Good To Know – ATL Airport Dominates

Clients have flown into Atlanta, GA to work with Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management for issues of emotional control, couples conflict management,  job performance enhancement, and sports anger management.

Cheap flights from Atlanta, GA¹
  • Atlanta, GA is the gateway for cheap flights to domestic and international destinations and it currently has non-stop flights to 235 cities.
  • Atlanta, GA travelers take frequent flights to the following cities of Las Vegas, Nevada, Honolulu, Hawaii and New York City, New York.
  • In 2014 London, United Kingdom was the favorite European destination for travelers flying from Atlanta, GA and was followed by other cities like Rome, Italy, Paris, France and Frankfurt, Germany.
  • San Juan, Puerto Rico and other favorite sunny locations like Montego Bay, Jamaica, St. Thomas are also places visited by Atlanta, GA travelers.
  • The Top Asia destinations like Mumbai (Bombay), India, Manila, Philippines and New Delhi, India are also some favorite places for Atlanta, GA travelers.

Hartsfield-Jackson has a direct economic impact of more than about $32.5 billion for the metro Atlanta area economy.²

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2015 statistics³

Airports Council International‘s year-to-date figures as of March 2015 are as follows:[1]

Rank Airport Location Country Code
(IATA/ICAO)
Total
passengers
Rank
Change
%
Change
1. United StatesHartsfield–Jackson Atlanta International Airport Atlanta, Georgia United States ATL/KATL 22,746,009 Steady Increase5.1%
2. ChinaBeijing Capital International Airport ChaoyangShunyi, Beijing China PEK/ZBAA 21,663,240 Steady Increase5.5%
3. United Arab EmiratesDubai International Airport Garhoud, Dubai United Arab Emirates DXB/OMDB 19,606,327 Increase3 Increase6.8%
4. JapanTokyo Haneda Airport Ōta, Tokyo Japan HND/RJTT 18,053,930 Steady Increase8.4%
5. United StatesLos Angeles International Airport Los Angeles, California United States LAX/KLAX 16,416,281 Steady Increase2.8%
6. United KingdomLondon Heathrow Airport Hillingdon, London United Kingdom LHR/EGLL 16,364,246 Decrease3 Increase2.0%
7. ChinaHong Kong International Airport Chek Lap Kok, Hong Kong China HKG/VHHH 16,328,000 Increase3 Increase9.0%
8. United StatesO’Hare International Airport Chicago, Illinois United States ORD/KORD 16,258,025 Decrease1 Increase9.8%
9. United StatesDallas/Fort Worth International Airport DallasFort Worth, Texas United States DFW/KDFW 14,487,751 Steady Decrease1.2%
10. ThailandSuvarnabhumi Airport Bang Phli, Samut Prakan Thailand BKK/VTBS 14,139,314 Increase12 Increase14.8%
11. ChinaShanghai Pudong International Airport Pudong, Shanghai China PVG/ZSPD 14,136,814 Increase8 Increase17.7%
12. FranceParis-Charles de Gaulle Airport Roissy-en-France, Île-de-France France CDG/LFPG 14,113,587 Decrease4 Increase2.2%
13. ChinaGuangzhou Baiyun International Airport BaiyunHuadu, Guangzhou, Guangdong China CAN/ZGGG 14,094,902 Increase2 Increase3.7%
14. SingaporeSingapore Changi Airport Changi Singapore SIN/WSSS 13,076,000 Increase2 Decrease0.9%
15. TurkeyIstanbul Atatürk Airport Istanbul Turkey IST/LTBA 12,944,832 Decrease2 Increase4.4%
16. South KoreaSeoul Incheon International Airport Incheon Republic of Korea ICN/RKSI 12,539,595 Increase7 Increase15.6%
17. GermanyFrankfurt Airport Frankfurt, Hesse Germany FRA/EDDF 12,508,282 Decrease6 Increase2.8%
18. IndonesiaSoekarno-Hatta International Airport Cengkareng, Banten Indonesia CGK/WIII 12,314,667 Decrease6 Decrease9.5%
19. United StatesDenver International Airport Denver, Colorado United States DEN/KDEN 12,213,404 Decrease1 Decrease1.4%
20. MalaysiaKuala Lumpur International Airport Sepang, Selangor Malaysia KUL/WMKK 11,972,635 Steady Decrease2.9%
21. United StatesJohn F. Kennedy International Airport Queens, New York City, New York United States JFK/KJFK 11,924,793 Decrease4 Increase7.4%
22. NetherlandsAmsterdam Airport Schiphol Haarlemmermeer, North Holland The Netherlands AMS/EHAM 11,530,950 Decrease8 Increase3.5%
23. United StatesPhoenix Sky Harbor International Airport Phoenix, Arizona United States PHX/KPHX 11,015,495 Increase3 Increase4.5%
24. United StatesMiami International Airport Miami-Dade County, Florida United States MIA/KMIA 10,978,401 Increase5 Increase4.6%
25. United StatesSan Francisco International Airport San Mateo County, California United States SFO/KSFO 10,799,749 Decrease4 Increase5.1%
26. IndiaIndira Gandhi International Airport Delhi India DEL/VIDP 10,686,816 Increase5 Increase13.0%
27. United StatesCharlotte Douglas International Airport Charlotte, North Carolina United States CLT/KCLT 10,344,920 Decrease3 Increase0.1%
28. United StatesMcCarran International Airport Las Vegas, Nevada United States LAS/KLAS 10,307,039 Decrease3 Increase1.7%
29. ChinaChengdu Shuangliu International Airport Shuangliu, Chengdu, Sichuan China CTU/ZUUU 10,184,839 Increase9 Increase13.3%
30. BrazilSão Paulo-Guarulhos International Airport Guarulhos, São Paulo Brazil GRU/SBGR 9,961,379 Steady Increase1.9%

Hotels

ATLANTA’S HARTSFIELD JACKSON INTERNATIONAL AIRPORT

  • Since 1998, Hartsfield-Jackson has been the busiest passenger airport in the world.
  • Atlanta has the tallest air traffic control tower in North America (398 feet or 121 meters) and is the third tallest in the world.
  • Atlanta is within a two hour flight of 80% of the United States population.
  • Hartsfield-Jackson averages almost 250,000 passengers a day.
  • On average, there are over 1,300 daily domestic departures.
  • There are over 150 U.S. destinations with non-stop service from Atlanta.
  • The airport offers direct flights to 95 cities in 57 countries.
  • On average there are over 2,700 arrivals and departures daily, making Hartsfield-Jackson the busiest airport in the world for total movements.
  • Hartsfield-Jackson has 143,000 domestic seats available daily and 132,000 international seats available weekly.
  • The average price of a one-way domestic airline ticket is $172.

Mainline Airlines

Air Canada Continental Airlines Midwest Airlines
Air Canada Jazz Delta Airlines Northwest Airlines
Air France Frontier Airlines Spirit Airlines
AirTran Airways KLM Royal Dutch Airlines United Airlines
American Airlines Korean Air US Airways
Lufthansa German Airlines


Regional Airlines

American Connection / Chautauqua Airlines Delta Connection / SkyWest Airlines
American Connection / American Eagle United Express / Shuttle America
Delta Connection / Atlantic Southeast Airlines US Airways Express / Air Wisconsin
Delta Connection / Comair US Airway Express / Mesa Airlines
Delta Connection / Pinnacle Airlines US Airway Express / PSA
Delta Connection / Shuttle America US Airways Express / Republic Airlines


Charter Airlines

Omni Air Intternational Ryan International World Airways

 

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CONTACT

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management
Atlanta, Georgia USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

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#1 Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

Atlanta Anger Management has risen to the leading Anger Management Provider for the Southeastern US

Atlanta Anger Management  has risen to the leading Anger Management Provider for the Southeastern US.

 

At Atlanta Anger Management, Director and Owner Richard Taylor has earned a reputation of offering quality services using the Anderson and Anderson™ Curriculum for Anger Management Classes, One on One Private Sessions, Business Intensives, and Couples Conflict Management Sessions and Workshops.

Richard is also a Certified MHS EQ-i 2.0 Emotional Intelligence Assessment Evaluation Provider For Executive Managerial Coaching by referral sources such as EAP and HR, Universities, Hospital Staff Referrals, Military, and Government Departments and Agencies.

EQi-2.0 Certified - Richard Taylor

EQi-2.0 Certified – Richard Taylor

Atlanta Anger Management  has risen to the leading provider position for Anger Management, Anger Management Violence Assessment Evaluations and Emotional Intelligence Coaching in the Southeast United States.

ATLANTA ANGER MANAGEMENT BEST IN INDUSTRY

ATLANTA ANGER MANAGEMENT

 

 

 

 

 

Their growth and success has been based on multi-factors:

  • Offers the most Anger Management Classes per week anywhere…
    –>Monday’s Noon
    –>Tuesday’s 6:30PM & 8:00PM
    –>Wednesdays 8:00PM
    –>Thursday’s 6:30PM to 8:30PM – 2 Classes
    –>Saturday’s 8 hours/8 Classes 8:55AM to 5:30PM
  • Reasonable Fair Pricing Worth The Drive
  • Private Sessions are extra effective both in cost and time investment.
  • Couple Conflict Sessions have been also extremely effective at reducing conflict and getting the couple back on track to more harmonious living.
  • Offer the optional use of Pre and Post Emotional Intelligence Assessments
  • Use updated data driven workbooks in our coaching model.

Successful coaching clients are routinely demonstrated by their progress by comparing Pre and Post Assessment scores as well as the noticeable changes in their attitudes and behaviors in their work environments, at home and in public.
Client feedback has been very positive and appreciative in expression to us.

Atlanta Anger Management Court Ordered Anger Management Programs are designed to positively reduce offender recidivism and increase public safety by attendees. This has been accomplished.

The greatest source of new clients are from past client referrals and satisfied EAP, and HR departments witnessing the results in their employees.  Also Court and Probation Referrals.

Richard’s business ethics, compassion, motivational interviewing, competent insights, experience, flexibility, massive offerings with passion and enthusiasm translates into a one of a kind product of services that is unique to Director Richard Taylor. In essence with these supporting factors he has become the product.

His demonstrated competency in a niche market of Anger Management and Emotional Intelligence Development is second to none.

Director Richard Taylor

Director Richard Taylor

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

#1 Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

ANGER MANAGEMENT CERTIFICATION

ANGER MANAGEMENT CERTIFICATION:

Open Letter To All Interested

Richard Taylor is Director and Owner of Atlanta Anger Management.
He upholds the highest ethical practice principles.
Richard is an advocate for proper Anger Management training
that differs from psychotherapy and psychiatry.

You may want to read below for more information.

Feel free to e-mail or call 678-576-1913 to discuss or for information.

ANGER MANAGEMENT CERTIFICATION:

At this time (2018) there is no licensing requirement by the Georgia Secretary of State Office for Anger Management.

Anger Management and Domestic Violence (Family Violence) requires different Training and Certifications.

Domestic Violence / Domestic Family Violence laws do not apply to Anger Management.

Anger Management is not psychotherapy. Anger Management is psycho-education training and a highly personalized form of treatment. APA (LPC) Counselors take the same Certification Training* to offer Legitimate Anger Management Training to their client base that is Court Certified.

Anger Management does not seek to help those in need of counseling to find ways of avoiding their anger altogether. Identifying what makes you angry, how you feel about it, finding the source of your anger does not make you less angry.

According to the American Psychiatric Association, anger is a normal human emotion. It is not a mental disorder, consequently it is not responsive to traditional counseling, psychotherapy or psychotropic medication.

Anger is not listed in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM5).

Anger Management is Psycho-Educational Coaching, Training, Teaching to educate the individual to the mechanism of anger, coping strategies to choose better behaviors for better outcomes. Learning about Stress Management, Improving Communication, Learning About Managing Conflict, Emotional Intelligence, and Cognitive Distortions helps individuals see that everyone can get angry. Healthy people know how to control anger so it doesn’t destroy their interpersonal relationships at home, work or out in public.

Court Certified Anger Management legitimate programs are designed to positively reduce offender recidivism and increase public safety.

SUGGESTED NUMBER OF CLASSES:

  • For Repeat Offenders 12 Classes over 12 weeks is suggested.
  • Severe Cases: 20-24 Hours Of Classes/once a week
  • For First Time Offenders depending on the severity of the charge: 8 to 12 Hours of Classes
  • For Minor Charges, you know the client is not guilty or it is not proven: 4 Hours Minimum of Classes
  • TIP: Using a check box for Anger Management on forms or assigning Anger Management without defining what is required, places the burden of determining the number of classes on the Anger Management Provider.

IMHO, I do not believe a One Hour Class provides enough contact for the person involved to learn anything to help themselves learn how to make better choices to not get arrested again. Hence the 4 Hour/4 Classes minimum suggested. 90% of people, blame others and do not accept responsibility for their actions. This shifts during our program and people experience that a good Anger Management Program is worthwhile.

 Participants are assigned ‘One Class’ or ‘Take a Class’. This creates confusion as Our Anger Management Class is a minimum of 8 hours of material and often extends to 12 hours or more. You do not attend any higher learning class for one hour and get your Certificate of Completion. Think about that. That would be considered a “joke” of a program. I do see people who say they got set-up by their lying partners or lying strangers and a mired of other stories that blame others. I assume at least some are true. But One Hour Class?

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At this time (2018) there is no licensing requirement by the Georgia Secretary of State Office for Anger Management.

Certified Anger Management Providers* become certified by Credited Anger Management Companies* awarding Title Designations that include but are not limited to:

Certified Anger Resolution Therapist™ (CART)
The Center Of Anger Resolution, Inc.™
Certified Anger Management Expert™  (CAME)
Atlanta Anger Management

Certified Anger Management Specialist™ (CAMS)
National Association Of Anger Management (NAMA)™
Certified Anger Management Facilitators™ (CAMF)
Anderson and Anderson™
Certified Anger Management Professional (CAMP)
Century Anger Management
Certified Anger Management Counselor (CAMC)
Anger Management Essentials
Anger Management Treatment Profesional (AMTP)

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Georgia Secretary of State Brian Kemp
214 State Capitol
Atlanta, Georgia 30334
404-656-2881

Georgia Secretary of State
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Macon, GA 31217-3858
Phone: (478) 207-2440

 

 

Newton Hightower LCSW, LMFT, LPC, CART
Anger Management Expert
The Center For Anger Resolution, Inc.™ of Houston, TX.
We offer a positive approach to resolving rage and improving the quality of life through anger control.
http://www.angerbusters.com/help-for-men

“Destructive anger hurts your health, makes you miserable, blocks solutions, wastes your energy, keeps you helpless, invites attacks, imprisons your spirit, wrecks human relations, gives you headaches, causes accidents, ruins restful sleep and turns a love life into a lonely life.” — Newton Hightower

About the Center for Anger Resolution
At The Center For Anger Resolution, Inc. people do find solutions to their rage. Founded in 1993, The Center provides counseling, education, and training on anger management.

As a licensed psychotherapist for more than 35 years, Newton Hightower is a sought-after expert in anger management. After fighting a personal battle with anger that nearly destroyed his marriage, Mr. Hightower learned to resolve anger.

That led Newton to write his highly acclaimed book, Anger Busting 101: New ABCs for Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them. His book was awarded the Benjamin Franklin Award for Best Psychology/Self Help book for 2002 by the Independent Book Publishers Association. The award is given to top books produced by independent publishing companies throughout the United States and Canada. Read more about this award winning anger management book.

Newton Hightower is the Founder and Director of The Center For Anger Resolution, Inc. and the former Director of the Baylor Family Medicine Counseling Clinic in Houston, Texas. Mr. Hightower is a fellow of the American Group Psychotherapy Association and served on the Board of the Houston Group Psychotherapy Society for more than a decade. He is also the Past President of the Houston Association for Marriage & Family Therapy. Through his books, workshops, and training, Mr. Hightower has helped thousands of people across the country learn revolutionary anger management techniques.

Mr. Hightower trains other therapists around the country to help save marriages and to help men/women stop their fault-finding, sarcasm, arguing, self-justification, righteous indignation, rage and violence. Through Certification Course, Mr. Hightower trains therapists to become Certified Anger Resolution Therapists™. The New ABC’s Of Anger, Anger Management Curriculum is accepted in all 50 US States.

Mr. Hightower was a keynote speaker at the first National Conference on Alcohol and Drugs on factors in violence. Frequently, Mr. Hightower speaks at national and regional professional conferences and has been interviewed often on television and radio.

DIRECTOR RICHARD L. TAYLOR BS, CART, CAME
Atlanta Anger Management’s Richard L. Taylor was personally certified by George Anderson of Anderson and Anderson™ of Brentwood, CA., in 2009.  Accepted in all 50 US States. Richard L. Taylor has become a leader nationally in Anger Management . Richard is no longer asscociated with Anderson and Anderson™

Richard L. Taylor is also a Certified Anger Resolution Therapist ™ [CART] certified by Newton Hightower Of The Center For Anger Resolution, Inc.™ of Houston, TX., Working with Violent and Rageful Men and Women. Accepted in all 50 US States, a leader nationally in Anger Management.

Richard L. Taylor is also a Certified Anger Management Expert™  (CAME)
Atlanta Anger Management.

Certified Bar-On MHS Emotional Intelligence EQi-2.0 Provider
Gottman Institute Seven Principles Educator
Gottman Method Couples Therapy Level 1 Certificate of Completion
American Association of Anger Management Providers Diplomate
Michele Weiner-Davis Certificate Of Completion Divorce Busting I

MEDIA CONSULTANT
Richard Taylor was guest of Valerie Davis Radio Program
Live, Laugh, Love, It’s Just Life – Just Val
Christian Radio WYZE 1480am
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95.5FM & AM750 News/Talk WSB – Atlanta’s news 100.5 FM Macon, Georgia

Discussing Anger Management and tips for listeners to overcome anger issues.

KISS 104.1 MARCH 24, 2013 from 7PM – 8PM
THE JENNIFER KEITT SHOW OF KISS 104.1 TAPES RICHARD TAYLOR FOR STOP ARGUING & START TALKING SHOW Principle Director Richard Taylor Of Atlanta Anger Management was videotaped for segments for her show KISS 104.1 MARCH 24, 2013 from 7PM – 8PM

KISS 104.1 JULY 28, 2013 from 6PM – 8PM
THE JENNIFER KEITT SHOW OF KISS 104.1 – RICHARD TAYLOR ON BLUE LIGHTS SPECIAL TALK SHOW Principle Director Richard Taylor Of Atlanta Anger Management was on the air for a segment for her show KISS 104.1 JULY 28, 2013 from 6PM – 8PM

DISCOUNTS: We offer discounts to Public Officials, Police Officers, Fire Fighters, Homeland Security, FBI, GBI, Military, Former Military. Inquire. No Free Classes Offered.

Our Anger Management Programs are designed to positively reduce offender recidivism and increase public safety.

Services Include: Court Ordered Anger Management Classes | Saturday Anger Management Classes | Anger Management Classes | Anger Assessment Evaluations | Stress Management | Couples Conflict Management | Rage Management | Emotional Intelligence Education | Organization Meeting Seminars | Anger & Stress Accelerated One Day Courses | Aggressive Driving & Rade Rage | Character Development | VIP Service | Blog

Participants are self check in, Court Ordered or often Companies H.R. and EAP Managers referred including employees, Administration VIPs, Government, Law Enforcement, and Educational Institutions. Georgia Certified Anger Management Provider.

Through Atlanta Anger Management you will learn tools to grow and become more productive and happy with your life. We welcome you without judgment. Discrete.

Call 678-576-1913 for information.

CONTACT:

Richard TaylorOwner/Director Richard L. Taylor BS, CART, CAME
Certified Anger Resolution Therapist
Certified Anger Management Expert

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

#1 Certified Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

 

Couple Talk – Importance of Kindness and Fondness,  ‘Turning Towards’ 

∇ Have you become argumentive lately?

∇ Seem to only see the negative in your partner?

∇ Seem to have bad “moods” a lot lately?

∇ Not as happy as the early days in the relationship?

∇ Wonder when things are going to change?

∇ Feel stuck in your relationship?

∇ Feel not as upbeat as usual?

∇ Tired of fighting?

∇ Ponder getting back at your partner?

∇ Think: Hurt ME, and you will hurt MORE!

Well join the club!  53 % Divorce Rate In USA

Wikipedia Divorce Rates Worldwide

Need a fast change to restore your relationship to better times? Read on…

Masters And Disasters

The Gottman Institute studies of Julie and John Gottman along with many other supporting studies¹  say lasting relationships come down to kindness, fondness, turning towards your partner and an active interest in maintaining intimate friendship over the years.

A question came up: Do unhappy marriages share something in common?

Psychologist John and Julie Gottman along with Robert Levenson for the past four decades has studied thousands of couples in a quest to figure out what makes relationships work.

In 1986, John Gottman with his colleague Robert Levenson  and associates, hooked the couples up to measure the subjects’ blood flow, heart rates, and how much they sweat. The hooked up ‘wiggle-monitors’ to determine the edginess of them wiggling in chairs. They establish base rates and then followed along with a research team behind walls monitoring their vital signs. They had the couples talk about their relationship. Such things like: how they met, a major conflict they were facing together, and positive memories they had. Everything was recorded including videotaping.

The data suggested two major groups: the Masters and the Disasters.

Analyzing the data they saw clear differences between the masters and disasters.

The Masters were still happily together after six years.

The Disasters had either broken up or were chronically unhappy in their marriages.

The Disasters

The disasters looked calm during the interviews but their active physiology told important new data understanding relationships.

  • heart rates were quick
  • sweat glands were active
  • blood flow was fast
  • often edginess in wiggling in chairs

Following thousands of couples longitudinally, The Gottman Institute found that the more physiologically active the couples were in the lab, the quicker their relationships deteriorated over time.

Say What?

The disasters showed signs of arousal—of being in fight-or-flight mode—in their relationships. The Limbric brain is involved here. Specifically the amygdala. This also affects impulse control and the anger response. (Anger Management).

Having a conversation sitting next to their spouse was, to their bodies, like facing off with lions and tigers and bears.

Even when they were talking about pleasant or mundane facets of their relationships, they were prepared to attack and be attacked. This sent their heart rates soaring and made them more aggressive toward each other.

An example: The couple could be talking about how their days had gone, and a highly aroused wife might say to her husband, “Why don’t you start talking about your day. It won’t take you very long.” A put down indeed. This then distances the couple, perhaps the feeling of being disrespected and an anger response arises, even if not expressed.

The Masters

The masters, by contrast, showed low physiological arousal.

They felt:

  • calm and connected together
  • Their vital signs were more normal or returned to normal quickly if aroused
  • translated into warm and affectionate behavior even if they argued.

It’s not that the masters had a better physiological make-up than the disasters. The masters had created a climate of trust and intimacy that made both of them more emotionally and thus physically comfortable.

Professor Gottman wanted to know more about how the masters created that culture of love and intimacy, and how the disasters squashed it.

In 1990, he designed a lab on the University of Washington campus looking like a bed and breakfast apartment deemed “The Love Lab”.  He invited 130 newlywed couples, each couple one at a time, to spend the day at this retreat and watched and recorded as before everything normal couples do: arrive, put up groceries, eat, chat, cook, clean, listen to music, hang out, etc.

Professor Gottman and his team, made a critical discovery in this study. It identified why some relationships thrive while others wither.

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.”

One of John’s favorite examples from my training with them:

The wife who is a bird enthusiast notices a bluebird flying across the yard and finds a perch on a branch. She says quietly to her husband eating cereal while watching TV, “Look …a bluejay outside!” He is apparently absorbed and says nothing to her.

Question: What does the wife feel from this interaction?

Happy?
Sad?
Mad?
Invisible?
Not heard?
Disrespected?
Disconnected?

Joyful?

No… she might feel: Invisible, Not heard, Disrespected, Disconnected

The wife is not just commenting on the bluebird, she is requesting a response from her husband, a sign of interest or support, hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The husband missed his chance with no response. He is effect “turned away.” Silence, no response.

REWIND: How would he “turn towards”?

Professor Gottman suggests the husband grunt, “Huh?” or better “Wow, a sign spring is here.”  I suggest: Put down the cereal and come over and look beside your wife holding her, perhaps better, a hug from behind, a bit of playfulness and a kiss on the cheek.

CHOOSE:  Respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” .

Though the bird-bid might seem minor, it actually reveals a lot about the health of their relationship.

People (Masters) who turned toward their partners in the study responded by engaging the bidder, showing interest and support in the bid. Those who didn’t, (Disasters) those who turned away, would not respond or respond minimally and continue doing whatever they were doing, like watching TV or reading the paper. Sometimes they would respond with overt hostility, saying something like, “Stop interrupting me, I’m reading.”

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in ten of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy.

The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of ten, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

By observing these types of interactions, Professor Gottman can predict with up to 94 percent certainty whether couples—straight or gay, rich or poor, childless or not, will be broken up, together and unhappy, or together and happy several years later. Much of it comes down to the spirit couples bring to the relationship.

Couples who practice kindness and generosity stay together. (Masters)

Couples who practice contempt, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and hostility mostly breakup or are unhappy. (Disasters)

“There’s a habit of mind that the masters have,” Gottman explained in our training. Masters are scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for. They are building this culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully. I call it the 3 A’s. Appreciate, Acknowledge, Acceptance.

Disasters are scanning the social environment for partners’ mistakes.

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse:

  1. criticism
  2. defensiveness
  3. contempt
  4. stonewalling

Contempt is the number one factor that tears couples apart.

1. Couples who are focused on criticizing their partners miss a whopping 50 % of positive things their partners are doing and they see negativity when it’s not there. People who give their partner the cold shoulder (avoidance or putting up walls) choosing to  ignore their partner or responding minimally, damage their relationship by making their partner feel invisible, alone, as if they’re not there, and/or not valued.

Being mean is the death of relationships.
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is  the death of relationships.

Kindness, on the other hand, glues couples together.

Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, validated and feel loved, connected. The more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship.

Masters tend to think about kindness as a muscle. Exercise it to keep it in shape. A good relationship requires consistent mindfulness and hard work.

When your partner expresses a need (bid) even if you are emotionally not available or tired, or stressed, you still turn toward your partner.

Do not ignore the small moments of emotional connection or they will slowly wear away at your relationship. Neglect creates distance between partners and breeds resentment in the one who is being ignored.

Letting contempt and aggression spiral out of control during a conflict can inflict irrevocable damage on your relationship. This is the time to remember kindness and learn to disengage before things get ugly. Successful couples know and practice this.

ACTION:

1. Make a list of 5 Acts Of Kindness You Will Do Today, each day.

2. 3 A’s. Appreciate, Acknowledge, Acceptance. How? Practice.

See Blog on Practice Not Quarreling.

 

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Certified ​MHS ​Bar-On Emotional Intelligence​ EQ-i 2.0 ​Provider
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Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

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The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

 

DeKalb County District Attorney’s Office Honored for Anti-Recidivism Program

DeKalb County District Attorney’s Office Honored for Anti-Recidivism Program

June 12, 2014

[Decatur, GA]
The DeKalb County Board of Commissioners recently honored the DeKalb County District Attorney’s Office for creating a program dedicated to giving offenders ages 17 -25 a second chance. The Anti-Recidivism Court was created by District Attorney Robert James in December 2011. Since the program’s inception, 22 participants have successfully completed the program.

“This unique program offers young, first-time, non-violent offenders a second chance at life,” said James. “This program does not give them a ‘get out of jail free’ pass for their mistakes, but it allows them to learn from their prior missteps through a rigorous year-long program.”

The Anti-Recidivism Court is a collaborative partnership among DeKalb County Public Defenders’ Office, DeKalb County Magistrate Court and DeKalb County District Attorney’s Office.

According to national statistics, approximately two-thirds of individuals arrested will be re-arrested within three years. “The judicial system can become a revolving door for criminals. We wanted to deliberately interrupt the cycle of recidivism here in DeKalb through this program.”

Currently, 20 participants are enrolled in the year-long Anti-Recidivism Court.

As conditions of the diversion program, each participant is ordered to: report to private probation, perform community service, undergo random monitoring, report to monthly compliance hearings and abide by a curfew/electronic monitoring. Additionally, participants must pay any restitution involved with their arrest, enroll in an academic program if they have not obtained a high school diploma/GED and attend behavior modification classes.

“We focus on developing the person and providing them with the skills needed to be successful in life,” said James. “We not only provide them with life skills training but also a strict guideline to follow. Many do not complete the course .

For those participants who do complete all of their requirements, they will have their cases dismissed.”

If a participant is found in violation of the diversion program terms, then their case would be sent back to Superior Court for prosecution. “The program is not a fit for ever applicant,” said Diversion Program Director Kaleema Thomas. “The participants have to be committed to change and willing to work on themselves throughout the process.”

Source: http://dekalbda.org/CivicAlerts.aspx?AID=177

Atlanta Anger Management offers two such Lifeskills Courses.

  1. Anger Management Class
  2. Character Development Class

 

1. Anger Management Class

Anger Management is a course of treatment that seeks to help people whose anger emotion is causing negative problems in their personal, business or public life.

Anderson & Anderson’s Certified Anger Management Facilitators are influencing how anger management is practiced throughout the United States. Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management sets the standard in Atlanta with many others following our lead. We offer what is needed and other companies soon copy us and offer it too. Two companies have even copied our name or derivatives thereof. Such flattery, thank you.

Anger Management has moved from the basic idea of management of anger to a broader understanding of the relationship between:

  • anger self-awareness
  • anger management
  • stress self-awareness
  • stress management
  • improving communication
  • increasing self-awareness
  • mindfulness
  • social awareness
  • impulse control
  • optimism
  • decision making
  • self-perception
  • flexibility
  • and relationship management

These lifeskills learned are positive by design and move the participant from low motivation into high motivation to commit to the process if they only honor their Pre-Trial Diversion Program requirements by completing the number of hours required.

♦ Unfortunately many get their Letter Of Enrollment attending their first class to (get off the hook) for their first Probation Meeting and then disappear into their past patterns that only lead to more trouble and eventual arrest ~ jail time for violation of their Agreed On Terms Of Pre-Trial Diversion Program.  Stricter penalties needed to be served for violation in our estimation.

Participants completing the Anger Management Class (Course) leave with enhanced life skills for greater self understanding (awareness), learn to control one’s emotions, better social awareness for better interactions and more productive relationship management.

In most cases reduced recidivism is also achieved.

NOTE: Anger Management is not psychotherapy. Anger Management is psycho-education and a highly personalized form of treatment using educational approach to skill development. Specialized Anger Management Certification Training of 40 Hours or more by national certification companies should be the standard for practice.

Anger Management does not seek to help those in need of counseling to find ways of avoiding their anger altogether. According to the American Psychiatric Association, anger is a normal human emotion. It is not a mental disorder, consequently it is not responsive to traditional counseling, psychotherapy or psychotropic medication. Additionally anger is not listed in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) DSM-IV-TR.

Anger is exemplified by anger outbursts or tempers that flair out of proportion to the causing stimuli or situation. Anger can be aggressive as in verbal abuse or physical abuse but also passive as in emotional blackmail, negative control issues, silent treatment etc. The individual experiencing anger often lashes out against family members, friends, acquaintances coworkers, even strangers.

Anger is a problem under the following circumstances:

When it occurs too frequently
• When it is too intense 
• When it lasts too long
• When it leads to health issues
• When it destroys interpersonal relationships: personal, work and public 
• When it results in person-directed aggression: verbal abuse or physical abuse

Anger can be managed using skills/tools that can be learned through a course of proven Anger Management curriculum.

Atlanta Anger Management is offered in:

Minimally these classes are designed to teach core life skills in the following domains:

• Self Observing Self
• Anger Awareness and Anger Management
• Stress Awareness and Stress Management
• Improved Communication through Assertion Training & Active Listening
• Emotional Intelligence:
self-awareness, self control, social awareness and relationship management
• Relationship Management
• Cognitive Restructuring
• Learning to Respond To Another Person’s Anger
• Optimism and Gratitude

 

The first step is to call Richard at 678-576-1913 and we get to know one another. It is usually fairly brief but provides you the opportunity to discuss current situation and what some of the issues are and define your requirements as dictated by your referring party.

2. Character Development Class

SYLLABUS – Some Counties Require 8 Hours/Weeks Others 12 Hours/Weeks.

WEEK 1: MOTIVATION-CHANGE FOR BETTER OUTCOMES & MORE PRODUCTIVITY IN YOUR LIFE
Willingness to Change and Developing Discipline; Life Review: Is It Working For You?

WEEK 2: SELF AWARENESS
Trigger Assessment
Passive Aggressive Assessment
Aggressive Assessment
Cognitive Distortions Assessment
Communication Style, Empathy, Stress, Change Orientation Assessment

WEEK 3: SELF CONTROL – LEARN TO CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS

WEEK 4: SOCIAL AWARENESS – LOOKING OUTWARD – YOUR EFFECT ON OTHERS, THEIR EFFECT ON YOU & COMMUNITY INVOLVEMENT

WEEK 5: RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT – IMPROVED COMMUNICATION & ACTIVE LISTENING

WEEK 6: Be Impeccable With Your Word, BEING TRUSTWORTHY, Developing Integrity

WEEK 7: Don’t Take Things  Personally, Don’t Make Assumptions, INCREASE POSITIVITY

WEEK 8: Always Do Your Best – POWER OF FOCUS – GOAL SETTING

 

OPTIONAL:

WEEK 9: GOAL SETTING CONTINUED

WEEK 10: CHECK IN & REVIEW

WEEK 11: DEVELOPING: ONE YEAR PLAN – THREE YEAR PLAN

WEEK 12: POST ASSESSMENTS = IMPROVEMENTS
Trigger Assessment
Passive Aggressive Assessment
Aggressive Assessment
Cognitive Distortions Assessment
Communication Style, Empathy, Stress, Change Orientation Assessment

 

CONTACT

Richard Taylor BS, CAMF

Richard Taylor BS, CAMF

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

#1 Oldest Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence