • fear
  • sorrow
  • disrespected (dissed)
  • offended
  • disgust
  • hate
  • grief
  • shame
  • embarrassed
  • panic
  • nervousness
  • insulted
  • humiliated
  • isolated
  • defeated
  • hopeless
  • grouchiness
  • moodiness
  • feeling misunderstood
  • isolation
  • alone
  • abandoned
  • self rejection
  • mad
  • enraged

While the feelings are what we feel, often being filtered though our Cognitive Distortions that are not rooted in truth and love. They are what we fall into without discernment. We react to stimuli, to events, to people, to things, and quickly let these “negative” unpleasant feeling wash over us. Many embrace them for days, for weeks, for a life time. Feeling Depressed? You let a feeling or many take a home in you instead of flowing through you as you should.

A key to good Emotional Health is to let our feeling flow through us. They are just a feeling and we observe them, we stay with them, embrace them, even if unpleasant. But they have a time and we let them go and move unto the next feeling. If we focus our attention to a positive experience, a positive thought, and positive action then they will replace the negative.

INCREASE THE POSITIVES

Positive always win over negative. Light always dispels the darkness. Truth always triumphants over lies.  The Sun will shine another day.

  • You can create and change how you feel emotionally by generating emotions, and then you feel them.
  • You can create dynamics of respect in relationship by being silent and active listening attentively.
  • Refrain from emotional reactions can create a different experience for yourself and others.
  • Express caring, compassion, appreciation in the activity of your actions.
  • Create a new different self image by new and different positive thoughts. New research shows it rewires your brain. You must implant the positive with 10-30 seconds of intentional focus. This helps the brain “remember”.

Being Impeccable To Your Word can be expressed in many ways in each moment that forms your day. ½ a day at a time. Being Present in the Moment. Being Mindful. This moment is what we have right now. The past is gone. The future, we can only hope for. It may never come. Death cannot be negotiated with. Live in the Present Moment to relieve suffering.

Silence can be Impeccable

Silence is an expression. And sometimes silence and refrain says a lot more than words can. Your actions are a part of how you create. Silence with good feelings is a positive. Silence with contempt is negative and not being impeccable. Active Listening with compassion goes a long way toward relationship building. Learn to not argue or quarrel.

Saying Sorry

Saying you are sorry is Being Impeccable To Your Word. It moves toward truth, love and forgiveness.

Fear – Anxiety – Panic

 

Fear – Anxiety – Panic are “negative emotions” that do not enhance life, they take energy away from us. They dehabilitate us. They render us ineffective.

Examples:

  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Death
  • Fear of Rejection
  • Fear of Ridicule
  • Fear of Loneliness
  • Fear of Misery – Poverty
  • Fear of Disappointment  – Ourselves vs. Others
  • Fear of Pain
  • Fear of The Unknown
  • Fear of Losing Your Freedom
  • Fear of Dating
  • Fear of Public Speaking
  • Fear of Success

Fear, Anxiety, Panic hold you back and are not being Impeccable.

When you experience Fear, Anxiety or Panic notice it. Embrace it. If you can stay with the feeling like diving into a deep swimming pool, swim to the bottom and be with the feeling. If you can stay with it without addictions like alcohol, drugs or other crutches it will ease. Peace will come. You can let it go. You make a choice to let it go. It goes. Then decide for a positive thought, a positive action and stay with that. Let that hold. Embrace it for as long as you can. Rewire you brain for the positive. Fear Anxiety or Panic will lessen and go elsewhere. Embrace Love. Fear and Love cannot exist side by side in you.

To Be Impeccable with Your Word is an art requiring constant vigilance with active awareness. You begin today and master over a lifetime of work. Some never master it.

It is in the trying, in the consistent practice to master our emotional expression, master our beliefs, master our thoughts, master our words and master our actions that we change into a person with Integrity, Character, Virtue, Truth and Love.

We become Impeccable.

Why not start today?

Result: Your life will become a masterpiece of beauty, grace, happiness and love.

The Four Agreements – 15th Anniversary Illustrated Edition 5

“Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are the ones we make with ourselves. In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible. One single agreement is not such a problem, but we have many agreements that come from fear, deplete our energy, and diminish our self-worth.”

“In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible.”

In this powerful book that has remained on The New York Times Bestseller List for over eight years, don Miguel reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. When we are ready to change these agreements, there are four deceptively simple, yet powerful agreements that we can adopt as guiding principles. The Four Agreements® offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

The Four Agreements are:

Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don’t Take Anything Personally
Don’t Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best

CONTACT

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

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References:

1. Don Miguel Ruiz Website: http://www.miguelruiz.com/index.php

2. The Four Agreements Amazon

3. Fickle The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003

Based on WordNet 3.0, Farlex clipart collection. © 2003-2012 Princeton University, Farlex Inc.

4.  Emotions    http://atlantaangermanagement.com/anger.htm

5.  The Four Agreements – 15th Anniversary Illustrated Edition

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE SERIES II

Emotional Intelligence – What is it anyway?

Emotional Intelligence Series – Part II

Continuing this Emotional Intelligence Series,  I wanted to get more into “What is Emotional Intelligence.”

Links to Series below:

Emotional Intelligence Series – Part I
Emotional Intelligence Series – Part II

In Part I, I mentioned this is not a complete definitive article on Emotional Intelligence [ EI ] as that would be overwhelming and not serve the purpose I seek; namely to bring the term Emotional Intelligence [ EI ] and it meaning and it’s application in a more understandable way to the “normal” person interested or having to take court ordered/employer mandated course/class.

To keep things really simple, I like to open with the term Emotional Intelligence as saying “Lets reverse the words to Intelligence With Our Emotions”.

Many of us live in a reactive world to other people, events, situations, our own beliefs and therefore our emotions are highly experienced and expressed without a moment of thought or internal interaction. We simply react to stimuli.

If we observe animals, like our pet dog, we see how it inter-reacts to other dogs while walking it in the park, runners, children, smells, watching TV, etc. Our dog reacts. We often understand it dog’s nature, Dogs bark. Some people try to make their dog “behave” and not bark. They apply Behavior Training so their dog learns more “acceptable” ways of being at the park and at home in the backyard. Some dogs bark at everything others seem better suited to go along smelling, walking and doing their business. Some of this may have to do with the dog’s breed, some the pet owner and their vibes/beliefs, tolerance for the dog’s behavior, perhaps training.

We as human beings have a larger brain and have the ability to perceive more. Both in an IQ (Intelligence Quotient) analytical left brain sort of way and also on an Emotional level (Emotional Intelligence) right brain sort of way.

For example: Some of us are able to “read” people’s expressions, eye movements / eye expression and body positions / language to sense what they are saying….it adds clues to whether we “think” …”Are they are telling the truth?”…whether we are to “believe” that what they are saying is believable and therefore acceptable and true. We accept and discard the conversation and often the person too. So this ability can be also be called “common sense” or “street smarts”.

Most of us have some idea about those two terms called “common sense” or “street smarts”. We laugh and say the 21st Century person has lost that, hence all the online forums asking the most trivial questions, Facebook, the Call In Radio Shows, the Call In TV Shows, Reality TV, older newspaper columns handling such questions. People are very interested in what others think about their situation and what to best do about it. Most people do not look for inner wisdom or guidance from the quiet within.

On the other hand there are people with “Common Sense or Street Smarts” who do pretty well to very well in their lives, many without any or less than the best education. Why is this? They have a “knowing” to how things work and “work it.” This is a component of what is now called the field of Emotional-Social Intelligence. Fancy term for what many of us already know. But what about the others? What about you who think you know what is going on but find yourself reprimanded by the court system, your spouse, your family member, your employer. Are they just plain wrong? Or is there something more to be open to and learn and grow?

Is it possible to grow and learn about this interesting field of emotions?

I firmly believe there is! Emotions are complex and as we start to pay attention to ourselves we start to know who and what we are. Self knowledge often takes a life time of devotion and work. Who really are we as a person,  an individual? We do we accept/reject? Why?

Most people accept we are complex beings (called human beings) and that we are made up of three to four components or layers/levels.

  • Physical Level
  • Mental Level
  • Emotional Level
  • and overlooked/disputed: Spiritual Level
4 Domains

4 Domains

Most people have a hard time balancing all three or four levels. Since I believe in the Spiritual and most people believe in some kind of Higher Power let’s call it four levels or domains.

The two most overlooked as you can acknowledge are the Emotional and Spiritual domains.

We will look at these four domains next. – Richard

Emotional Intelligence Assessment
Emotional Intelligence Coaching – Call 678-576-1913 to set up Individual Session.
Emotional Intelligence For Business
Books

Resources:

Daniel Goleman, PH.D 
Mayer-Salovey-Caruso Group
Reuven Bar-On

Richard Taylor BS, CAMF

Richard Taylor BS, CAMF

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

FOCUS – A KEY TO SELF CONTROL

FOCUS – Is one of the keys to self control and improved Social Intelligence.

Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management uses the Anderson and Anderson Contrasting Wheels of Behavior to help clients move quickly into more positive constructive relationship patterns.

Today we look at FOCUS or Paying Attention with Awareness.

Is your mind wandering?

The Practice

Pay attention.

Why?

Moment to moment, the flows of thoughts and feelings, sensations and desires, and conscious and unconscious processes sculpt your nervous system like water gradually carving furrows and eventually gullies on a hillside. Your brain is continually changing its structure. The only question is: Is it for better or worse?

In particular, because of what’s called “experience-dependent neuroplasticity,” whatever you hold in attention has a special power to change your brain. Attention is like a combination spotlight and vacuum cleaner: it illuminates what it rests upon and then sucks it into your brain – and your self.

Therefore, controlling your attention – becoming more able to place it where you want it and keep it there, and more able to pull it away from what’s bothersome or pointless (such as looping again and again through anxious preoccupations, mental grumbling, or self-criticism) – is the foundation of changing your brain, and thus your life, for the better.

As the great psychologist, William James, wrote over a century ago: “The education of attention would be the education par excellence.”

But to gain better control of attention – to become more mindful and more able to concentrate – we need to overcome a few challenges. In order to survive, our ancestors evolved to be stimulation-hungry and easily distracted, continually scanning their interior and their environment for opportunities and threats, carrots and sticks. There is also a natural range of temperament, from focused and cautious “turtles” to distractible and adventuresome “jackrabbits.” Upsetting experiences – especially traumatic ones – train the brain to be vigilant, with attention skittering from one thing to another. And modern culture makes us accustomed to an intense incoming fire hose of stimuli, so anything less – like the sensations of simply breathing – can feel unrewarding, boring, or frustrating.

To overcome these challenges, it’s useful to cultivate some neural factors of attention – in effect, getting your brain on your side to help you get a better grip on this spotlight/vacuum cleaner.

How?

You can use one or more of the seven factors below at the start of any deliberate focusing of attention – from keeping your head in a dull business meeting to contemplative practices such as meditation or prayer – and then let them move to the background as you shift into whatever the activity is.

You can also draw upon one or more during the activity if your attention is flagging. They are listed in an order that makes sense to me, but you can vary the sequence. (There’s more information about attention, mindfulness, concentration, and contemplative absorption inBuddha’s Brain.)

7 Things To Help Keep Focus:

1.  Set the intention to sustain your attention, to be mindful. You can do this both top-down, by giving yourself a gentle instruction to be attentive, and bottom-up, by opening to the sense in your body of what mindfulness feels like.

2.  Relax. Use Conscious Breathing. For example, take several exhalations that are twice as long as your inhalations. This stimulates the calming, centering parasympathetic nervous system and settles down the fight-or-flight stress-response sympathetic nervous system that jiggles the spotlight of attention this way and that, looking for carrots and sticks.

3.  Without straining at it, think of things that help you feel cared about – that you matter to someone, that you belong in a relationship or group, that you are seen and appreciated, or even cherished and loved. It’s OK if the relationship isn’t perfect, or that you bring to mind people from the past, or pets, or spiritual beings. You could also get a sense of your own goodwill for others, your own compassion, kindness, and love. Warming up the heart in this way helps you feel protected, and it brings a rewarding juiciness to the moment – which support #4 and #5 below.

4.  Think of things that help you feel safer, and thus more able to rest attention on your activities, rather than vigilantly scanning. Notice that you are likely in a relatively safe setting, with resources inside you to cope with whatever life brings. Let go of any unreasonable anxiety, any unnecessary guarding or bracing.

5.  Gently encourage some positive feelings, even mild or subtle ones. For example, think of something you feel glad about or grateful for; go-to’s for me include my kids, Yosemite, and just being alive. Open as you can to an underlying sense of well-being that may nonetheless contain some struggles or pain. The sense of pleasure or reward in positive emotions increases the neurotransmitter, dopamine, which closes a kind of gate in the neural substrates of working memory, thus keeping out any “barbarians,” any invasive distractions.

6.  Get a sense of the body as a whole, its many sensations appearing together each moment in the boundless space of awareness. This sense of things as a unified gestalt, perceived within a large and panoramic perspective, activates networks on the sides of the brain (especially the right – for right-handed people) that support sustained mindfulness. And it de-activates the networks along the midline of the brain that we use when we’re lost in thought.

7.  For 10-20-30 seconds in a row, stay with whatever positive experiences you’re having or lessons you’re learning. Since “neurons that fire together, wire together,” this savoring and registering helps weave the fruits of your attentive efforts into the fabric of your brain and your self. [You change.]

by

Rick Hanson, Ph.D.
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Used With Permission

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE & ANGER MANAGEMENT go hand in hand.
First Step: Self Awareness
Second Step: Self Control
Third Step: Social Intelligence & Awareness
Fourth Step: Relationship Management

FOCUS – Using Mindful Attention To What We Are Doing is key to rewire the brain
to become more (slower) responsive then caveman fight, flight, freeze instant reactivity.

My Suggestion:

1. Stop Multi-Tasking when you can.

2. Turn off TV and Radio when you can. Embrace silence.

3. Silence allows us to hear our inner brain (ego) chatter.

4. Catch Negative thoughts. Change them to Positive thoughts. Click -> Change the channel! Called: 3 C’s -> Catch It. Check It. Change It.

5. Linger 10-20-30 seconds on these positive thoughts or experiences to rewire the brain.

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Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

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The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE SERIES I

Emotional Intelligence – What is it anyway?
 
Emotional Intelligence – Series Part I
 
The term “Emotional Intelligence” is used today as if “everyone” knew what the term means with all of its ramifications. As I introduce the term and concept in our Atlanta Anger Management, Anderson and Anderson™ , Anger Management Classes very few people have actually heard the term and know what it means.

This Emotional Intelligence Series will try to investigate the term and expand on its meaning and practical applications in everyday life. Join in the investigation if you have anything to add, ask, or correct.

“Emotional Intelligence” the term, was coined and formally defined by John (Jack) Mayer of the University of New Hampshire and Peter Salovey of Yale University in 1990.  1

They expanded on the concept by Howard Gardner (1983) while at Harvard University that multiple intelligences may exist in humans including an aptitude for introspection and “personal intelligence.”

Mayer and Salovey joined with their fellow colleague David Caruso to create a Emotional Intelligence (EQ) measuring instrument they named Mayer-Salovey-Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test (MSCEIT).

Also working in the field was Dr. Reuven Bar-On and by 1985 developed the concept of Emotional Quotient (EQ). He believed that our intelligence was made up both IQ but also of overlapping distinct attitudes and skills that he later defined into an instrument for measurement he called Emotional Quotient Inventory or for short EQ-i®

Of course there were many others all working separately on different concepts related to intelligence other than Intelligence Quotient (IQ). IQ had already been accepted and used in schools in many countries to measure students cognitive or rational aptitudes to determine “how smart” they were.

NOTE: This article is not a complete history of Emotional Intelligence. It is to open up the term to the “public” everyday person, so this portion is brief to keep things moving.

Daniel Jay Goleman is an author, psychologist, and science journalist who was writing for The New York Times (12 years) specializing in psychology and brain sciences. He studied and complied years worth of research in the field of psychological functioning and personal skills and in 1995 authored the book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. 2

As they say, “the rest is history”. The book was on the New York Times Best Sellers list for more than 1 1/2 years explaining that Emotional Intelligence existed with lots of research to back up the premise that EQ often is more important to the individual than one’s IQ as a determining factor for success in life.

There was a time when IQ was considered the leading determinant of success. In this fascinating book, based on brain and behavioral research, Daniel Goleman argues that our IQ-idolizing view of intelligence is far too narrow. Instead, Goleman makes the case for “emotional intelligence” being the strongest indicator of human success.  He defines emotional intelligence in terms of self-awareness, altruism,  personal motivation, empathy, and the ability to love and be loved by
friends, partners, and family members. People who possess high emotional  intelligence are the people who truly succeed in work as well as play, building flourishing careers and lasting, meaningful relationships. Because emotional intelligence isn’t fixed at birth, Goleman outlines how adults as well as parents of young children can sow the seeds. 3

So Mr. Goleman defines a set of skills: self-awareness, including control of one’s impulses, self-motivation, empathy and social competence in interpersonal relationships that determine one’s effectiveness in negotiating life.

Peter Salovey and Jack Mayer describe Emotional Intelligence as “the ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional meanings, and to reflectively regulate emotions in a way that promote emotional and intellectual growth.” 4

For people who need anger management, Emotional Intelligence is a key in learning to increase self-awareness and control one’s impulses along with many other skill sets that we will be looking at in the upcoming article series.
 

Next in series (II)
 
Emotional Intelligence – What is it anyway? Part Two

 

George Anderson of Anderson and Anderson is a pioneer in the field of Anger Management and has Emotional Intelligence as one of the key four “anchors’ of his model of anger management curriculum. He now has become one of the forerunners in using Emotional Intelligence testing instruments such as the Bar-On EQ-i 2.0 to help determine an individual’s strengths and weaknesses in Emotional Intelligence and provides coaching to help improve deficient areas. All Anderson and Anderson™ Certified Anger Management Providers (CAMF) are now trained in administering the Bar-On EQ-i 2.0 through Anderson and Anderson™ .

Mr. George Anderson also uses it in his Disruptive Physicians work.
 
Richard Taylor also offers Emotional Intelligence coaching in Atlanta to the public
and can fly to your location or do phone/Skype consults for Individuals – Attorneys – Business – Corporations –  Government – Universities & Colleges – Hospital Staff (not Physicians).
 
CONTACT:
 
Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in: http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Trusted Name In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence
 
 
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1. P. Salovey and J.D. Mayer, “Emotional Intelligence”, Imagination, Cognition, and Personality, 9 (1990): 185-211.

2. Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ (New York: Bantam, (1995)

3. Amazon.com Review
Source: http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-Matter-More-Than/dp/055338371X

4. J.D. Mayer, P. Salovery, and D. Caruso, Mayer-Salovey-Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test (MSCIET) User’s Manual (Toronto: Multi-Health Systems, 2002).

Attorney Anger Help

Attorney Anger Help

Attorneys are often under high pressure to produce and win cases.

In large law firms there often are many office dynamics that can lead to anger, in office outbursts and general feelings of discord. Court Proceedings, Case Outcomes, People and Situations all lead to frequent anger feelings and resulting “without thinking” behaviors.

If you are an attorney and currently experiencing anger at home, in the work place or even out in public or while driving, common sense would tell you, it is best to do something about it before it brings you down a destructive path.

Atlanta Anger Management can help. We are Atlanta’s #1 choice for anger, rage and conflict help.

Atlanta Anger Management is a Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Provider. The trusted name in Anger Management and Emotional Intelligence Education and Training.

We offer the Bar On EQ-I 2.0 Assessment that can be accessed 24/7 from your own computer.

Cost:
A.) EQ-I 2.0 Assessment with Assessment Report emailed to you. $150.00
B.) EQ-I 2.0 Assessment with Assessment Report emailed to you with 3 Hour Follow-Up Debrief Coaching $600.00 (In Person or Over Phone, Skype)

The Bar On EQ-i2.0 Assessment Instrument measures
the client’s level of functioning in 15 areas:

EQ-i 2.0 Emotional Intelligence Model

EQ-i 2.0 Emotional Intelligence Model

  • Emotional Self Awareness
  • Self Actualization
  • Self Regard
  • Independence
  • Assertiveness
  • Emotional Expression
  • Interpersonal Relationships
  • Empathy
  • Social Responsibility
  • Optimism
  • Stress Tolerance
  • Flexibility
  • Problem Solving
  • Reality Testing
  • Impulse Control
EQ-i 2.0 Scales

EQ-i 2.0 Scales

  • If further enhancement is warranted then Individual Coaching Sessions are best for specific work addressed to your areas of weakness and also enhancing your areas of strengths. Looking at your strengths is an important part of Coaching as this is why you are so successful to date.

This is a rather cheap investment in your self-development to help you attain peak performance and propel you further toward your goals.

Your peers will notice a difference in you, your spouse will notice, your children, judges, friends and you will notice too.

You simply e-mail with:

Your Full Legal Name
Address
City, State, Zip Code
Phone
E-mail Address

  • Note: That you would like to take the Bar On EQ-I 2.0 Assessment

You can pay using PayPal or call with Visa/MC/AMEX information.

Once you have paid, you will be e-mailed and invited to enter the Bar on EQ-i 2.0 website 24/7 and complete the 133 question assessment that will take about 13-25 minutes.

  • Once the Assessment is scored, you will receive your assessment results via email.
  • You will be impressed and excited learning new valuable insights and information provided by this assessment.
  • Sample Feedback Report
  • Clients feedback has been extremely positive and are appreciative for the insights.

Make a decision towards helping yourself through this period of angry feelings.

E-mail today to get started.

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Of Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678.576.1913
Fax: 1.866.551.1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

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A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

The Bar On EQ-i 2.0 Emotional Intelligence Assessments Available at Atlanta Anger Management

The Bar On EQ-i 2.0 Emotional Intelligence Assessments are  available through Atlanta Anger Management.

As Anderson and Anderson™ Model Of Anger Management evolves so we in turn at Atlanta Anger Management do also as one of the premier Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Providers Nationally and in the US Southeast.

Over the last four years, Anderson & Anderson™ has moved closer to linking its’ anger management curricula to the Bar On EQ-i2.0 Emotional Intelligence Assessment and the concepts of EQ as articulated in The EQ Edge relative to the 15 scales that form the core of this instrument.

Anderson & Anderson™ will continue to influence and lead how Anger Management is practiced throughout the United States. Anger Management has moved from the management of anger to a broader understanding of the relationship between anger, stress, communication, self-awareness, social awareness, impulse control, optimism, decision making, self-perception, flexibility or relationship management.

Anderson & Anderson™ was one of the first major Anger Management Providers to push for a clear acknowledgement from the American Psychiatric Association that while anger may be a symptom of a range of health and mental health disorders, anger is not in itself a pathological condition and is not a listed illness in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) DSM-IV-TR. According to the American Psychiatric Association, anger is a normal human emotion that is experienced by everyone at some time.

This is important since it means that counseling, psychotherapy or psychotropic medication is not the intervention of choice for anger management. It allows anger to be defined as a problem when it is too intense, occurs too frequently, impacts health, lasts too long, destroys interpersonal relationships or leads to person-directed aggression.

All of the commonly recognized emotional intelligence concepts offer the best over all strategies for skill enhancement in impulse control. Coaching has increased the usefulness of Emotional Intelligence and made anger management far more acceptable to those seeking help.

Below is The Bar On EQ-i 2.0 Model For Emotional Intelligence Assessments that will be immediately available through Anderson and Anderson™ World headquarters and us here at Atlanta Anger Management to Coach you on it’s meaning for better skill development in areas of weakness and strengthening even more those areas you excel at.

 

Coaching For Skill Enhancement Extra and Quoted Once We Know Parameters.

You simply call Richard Taylor at 678-576-1913 with:

  • Your Full Legal Name
  • Address
  • City, State, Zip Code
  • Phone
  • E-mail Address
  • Visa/MC/AMEX information
  • You will be e-mailed and invited to enter the Bar on EQ-i 2.0 website 24/7 and complete the 133 question exam which will take 13-25 minutes.
  • Once the Assessment is scored, you will receive your assessment results via e-mail.
  • If wanted we provide a debriefing with  you on the results and what it means. Inquire for cost.
  • Coaching involves a custom designed action goals for you to enhance those areas of the assessment that need attention for improved performance.
  • You will be impressed and excited learning new valuable insights and information provided by this assessment.
  • Clients feedback has been extremely positive and they say it is worth the money.

This Bar On EQ-i2.0  Assessment of individuals (and small groups) can be completed on-line, twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. This is an excellent tool for use by HR Managers from any type of organization, EAP Managers, Organizational Development Professionals,  Attorney At Law that have clients needing an Assessment before proceeding in court.

This Bar On EQ-i2.0 is one of the latest, most effective instrument for assessing Emotional Intelligence competencies.

New Reseach
Research Digest

This section of the EI Consortium web site is intended to keep you updated with the latest research findings. We will be summarizing the latest research in the area of emotional intelligence in the workplace by providing you with abstracts of the latest articles from the literature. Each month we will be highlighting a different area from the scholarly literature on emotional intelligence. If you want research updates sent to you automatically, just sign up for our monthly newsletter.

Cherniss, C., Grimm, L.G., & Liautaud, J.P. (2010). Process-designed training: A new approach for helping leaders develop emotional and social competence. Journal of Management Development, 29(5), 413-431.

The purpose of this study was to evaluate the effectiveness of an EI leadership development program. The study was unique in utilizing a random assignment control group design. Participants were 162 managers from nine different companies. There were nine different groups with nine managers in each group. Each group was required to follow the identical process. Trained moderators led the groups during year 1, but during year 2 a group member served as moderator. The outcome measure was the Emotional Competence Inventory (ECI)(Bar On EQ Inventory 2.0), a multi-rater measure of social and emotional competencies. Outcome data were collected before the program started, one year later, and two years later. Results indicated that after two years the intervention group had improved more than the controls on all ECI variables. The study offers recommendations for future research on the mechanisms underlying the process-designed group strategy and contextual factors that optimize results. The main implication of the study is that leadership development based on a process-designed group strategy appears to be more economical and consistent in its delivery than more traditional approaches such as workshops or executive coaching.
Source: http://www.eiconsortium.org/

CONTACT

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in: http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

Emotional Intelligence For Couples In Conflict

Emotional Intelligence For Couples In Conflict

By Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF for Atlanta Anger Management

Couples who are experiencing relationship problems often have moved into angry feelings due to frequent exchanges of criticism, defensiveness, contempt, stonewalling and withdrawal. The relationship seems to be ‘stuck’ in a downward circle of destructive interactions.

Does this describe your relationship? Yes?  … Read on help is available.

Invest in a few 1.5 to 3 hour private couple sessions to get over this toxic way of existing.

Richard will help you by giving you an ACTION PLAN with each session specifically designed just for your issues.

Often these might include:

  • Behavior Reform Contracts
  • Language Reform Contracts
  • 24 Hour Anger Contract
  • List Of What Each Partner Needs And Wants
  • How To Fight Fair Instruction
  • Proper Time Out Methods
  • Learn What Emotional Intelligence Is
  • Using Emotional Intelligence For Better Choices And Outcomes
  • Changing Aggressive Anger Into Respectful Anger For Growth
  • Becoming Creative Partners Invested In Change
  • Move Into Early Relationship Patterns Again
  • Learn To Dialogue Better With Active Listening And Assertion Skills
  • Learn To Have Fun Again And Laugh Often
  • Learn Intimacy Building Skills For Core Strengthening Of The Relationship
  • Build Trust Again
  • Learn To Let The Past Go
  • Learn To Let Emotions Flow Through You Rather Than Days Of Negative Feelings
  • Take A Negative Feeling Word Assessment To ID Your Anger Triggers (Free)
  • Take A Cognitive Distortion Assessment (Free)
  • Take A Passive Aggressive Assessment (Free)
  • Optional: Anger Management Assessment For Each Couple $100.00
  • Learning Communication Styles For Better Emotional Intelligence Outcomes
  • Learn To Control Stress As It Is A Main Cause Of Anger Outbursts, Health Problems
  • Learn That Each Person Is Responsible For Your Present Lousy Relationship
  • End Blame
  • End Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, Stonewalling, And Withdrawal
  • Embrace Constructive Interactions
  • Embrace Change
  • Overcome Childhood ‘Programming’ And Choose A New Path To Healing
  • Learning To Choose Relationship Growth and Happiness
  • Learn To Control Yourself
  • Learn To be Empathetic and Compassionate
  • Become Unstuck and Excel At Intimate, Work, and Public Relationships
  • Learn To Become More Conscious
  • Learn To Balance 4 Domains: Emotional, Mental, Physical, Spiritual Realms
  • Learn To Be Selfless
  • Learn To Become Who You Want To Be
  • Be Coached By An Expert Trained In Anger, Rage, Stress, Emotional Intelligence, Communication, Growth and Couples Conflict Management

A thing to remember we do not offer counseling but rather psycho education to effect change. This is why it is much faster than traditional talk therapy. We focus on solutions, educational training, the positive to help couples change.

The Anderson & Anderson™ Anger Management Model includes Emotional Intelligence as one of its key components.

Please call Richard at 678-576-1913 to set up a couples session.

Hetero – Gay – Lesbian Couples

We suggest starting with a 1.5 hour session than move to a weekly one hour session. Many choose longer sessions to help move into “fixes” more quickly. The choice is yours and in a short time you will know when you are “done”. No pressure, no contracts. If both partners embrace your custom designed ACTION PLAN change will occur quickly.

more…

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the capacity to appropriately respond to emotional stimuli in a way which leads to positive outcomes in yourself and others. EQ is a learned ability to identity, experience, understand, and express human emotions in healthy and productive ways.

Emotional intelligence provided an intervention with a different set of skills which includes managing anger, stress, improving communication and emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence is a key component in the Anderson & Anderson™ Model of Anger Management Intervention used by Rev. Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management,
an Anderson and Anderson™ Certified Provider.

In contrast to IQ, which is the ability to manipulate objects and master precision learning, emotional intelligence can be changed, improved at any stage of life. In contrast, IQ remains stable over time and does not predict success in life or relationships.

Research by Goleman and others have shown that success in life and work is not determined by IQ but rather by emotional intelligence (EQ). The brightest students do not necessarily become the most successful.

The emotionally intelligent person is the one who is aware of his own feelings, moods, assets and limitations and is sensitive, empathic and compassionate to others. He or she has the capacity to actively listen to others, give feedback and positively influence others that lead to win – win situations.

By improving your emotional intelligence you will be better able to positively influence both your overall performance and well-being, and get incredible results from your relationships at work and life.

A growing body of research suggests:

  • Emotional Intelligence is a better predictor of success that the more traditional measures.
  • EQ may be the single most important factor in predicting success.
  • A person’s ability to perceive, identify, and manage their emotions provides the basis for the kinds of social and emotional competencies that are important for success in almost any job.
  • 20% of your success is contributed by your IQ.
  • 36% attributable to your emotional intelligence.
  • At least 90% of the difference between outstanding and average leaders is related to emotional intelligence.
  • Explains why some people excel while others of the same caliber lag behind.
  • Emotional intelligence is linked to important work-related outcomes such as individual performance and work related organizational productivity.
  • It is equally important when selecting the next generation of leaders.

Emotional Intelligence matters most in times of change.

It is a measure of your ability to recognize and manage your own feelings and those of other people (partners, family work related staff, colleagues and customers) to produce better results with win-win outcomes.

The skills taught in couples emotional intelligence coaching may include some or all of the following:

  • interpersonal awareness
  • self control
  • anger management
  • interpersonal assertion
  • listening skills
  • empathy, compassion
  • improving communication style for better outcomes
  • self-esteem
  • stress management
  • commitment
  • motivation
  • social awareness
  • flexibility
  • relationship management
  • problem solving – decision making
  • time management

How do issues like substance abuse, anger management and violence relate?

They are the result of unresolved conflicts relating to personal growth and a lack of knowledge about the process of making positive personal changes. Self-defeating and destructive living patterns are the result of learned behavior, any behavior which is learned can be unlearned.

When you work with other people, your relationship with them can really matter.

Using emotional intelligence is all about getting the most out of these relationships in ways that benefit everyone. Whenever you need to work with other people to deliver better outcomes, having the skills to work effectively with them will help you create a better solution and stronger relationships.

When you learn to recognize other’s emotions, you immediately begin to have greater empathy with them and to better connect with them.

Sometimes we respond to situations and people in ways that we may regret. It’s harder to rebuild bridges than it is to establish them. Using emotional intelligence allows you to develop strategies to respond to others comments, incidents and events that would normally push your emotional buttons.

It’s never easy to deal with conflict, but when you are aware of what drives conflict, you will be able to not just cope with the situation, but be able to diffuse the emotions that always accompanies conflict. When you know your own skills and abilities, you can focus on developing in areas that will benefit you most.

Here are some of the skills that can be developed through Emotional Intelligence:

  • Emotional Competency: constitutes the capacity to tactfully respond to emotional stimuli elicited by various situations, having high self-esteem and optimism, communication, tackling emotional upsets such as frustration, conflicts, inferiority complexes, enjoying emotions, doings what succeeds, ability to relate to others.
  • Emotional Maturity: constitutes evaluating your own emotions and those of others. The capacity to identity and express feelings. The ability to balance the state of your heart and mind. Being adaptable and flexible, appreciating another’s point of view, developing others, and delaying gratification of immediate psychological satisfaction.
  • Emotional Sensitivity: constitutes understanding the threshold of emotional arousal, managing the immediate environment, maintain rapport, harmony and comfort with others, letting others feel comfortable in your company while you feel comfortable in your own skin, empathy.
  • Couple Growth: learning how to help your partner feel heard, understood, helped, served, respected, valued and important. Learn to be emotionally sensitive, aware, optimistic, resilient, positive, and responsible. Learn to feel safe, trusted, special, needed, included, cooperative, focused, productive, and motivated.
  • Productivity: Reduce the lost time spent on conflict, turf-battles, defensiveness and insecurity.
  • Goal Setting: Determine ACTION PLAN that keeps promoting positive interactions for better outcomes. Further Sessions address adjusted goals to get to the expected finish line.

For information about training in Couples Emotional Intelligence and / or Couples Conflict Anger Management, please contact  Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF of Atlanta Anger Management in Atlanta, GA.

Please call Richard: 678-576-1913

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator™
Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in: http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

George Anderson Of Anderson and Anderson – Anger Management Guru

Quite Frankly George Anderson Is THE Anger Management Guru

Originally Posted on April 1, 2012 by Andrew Singer

What comes to mind when you think of anger management?

Some would describe anger management as a method to control one’s emotions.

Others, like me, would think of Jack Nicholson and Adam Sandler in the motion picture film Anger Management. A few years ago there was no right answer. Anger Management was just a term thrown around, and clearly, no one knew what it was. That was until George Anderson and his team of associates not only defined the term, but set the standard. Since then, Mr. Anderson and his team have never looked back.

Anger Management Movie Poster

Anger Management Movie Poster

Still never heard of Anderson and Anderson, eh?

The Anderson & Anderson program is internationally renowned, and, currently, they are the largest provider of certified Anger Management Facilitator training in the world.

George Anderson and his ideals have been featured in the New York Times, the Baltimore Sun News, the Toronto Sun News, ESPN, the Los Angeles Times Magazine, NBC’s Starting Over, the Chicago Tribune, Entertainment Weekly, the London Sunday Times, BBC, and many more.

Along with his lifetime of accolades, Mr. Anderson shed his knowledge on Hollywood when he served as a technical consultant on the well-known green lit film, Anger Management. By now I’m sure you are starting to see the big picture.

George Anderson

George Anderson

Some of L.A.’s most elite make the drive down Wilshire Boulevard to work with George, proving that the Anderson & Anderson business model is one of L.A.’s most untapped resources.

Affiliates of Anderson & Anderson are popping up all over the internet like chicken pox. Don’t believe me? Take a look for yourself. Currently there are over 75 web sites affiliated with the Anderson & Anderson business model and their merchandise.

Quietly, Mr. Anderson has become the godfather in a relatively uncharted industry. He has certified trainers mentored personally by himself all over the world, in countries like Argentina and London. Over time the business mogul of 12301 Wilshire Boulevard has set the bar as the most prominent anger management provider of the world, quite frankly in an industry that Mr. Anderson defined himself. So maybe next time when you think anger management, you will think Anderson & Anderson.

Andrew Singer
Intern
Anderson & Anderson, A.P.C.
Trusted Name in Anger Management

Richard Taylor Director and Owner of Atlanta Anger Management was personally
certified by George Anderson at the Anderson and Anderson World Headquarters in Brentwood, CA a suburb of Los Angeles, CA. Richard is one of George’s biggest fans and stays in touch with him by phone and e-mails.

Richard Taylor & George Anderson

Richard Taylor & George Anderson

Atlanta Anger Management  is the #1 Anderson and Anderson Certified Anger Management Provider in Atlanta, GA, possibly the Southeast.

Phone Inquires come from all over the United States asking about Anger Management from Social Worker Agencies, HR Departments, Colleges, Government Agencies wanting to refer participants to us when they transfer to the Atlanta area.

Participants have flown in, driven in their autos from Kentucky, Alabama, Tennessee, Florida, South Carolina, North Carolina, West Virginia and New York.

Services We Offer:

Please Call Richard at 678.576.1913 for more information or to set up appointment.

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator™

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in: http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam