How To Drive Defensively

How to Drive Defensively

Adopting defensive-driving techniques can keep you safe on the road and may even save you money and your life! Many insurance companies reduce policyholders’ premiums if they maintain accident-free driving records or take an accredited course on defensive-driving techniques. If you want to learn how to drive defensively, follow these steps.

  1. Stay focused, keeping your hands on the wheel. Defensive drivers concentrate on the road, keeping their hands at the 10 o’clock-2 o’clock position. They don’t do other tasks while driving, some of which are illegal. These include:
    • Eating
    • Applying makeup
    • Holding a dog
    • Tending to a child
    • Operating a hand-held cell phone
    • Texting
  1. Keep your eyes moving. Continuously look in your mirrors and scan the road ahead, checking for hazards and slowing traffic so you can anticipate problems before they develop.
  2. Stay alert. Don’t drive if you’re tired, upset, or angry.
  3. Go with the flow. Most drivers know that speeding is a major cause of accidents, but driving too slow can be dangerous, too. Drive at speeds that most other vehicles are going.
  4. Use the 2 second rule on heavily traveled roads to maintain adequate spacing with the car in front of you.
    • Choose a fixed object on the road ahead of you.
    • Count “1 independence, 2 independence” when the car in front of you goes by the object. If you pass the same object before you’re done counting, slow down a bit. The 2 second rule helps reduce the chance of a rear-end collision when cars in front make sudden stops.
  1. Make yourself visible. Many accidents occur because drivers didn’t see the other car. There are a few simple ways to make your presence known, making the road safer for everyone. They include:
    • Turn signals: Use your turn signals to let other drivers know where you’re going. By using your blinkers, other drivers will be able to anticipate your actions and slow down safely.
    • Headlights: Turn on your headlights at dusk or anytime it is raining. This is more for other drivers to see you than for you to see the road. In some states it is illegal to drive without your headlights on while the windshield wipers are in operation.
    • Brake lights: Operational brake lights are a safety must. They warn cars behind you that you’re slowing down, signaling them to reduce speed, too.
    • Avoid blind spots: Don’t linger in areas where the driver in front of you can’t see you. Many people will only check their mirrors before making a lane change. If you’re lurking slightly behind and a lane away from another vehicle, assume that the driver of that car can’t see you. Either safely speed up or slow down to avoid this scenario, which often results in an accident. This is an important defensive-driving technique.
  1. Resist road rage. Aggressive drivers may infuriate you, but retaliating with similar tactics is dangerous. Take a passive approach in dealing with road rage. Use these strategies in specific road-rage scenarios:
    • Tailgaters: If the driver behind you is right on your bumper, tap the brakes a few times to let the driver know that he’s not maintaining a safe distance. If he stays on your tail, slow down gradually. Chances are the tailgater will eventually pass you.
    • Speeders: If you see a car speeding or aggressively changing lanes behind you, stay in your lane while maintaining your speed.
  1. Adapt to road conditions. Even light rain can produce dangerous conditions, particularly early in the season when the water picks up oil from the road surface, making it slippery. Tires lose their grip at higher speeds, so slowing down in inclement weather is a fundamental defensive-driving technique.
  2. Familiarize yourself with traffic rules. Refresh your memory by browsing a Department of Motor Vehicles pamphlet detailing the rules of the road. It provides guidelines on rights of way, road signs, traffic law, and contains tips on safe driving.
  3. Avoid Rear-Enders in Intersections: Move only when it is clear. Sometimes an intersection gets backed up with traffic.
    • If you’re the first car to go at green, make sure traffic on the other side of the intersection that you are moving into has cleared before you decide to go. This can prevent you from getting in a situation where you might get T-boned if you get stuck or stalled in an intersection.
    • Turning into an intersection: a lot of rear-end collisions happen when the driver behind you assumes you are going to complete the turn, even if traffic is backed up.
    • Give yourself enough room: if you must stop in an intersection, slow down carefully and keep distance from any other cars that have yet to complete the intersection. If the person behind you ‘flip-flops’ and rear-ends your car, you’ll save yourself the trouble the car in front of you is not involved. No fun having dents front And back.



Director Richard Taylor

Director Richard Taylor

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management
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Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

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Updated: 6:23 a.m. Wednesday, April 16, 2014 | Posted: 5:55 p.m. Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Dad Dies After Road Rage Shooting Near Cheshire Bridge in Atlanta, GA

ATLANTA, Ga. — Police believe it was road rage that caused a driver to shoot into another car near Cheshire Bridge Road in northeast Atlanta.
Demetrius Wright, Gwinnett father of a 10-year-old girl, died three weeks after the shooting. Police believe he was trying to get onto I-85 near Cheshire Bridge when a grey Pontiac Grand Prix, carrying three men, pulled up and opened fire.
Wright’s family gave their first interview since the March 16 shooting.
“It is the worst feeling ever to know that someone you love was on their way home from doing something they love and then they were shot,” Wright’s fiancée Alexis Laney told Channel 2’s Ryan Young on Tuesday.
Laney is supposed to be preparing for one of the happiest days of her life. She was close to marrying, Wright, her boyfriend of 10 years. Instead, she’s planning his funeral this weekend.
“I never would have imagined having to watch my fiancé be buried on Saturday,” Laney said. “I thought he would live forever. I thought we were going to grow old.”
Loved ones are pleading for witnesses to come forward to help police make an arrest in this case.
Anyone with information is asked to call Crime Stoppers at 404-577-8477.


Two Young Women Killed In Separate Road Rage Incidents In GA

Posted: Oct 14, 2013 3:21 PM EDTUpdated: Oct 14, 2013 5:15 PM EDT

By WBTW News Staff

Two young women died in two different road rage incidents in Georgia on Friday – one in a shooting and another in a head-on crash, authorities say.

Cobb County officers say road rage is the reason behind a fatal shooting near Kennesaw, Georgia that killed a female college student.

Meanwhile, another the second road-rage case occurred near Gainesville Friday morning in which a 22-year-old woman was killed in a crash.

College student Kim Kilgore, age 21, is dead after authorities say she was shot inside the gates of her apartment complex early Friday morning.

The suspect, 22-year-old Lindsey Sparkles Lashayla, has been arrested and charged with murder in the shooting.

Police say a case of road rage incident between people in two vehicles led to a fight at the apartment complex where Kilgore was shot.

Friends say Kilgore who was a student at Kennesaw State University died after being taken off life support.

The incident involved two carloads of females and an altercation started near the gate to the apartment complex, said Sgt. Dana Pierce, a Cobb police spokesman.

“There was a whole lot going on out there,” he told the Atlanta Journal. “You have two carloads or groups of people who are at one another.”

Kilgore was studying communications at Kennesaw State University, where she was a former member of the Gamma Phi Beta sorority.

The sorority issued a statement on Twitter Friday about the Paulding County High School graduate: “Our prayers go out to our dear friend Kim Kilgore!” The university also issued a statement, expressing condolences and announcing that it was preparing to offer grief counseling for those who knew Kilgore.

Police do not have information indicating the suspect and the victim previously knew each other, Pierce said.

In the second incident, an out-of-control pickup truck driver repeatedly rammed a couple from behind on a highway in Gainesville. The couple then called 9-1-1:

Caller: We have got a red pickup truck following us
Caller: He just hit us! He just hit us!
Driver: He’s about to hit somebody head-on.
Caller: He just hit somebody head-on. No! No! No!
Dispatcher: Ma’am, ma’am. Calm down.
Driver: He just hit somebody head-on going about 70 miles an hour.

Investigators say that’s when 48-year-old Michael Williams, the driver behind the wheel in the pickup, hit 22-year-old Chelsea Gerrish head on killing jimself and Gerrish.

The couple heard on the 911 calls has not been identified.

Funeral services for Kilgore be held on Wednesday, October 16, 2013 at 2:00 PM, from West Ridge Church in Dallas, GA, with Pastor Gene Evans and Pastor Mark Evans officiating.

Interment will follow in Peaceful Meadows Memorial Park. The Kilgore family will receive friends at Clark Funeral Home, on Tuesday, October 15, 2013 between the hours of 4:00 and 8:00 p.m.

Clark Funeral Home in Hiram, GA, is in charge of arrangements.

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Who Would Benefit: 

–> While driving you get angry at the least thing.
–> You experience anger or rage frequently
–> You experience anger or rage with too much intensity
–> You experience rage often (irrational over reaction to an activating event)
–> Your driving becomes reckless
–> You want to drive fellow ‘idiot’ drivers off the road
–> You want to slam your auto into another vehicle
-> You speed up then slam on your brakes so car will ram you

–> You honk the horn everyday, multiple times. This is not Manhattan.

–> When you rage you lose time and don’t remember what happened
–> When you get ‘very angry, rant ‘ [RAGE] you alienate everyone around you
–> When you get ‘angry’ you want to destroy
–> You can’t help but break objects, kick doors, punch holes in the wall
–> You stuff feelings fairly well but need rage to let off steam
–> You don’t have many emotions ‘Mr Spock’
–> I like myself but not many others don’t
–> People seem to avoid me, or walk on “eggshells” around me
–> Stress is my middle name
–> People tell me I need Anger Management
–> I know it’s the other driver, not me that is stupid
–> I text and drive
–> I talk on the phone 90% of the time while driving
–> My car is a wreck and I’m bound to have an accident


Lesbian Charged With Killing Kennesaw Student During Road Rage Incident

Sparkle Lindsey and Kim Kilgore

A 22-year-old Cobb County woman was charged with the shooting death of a Kennesaw student during a road rage incident that is slowly attracting national attention.

Kimberly Kilgore, 21, and Sparkles LaShayla Lindsey’s lives couldn’t be more different. The popular Kennesaw State University student loved country and western music, and she took pride in her vast collection of cowboy boots.

Lindsey emulated the thug life that was glorified by the rappers she idolized. According to published reports, Lindsey, of Austell, had a criminal record that most rappers would envy.

The two women’s lives intersected on a darkened stretch of Shiloh Road in Cobb County, GA, early Friday morning. A road rage incident involving 2 carloads of women ended with shots fired just inside the gates of Shiloh Green Apartments around 2 a.m.

Witnesses say the two drivers — Lindsey and Kilgore — got into a physical altercation in the parking lot of the apartment complex. At some point, Lindsey pulled a gun out of her waistband and fired a single shot, striking Kilgore in the head.

Kilgore was transported to WellStar Kennestone Hospital, where she was pronounced dead. Lindsey and her friends fled the scene before police arrived.

Detectives secured an arrest warrant for Lindsey later that day and she was taken into custody without incident. Lindsey was charged with aggravated assault and murder.

Kilgore’s friends struggle to understand the senseless violence committed by a young woman who had at least 2 prior arrests for assault and battery.

Kilgore was scheduled to work Friday night at Johnny’s BBQ in Powder Springs. One of her co-workers was a passenger in Kilgore’s SUV that night.

“She works every Friday night and here it is Friday night and we’re walking around … just can’t even describe the feeling,” Manager Alisa Pannell told Channel 2 reporter Ashley Swann.

Cobb County residents vented their frustrations on social media and message boards. Most of the angry chatter centered around Kilgore and Lindsey’s skin color and the perceived media bias that suppresses race when a black kills a white.

Lindsey’s friends defended her on social media networks. “My old co-worker, Sparkles Lindsey, killed a girl over a road rage incident. While she was wrong, people need to watch how they drive,” tweeted Natasha Hall.

Lindsey is being held without bond in the Cobb County jail.

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Georgia Boy, 4, Shot in Road Rage Incident

PHOTO A frustrated man driving down an Atlanta, Georgia road shot into a minivan, injuring a four-year-old toddler strapped into his car seat.


 Atlanta police are hunting the impatient driver who became enraged when a mini van didn’t move quickly enough when a light turned green and then fired a gun at the mini van, injuring a 4-year-old toddler strapped into his car seat.

The mother of Korda, the boy who was hurt, said that the driver behind her turned angry when she didn’t accelerate at a green light fast enough on Tuesday.

“Once he blew his horn, I blew my horn back like, ok I hear you,” Tammitha Williams said.

When Williams made a turn, the angry driver followed her.

“The next thing I know, he’s behind me, he’s weaving back and forth in traffic like coming beside my car and I’m like, what’s wrong with this man? He jumped back behind me and that’s when I heard the gunshot,” Williams said.

The bullet penetrated the back door and then went through the backseat of the van. It was strong enough to go through Korda’s car seat.

“I was panicking, I was praying because I didn’t know where he got hit or anything, so I’m just praying, asking God to make sure he’s OK,” Williams said.

Williams said that Korda remained surprisingly calm.

“He didn’t cry at all, he was a big boy…I cried like a baby myself,” she said.

Korda was shot in his buttocks.

“I got a big hole in my van, not only in my van. I got it in my heart because they really hurt my baby,” Williams said. “I don’t know this person, but he hurt me…it could have been a whole different outcome, he could have been dead and gone, I could have been burying a 4-year-old.”

Dekalb County Police Chief Bill O’Brien said it was only a matter of inches that saved Korda’s life.

“We are very lucky because we could just as easy be working a homicide case today,” O’Brien said. “He’s [Korda’s] extremely lucky, a matter of inches in any direction, it could have hit him in the spine. Iif the shot had been fired a little higher, it could have even hit him in the back of the head.”

Police have recovered ballistic evidence and believe the shooter was a man driving with a woman in a white SUV.

Korda will return to the hospital next week for a procedure, but doctors say the bullet hit soft tissue and luckily, he will fully recover.


Road Rage Turns Violent, Toddler Shot in Car Seat

This isn’t the first time road rage has taken a violent turn.

YouTube videos show countless video of drivers coming unglued, viciously punching each other, spitting and throwing everything from coffee to crutches.

In 2008, Thomas Timko was shot in front of his 8-year-old daughter by a driver who said he’d cut him off at a Philadelphia toll plaza.

A former Marine, Christian Squillaciotti, pleaded guilty to the shooting in 2010 and was sentenced to 13 to 26 years in prison.


Road Rage is often called intermittent explosive disorder, a term used to refer to violent incidents resulting from stress caused by accidents or incidents on roadways. It is often a natural extension of aggressive driving.

Road Rage frustration and aggression are often triggered by traffic conditions, being in a hurry, stress related to other pressures. Road Rage is a feeling of retaliating of awlfulizing the other driver. The other driver deserves retribution. We make a free choice in what we do. We choose how we are going to respond. 

Road Rage:

  • Occurs when a driver reacts angrily to other drivers
  • You cut off another driver
  • Tailgating
  • Gesturing or waving fist.
  • Flip off someone
  • Aggressive driving
  • Excessive speeds
  • Scream at another
  • Chase another car
  • Honk continuously at another car
  • Make threatening gestures
  • Try to injure or kill another driver
  • Name what you do: _______________

Road Rage is an symptom of an underlying issue with a driver. Impulse Control is a major issue. They are unable to remain in control of themselves or their emotions. Often stress is very high in your life. Perhaps your personal or business life is not going very well. Your anger spreads beyond driving creeping into other aspects of your life.

See: What is Anger.

See: Do I Need Anger Management?

See: Rage Management

See: Road Rage Management

Road Rage: Choose to Calm Down and disengage from your stress. See above blog article.

For drivers who do not experience Road Rage knowing what might trigger a person is equally important. Do not flip someone your middle finger. They may have a pistol in hand waiting for an excuse. Some people may just not like your look. Your race. Your hair color.

Atlanta has now become an aggressive driving city with too many cars and not enough roads. Vote for more MARTA, High Speed Trains, Other Public Transportation ideas when they come up in Voting. Use MARTA when you can.


  • Be calm
  • Listen to soothing music
  • Slow down
  • Become a better driver
  • If you have anxiety while driving take a driver education course in defensive driving
  • Take more time to get to your destination and expect delays
  • Be courteous while driving
  • Make appointments in non traffic times
  • Stop multi-tasking while driving
  • Stop talking on phone while driving
  • Stop looking at your phone while driving
  • Allow a car beside you to get ahead of you when lane narrows
  • When a driver cuts in front of you abruptly, let it go and expect that again
  • Drive with 360 degree awareness paying attention to all sides, front, back, left, right (Zen Driving)
  • Anticipate traffic incidents with attentive awareness “reading” the traffic ahead of you
  • Arrive safely to live another day

Remain Calm and Carry On.


Richard Taylor BS, CAMF

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253

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Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253

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