20 Best Emotional Intelligence Books

The 20 Best Emotional Intelligence Books to Read Before You Turn 30
Are you an entrepreneur? CEO? Parent? Project manager? Manage an HR function? There’s a gold nugget for everyone here.
 In my twenties — well before founding a company and writing about servant leadership — my library was mostly composed of books about sports, science-fiction, and whatever young, self-centered men were reading in the nineties.

Personal improvement and leadership development were not blips on my radar screen before hitting thirty. I was too busy chasing skirts and mastering the social scene.

As you may have guessed, that led me down the boulevard of broken relationships (including one divorce), critical errors in judgment, and a few horrendous career moves.

Reinventing myself into my thirties, I discovered the need for emotional intelligence and raising my emotional quotient (EQ) to make positive choices in life. Looking back at my wasted twenties,  I would have begged for a library like the one below.

Now, many of these books are lifelines that have kept me on top of my game as I navigate the entrepreneurial space and juggle a happy marriage and parenting. While not an exhaustive list, it covers what I would consider the best, most popular, and most influential books on emotional intelligence.

Before you hit 30, hit these up!

 

1. Working With Emotional Intelligence: Daniel Goleman packs this one with fascinating case histories of triumphs, disasters, and dramatic turnarounds from more than 500 organizations around the world. Quite possibly his best work.

Emotional Intelligence 2.0

Emotional Intelligence 2.0

2. Emotional Intelligence 2.0: Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves deliver a step-by-step program for increasing your EQ. It includes an online assessment to give you a baseline of your current EQ status. A great starter on EQ

3. Coaching for Emotional Intelligence: The Secret to Developing the Star Potential in Your Employees: This book provides a carefully planned strategy to help managers address the issues that make coaching for EI more challenging than coaching for performance alone.

TheEdge4. The EQ Edge: Authors Steven Stein and Howard Book offer fascinating-and sometimes surprising-insights into what it takes to be a top law-enforcement officer, lawyer, school principal, student, doctor, dentist or CEO. You will learn what the top EQ factors are across many different kinds of jobs, from business managers and customer service representatives to HR professionals and public servants.

5. Go Suck a Lemon: Strategies for Improving your Emotional Intelligence:Michael Cornwall has a somewhat no-holds barred approach to writing, but its meant to really stop you on your tracks and self-assess whether you’re truly emotionally intelligent. Very reality-based with clear examples.

6. The Brain and Emotional Intelligence: New Insights: Goleman brings his easy to understand writing style to bear on more recent (2011) neurological research on emotional intelligence.

7. Primal Leadership: The bottom line of Primal Leadership is that one of the most important tasks of a leader is to create good feelings in the people they lead. They do this by maintaining those same positive feelings in themselves. In addition they have to create change, sustain change, and build an EI competent organization.

8. The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success:  In this book, you’ll learn find new ways to help build stronger relationships, get ahead at work, feel more confident, and even be a better leader.

9. The EQ Difference: A Powerful Plan for Putting Emotional Intelligence to Work: The author showcases the profound effect emotions can have on all aspects of work life, from performance to coworker relationships, and discusses ways that anyone can start improving their interpersonal relationships with simple changes in thought and action.

10. The Language of Emotional Intelligence: The Five Essential Tools for Building Powerful and Effective Relationships: An excellent resource on using EQ to build better relationships with just about everyone in your life, from employees to your family. Jeanne Segal shows you how to use five basic tools of EQ to enhance  communication, reading non-verbal cues, and diffusing conflicts before they get out of hand.

11. The Emotional Intelligence Quick Book: Similar to their Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves help readers to assess their own EQ, learn more about what EQ means, and get advice on developing their EQ at work, home, and for personal well-being.

12. The New Psycho-Cybernetics: This is an updated version of the influential book that Maxwell Maltz published in 1960. The theory of psycho-cybernetics examines the process of controlling thoughts and emotions. This book will teach you how to transform them from negative to positive.

13. Building Emotional Intelligence: Written for parents, it’s important to help your children develop the foundations of EQ at an early age and author Linda Lantieri shows you how. Also useful for adults interested in boosting their EQ.

14. Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ: First published in 1995, Daniel Goleman, the patriarch of EQ, offers extensive research and his own personal experience examining why EQ is so important to our success and happiness.  His ultimate message is for us to take care to nurture our children so that they will have a healthy emotional base as they grow.

15. 105 Tips For Creating An Emotionally Intelligent Organization: More Success By Focusing On Work Attitude And Motivation: Each of the authors works as trainer, consultant or coach and walks you through steps to create more emotional intelligent workplaces. Great for people in human resources management as it covers recruiting, training, coaching, managing, building teams, handling conflicts, retention, and even outplacement.

RaiseChildWithEQ16. How to Raise a Child with a High EQ: A Parents’ Guide to Emotional Intelligence: Filled with games, checklists and practical parenting techniques, this book will help your child to cope with — and overcome — the emotional stress of modern times and the normal problems of growing up.

17. The EQ Interview: Finding Employees with High Emotional Intelligence: The EQ Interview gives readers the skills and understanding they need to assess candidates’ emotional intelligence and ensure that they’re the right fit for the job. The book then arms interviewers with more than 250 behavior-based questions specially formulated to help determine how applicants have used their EQ in past experiences.

18. Quick Emotional Intelligence Activities for Busy Managers: 50 Team Exercises That Get Results in Just 15 Minutes: This simple, easy-to-use book gives managers, supervisors, and team leaders activities to help their teams overcome emotional obstacles and become more effective. Readers will find powerful, proven exercises they can use to help their employees.

19. Building Emotional Intelligence: Techniques to Cultivate Inner Strength in Children: Pioneering educator Linda Lantieri and Daniel Goleman help children respond to and rebound from the challenges unique to the 21st century through a breakthrough, step-by-step guide that teaches children how to quiet their minds, calm their bodies, and manage their emotions more skillfully.

20. Emotional Intelligence for Project Managers: The People Skills You Need to Achieve Outstanding Results:  Readers will learn how to: Set the tone and direction for the project, communicate more effectively, improve listening skills, create a positive work environment, motivate, coach, and mentor team members. Complete with checklists and self-assessments, this handy guide enables project managers to apply these important skills to their projects right away.

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PUBLISHED ON: JUL 14, 2016
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE ASSESSMENT HELPS IMPULSE CONTROL

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE FOR IMPULSE CONTROL IS GAINING POPULARITY IN GEORGIA

Emotional Intelligence for “impulse control” is booming in California and New York.

In Georgia, awareness of Emotional Intelligence is waking up and is being used to help separate yourself from others in job interviews and for the employer to screen applicants from a wide choice of great candidates.

The key to this trend is the power of Emotional Intelligence Assessments in identifying low levels of competence in a number of skills (15 competencies in all) that are important in successful impersonal relationships and greater performance in life. Documentation shows it improves annual salaries and school performance in any Emotional Intelligence book.

EQ-i 2.0 Scales

EQ-i 2.0 Scales

An increase in self-referrals for skill enhancement coaching for “impulse control” is happening. Satisfied clients are referring friends and colleagues.  EQ coaching is becoming more popular with college students and young professionals wanting to improve themselves, wanting a better “edge” in the job market.

COACHING BY RICHARD L. TAYLOR
The key is to actually invest in the coaching component using the 21 page EQ-i 2.0 Assessment Report for the basis of SMART GOAL enhancement. Your Report is awesome, however, just like at the gym you need someone to hold you accountable and keep doing the improving work. It also makes it personal to your individual situation and problems.

Without coaching a person soon return to old habits that do not enhance their lives.

EXAMPLE REPORT

Call or e-mail Director Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management to set up a Bar On EQ-i 2.0 Emotional Intelligence Assessment today.

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EQ-i 2.0 Pre-Assessment and One Hour Debrief $300.00

EQ-i 2.0 Pre-Assessment, 1 Hour Debrief and Two – 30 Minute Phone/Skype/Tango Consults $450.00

Add EQ-i 2.0 Post Assessment $100.00 USD

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Spouses, parents, significant others. career coaches, and employers are encouraging their family members and employees to take advantage of the opportunity to increase their skills in self-awareness, self-control, social awareness, empathy, and relationship management.

Emotional Intelligence has been shown to be a better predictor of success in life, marriage, work and school than IQ. Even Monster.com is advocating for the volunteer completion of Emotional Intelligence Assessments on the part of job applicants seeking positions in sales, customer service and leadership positions.

Coaching for skill enhancement in all emotional intelligence EQ-i 2.0 15 scales actually works. Motivated clients willing to complete an average of six months of coaching that include a Pre and Post Test can improve their ability to manage stress, anger and the 15 competencies.

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EQ-i 2.0 Emotional Intelligence Model

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Case Example:

Let’s take a look at the results of coaching for this 21 year old  young man who had everything but positive emotional intelligence skills.  He was mandated by a court to take eight (8) classes of Anger Management after being arrested for punching a hotel casino manager in the face.  He took the Bar On EQ-i 2.0 Emotional Intelligence Assessment before he started his Anger Management program.  Once he received his results and saw how accurate they are, he decided to volunteer for Emotional Intelligence Coaching after he completed his required eight sessions of Anger Management.    He saw us once per week for five months.

We can conduct the Assessment anywhere in the world since it is an Online Assessment with 133 questions to answer. It takes 13-20 minutes to complete. The coaching can be done in person in Atlanta, GA or over phone or Skype.

His Pre Assessment & Test Scores on the Bar On EQ-i 2.0 Assessment:

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His Post Assessment & Test Scores on the Bar On EQ-i 2.0 Assessment:

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Customized Plans To Fit Your Needs and Budget. Call  Richard at 678.576.1913

PS: Often we take the time to address each of the 15 Scales so the length of coaching can be determined by how much time that takes.

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Emotional Intelligence The Next Generation

Emotional Intelligence, The Next Generation.

By Mr. George Anderson of Anderson and Anderson™
Edited by Richard Taylor for Atlanta Anger Management Application

The Anderson & Anderson™ Anger Management Model includes Emotional Intelligence as one of its key components.

  • Emotional Intelligence Training – Personal Coaching One on One
  • Emotional Intelligence Training – Business Organizational Seminars Training Conclaves
  • Anger Management – Personal Coaching One on One
  • Anger Management Group Classes Week Night Evenings
  • Anger Management Saturdays One Day Course (Program)
  • Anger Management Accelerated One Day Trainings (Intensives).

For information about training classes in Emotional Intelligence and / or Anger Management, please contact Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF of Atlanta Anger Management in Atlanta, GA. Please call: 678-576-1913

Emotional Intelligence has become one of the hottest buzz words in the business world. When Harvard Business Review published an article on the topic a few years ago, it attracted a higher percentage of readers than any other article published in that periodical in the last 40 years.

Emotional intelligence is the capacity to appropriately respond to emotional stimuli in a way which leads to positive outcomes in yourself and others. (EQ) is a learned ability to identity, experience, understand, and express human emotions in healthyand productive ways.

It is a relatively new concept which was popularized in 1995 by Dr. Daniel Goleman in two books; “Emotional Intelligence” and “Emotional Intelligence At Work”.

My own interest in emotional intelligence began about 7 years ago. At that time, I was conducting research for a curriculum for anger management classes. Previous anger management models tended to focus on what happens to the body and mind

when a person is under stress or anger. Emotional intelligence provided an intervention with a different set of skills which includes managing anger, stress, improving communication and emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence is a key component in the Anderson & Anderson™ Model of Anger Management Intervention.

In contrast to IQ, which is the ability to manipulate objects and master precision learning, emotional intelligence can be changed, improved at any stage of life. In contrast, IQ remains stable over time and does not predict success in life or relationships.

Research by Goleman and others have shown that success in life and work is not determined by IQ but rather by emotional intelligence (EQ). The brightest students do not necessarily become the most successful. The emotionally intelligent person is the one who is aware of his own feelings, moods, assets and limitations and is sensitive, empathic and compassionate to others. He or she has the capacity to actively listen to others, give feedback and positively influence others that lead to win – win situations.

By improving your emotional intelligence you will be better able to positively influence both your overall performance and well-being, and get incredible results from your work and life. A growing body of research suggests that emotional intelligence is a better predictor of success that the more traditional measures. In fact, EQ may be the single most important factor in predicting success.

There is now a considerable body of research suggesting that a person’s ability to perceive, identify, and manage their emotions provides the basis for the kinds of social and emotional competencies that are important for success in almost any job.

This research indicated that only 20% of your success is contributed by your IQ. With 36% attributable to your emotional intelligence. At least 90% of the difference between outstanding and average leaders is related to emotional intelligence and explains why some people excel while others of the same caliber lag behind. It has been clearly established that emotional intelligence is linked to important work-related outcomes such as individual performance and organizational productivity.

Emotional Intelligence matters most in times of change. It is a measure of your ability to recognize and manage your own feelings and those of other people (staff, colleagues and customers) to produce results and traditional management skills. It is equally important when selecting the next generation of leaders.

The skills taught in an emotional intelligence coaching or classes
may include some or all of the following:

  • interpersonal awareness
  • self control
  • anger management
  • interpersonal assertion
  • listening skills
  • empathy, compassion
  • improving communication style for better outcomes
  • self-esteem
  • stress management
  • commitment
  • motivation
  • social awareness
  • flexibility
  • relationship management
  • problem solving – decision making
  • time management
  • leadership

How do issues like substance abuse, anger management and violence relate?

They are the result of unresolved conflicts relating to personal growth and a lack of knowledge about the process of making positive personal changes. Self-defeating and destructive living patterns are the result of learned behavior, any behavior which is learned can be unlearned.

When you work with other people, your relationship with them can really matter.

Using emotional intelligence is all about getting the most out of these relationships in ways that benefit everyone. Whenever you need to work with other people to deliver business outcomes, having the skills to work effectively with them will help you create a better solution and stronger relationships.

When you learn to recognize other’s emotions, you immediately begin to have greater empathy with them and to better connect with them. This gives you an advantage when working in a team.

Sometimes we respond to situations and people in ways that we may regret. It’s harder to rebuild bridges than it is to establish them. Using emotional intelligence allows you to develop strategies to respond to others comments, incidents and events that would normally push your emotional buttons.

It’s never easy to deal with conflict, but when you are aware of what drives conflict, you will be able to not just cope with the situation, but be able to diffuse the emotions that always accompanies conflict. When you know your own skills and abilities, you can focus on developing in areas that will benefit you most.

Here are some of the skills that can be developed through Emotional Intelligence:

  • Emotional Competency: constitutes the capacity to tactfully respond to emotional stimuli elicited by various situations, having high self-esteem and optimism, communication, tackling emotional upsets such as frustration, conflicts, inferiority complexes, enjoying emotions, doings what succeeds, ability to relate to others.
  • Emotional Maturity: constitutes evaluating your own emotions and those of others. The capacity to identity and express feelings. The ability to balance the state of your heart and mind. Being adaptable and flexible, appreciating other’s point of view, developing others, and delaying gratification of immediate psychological satisfaction.
  • Emotional Sensitivity: constitutes understanding the threshold of emotional arousal, managing the immediate environment, maintain rapport, harmony and comfort with others, letting others feel comfortable in your company while you feel comfortable in your own skin, empathy.
  • Customer Service: learning how to help your customers feel heard, understood, helped, served, respected, valued and important.
  • Hiring: Selecting employees with relatively high emotional intelligence, emotionally sensitive, aware, optimistic, resilient, positive, and responsible.
  • Turnover: Reducing turnover, reduction through helping employees feel appreciated, recognized, supported challenged, rewarded and respected.
  • Training: Raising emotional intelligence at all levels of the business through emotional literacy and emotional intelligence workshops.
  • Corporate Culture: Creating an environment where employees feel safe, trusted, special, needed, included, important, cooperative, focused, productive, motivated, respected and valued.
  • Productivity: Developing intrinsic motivation. Increasing employee commitment, cooperation and cohesion. Reducing lost time spent on conflict, turf-battles, defensiveness and insecurity.
  • Goal Setting: Setting goals based on feelings and hard data. For example, stating the goal that we want customers to feel satisfied, appreciated, and setting similar goals for employees. By adding emotions to Goal Settings it keeps direction appealing to the human side of goals and for better outcomes. Seek feedback on feelings, measuring and tracking performance. Often a second round is required with adjusted goals to get to the expected finish line.
  • Leadership: A leader with high emotional intelligence is emotionally aware. This means that he or she is aware of his own feelings and is not limited to logic, intellect and reasons when making decisions and managing people.

For information about training classes in Emotional Intelligence and / or Anger Management, please contact  Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF of Atlanta Anger Management in Atlanta, GA. Please call: 678-576-1913

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Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator™

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
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