55 Inspiring Quotes On Emotional Intelligence

55 Inspiring Quotes On Emotional Intelligence

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Here’s some inspiration in case you missed it….By Gordon Tredgold

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55 Inspiring Quotes That Show the Importance of Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is a major factor in our success.

BY GORDON TREDGOLD
Founder and CEO, Leadership Principles@gordontredgold

Emotional intelligence can be the most potent weapon in our armory. It helps boost our self-awareness, self-control, motivation, empathy, and social skills, relationship management, all of which help us become much better leaders.

Here are 55 quotes to remind us of the power and importance of emotional intelligence and why we should focus on developing it further.

 

  1. If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. -Daniel Goleman
  2. 75 percent of careers are derailed for reasons related to emotional competencies, including inability to handle interpersonal problems; unsatisfactory team leadership during times of difficulty or conflict; or inability to adapt to change or elicit trust.  -Center for Creative Leadership
  3. When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion. -Dale Carnegie
  4. When our emotional health is in a bad state, so is our level of self-esteem. We have to slow down and deal with what is troubling us, so that we can enjoy the simple joy of being happy and at peace with ourselves. -Jess C. Scott
  5. The only way to change someone’s mind is to connect with them from the heart.
    -Rasheed Ogunlaru
  6. No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.
    -Theodore Roosevelt
  7. Unleash in the right time and place before you explode at the wrong time and place. -Oli Anderson
  8. The greatest ability in business is to get along with others and influence their actions. -John Hancock
  9. In a high-IQ job pool, soft skills like discipline, drive, and empathy mark those who emerge as outstanding. -Daniel Goleman
  10. Any person capable of angering you becomes your master. -Epictetus
  11. Anyone can be angry–that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way–that is not easy. -Aristotle
  12. Every time we allow someone to move us with anger, we teach them to be angry.  -Barry Neil Kaufman
  13. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. -Leo Buscaglia
  14. Emotions can get in the way or get you on the way. -Mavis Mazhura
  15. Experience is not what happens to you–it’s how you interpret what happens to you. -Aldous Huxley
  16. Running a marathon with a backpack is tough and may hinder you from winning the race. Don’t let the baggage from your past–heavy with fear, guilt, and anger–slow you down.  -Maddy Malhotra
  17. Our feelings are not there to be cast out or conquered. They’re there to be engaged and expressed with imagination and intelligence. -T.K. Coleman
  18. When you make people angry, they act in accordance with their baser instincts, often violently and irrationally. When you inspire people, they act in accordance with their higher instincts, sensibly and rationally. Also, anger is transient, whereas inspiration sometimes has a lifelong effect. -Peace Pilgrim
  19. It isn’t stress that makes us fall–it’s how we respond to stressful events.
    -Wayde Goodall
  20. Whatever is begun in anger, ends in shame. -Benjamin Franklin
  21. Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence.  -Robert K. Cooper, PhD
  22. It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head–it is the unique intersection of both. -David Caruso
  23. We define emotional intelligence as the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions. -Salovey and Mayer
  24. For news of the heart, ask the face. -West African saying
  25. Let’s not forget that the little emotions are the great captains of our lives and we obey them without realizing it. -Vincent van Gogh
  26. Quick to judge, quick to anger, slow to understand … prejudice, fear, and ignorance walk hand in hand. -Peart
  27. The essential difference between emotion and reason is that emotion leads to action while reason leads to conclusions. -Donald Calne
  28. You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. -Dale Carnegie
  29. Your intellect may be confused, but your emotions will never lie to you. -Roger Ebert
  30. Change happens in the boiler room of our emotions–so find out how to light their fires. -Jeff Dewar
  31. If we lack emotional intelligence, whenever stress rises the human brain switches to autopilot and has an inherent tendency to do more of the same, only harder.  Which, more often than not, is precisely the wrong approach in today’s world.
    -Robert K. Cooper
  32. Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business. -Norman Vincent Peale
  33. To increase your effectiveness, make your emotions subordinate to your commitments. -Brian Koslow
  34. When you listen with empathy to another person, you give that person psychological air. -Stephen R. Covey
  35. Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolution. -Kahlil Gibran
  36. Remember that failure is an event, not a person. -Zig Ziglar
  37. We are at our most powerful the moment we no longer need to be powerful. -Eric Micha’el Leventhal
  38. I’m a pessimist because of intelligence, but an optimist because of will. -Antonio Gramsci
  39. It takes something more than intelligence to act intelligently. -Fyodor Dostoyevsky
  40. A leader is a dealer in hope. -Napoleon Bonaparte
  41. When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen. -Ernest Hemingway
  42. Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone … just remember that all the people in this world haven’t had the advantages that you’ve had. -F. Scott Fitzgerald
  43. Some people think only intellect counts: knowing how to solve problems, knowing how to get by, knowing how to identify an advantage and seize it. But the functions of intellect are insufficient without courage, love, friendship, compassion, and empathy. -Dean Koontz
  44. He’d always known that shit rolled downhill, but he never knew tears did the same thing. -Amy Lane
  45. Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate. -C.G. Jung
  46. Don’t compromise yourself. You’re all you’ve got.  -Janis Joplin
  47. Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one’s awareness of one’s ignorance.
    -Anthony de Mello
  48. The way to do is to be. -Lao Tzu
  49. The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
    -Carl R. Rogers
  50. I know that I am intelligent, because I know that I know nothing. -Socrates
  51. If we can’t laugh at ourselves, do we have the right to laugh at others? -C.H. Hamel
  52. Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others. -Jack Welch
  53. In my 35 years in business, I have always trusted my emotions. I have always believed that by touching emotion you get the best people to work with you, the best clients to inspire you, the best partners and most devoted customers.
    -Kevin Roberts
  54. One way to boost our willpower and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us. -Daniel Goleman
  55. Emotional intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it determines the majority of our daily actions. Research suggests it is responsible for as much as 80 percent of the “success” in our lives. -J. Freedman

The opinions expressed here by Inc.com columnists are their own, not those of Inc.com.

PUBLISHED ON: AUG 4, 2016

Source: http://www.inc.com/gordon-tredgold/55-inspiring-quotes-that-show-the-importance-of-emotional-intelligence.html

 

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Emotional Intelligence 2.0 Interview With Dr. Travis Bradberry

Emotional Intelligence 2.0 Interview With Dr. Travis Bradberry

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Emotional Intelligence Vs. Intelligence Quotient

Emotional Intelligence for the masses dates back to Emotional Intelligence book by Daniel Goleman research (1995), based on the work of Dr. John Mayer, Dr. Peter Salovey, and Dr. David Caruso.

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Twenty-one years later, the research points to emotional intelligence as the critical factor that boosts star performers above other co-workers.

Emotional intelligence affects:

  • How we manage what we say and do
  • Handle social complexities
  • Personal decision making for either positive or negative outcomes

 

Emotional intelligence is made up of four core skills that pair up under two primary competencies: personal competence and social competence.

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Personal Competence is made up of your self-awareness and self-management skills.

Personal competence is your ability to stay aware of your emotions and manage your behavior and tendencies.

 

  • Self-Awareness is your ability to accurately perceive your emotions and stay aware of them as they happen.
  • Self-Management is your ability to use awareness of your emotions to stay flexible and positively direct your behavior.

Social Competence is made up of your social awareness and relationship management skills.

Social competence is your ability to understand other people’s moods, behavior, and motives in order to improve the quality of your relationships.

  • Social Awareness is your ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people and understand what is really going on.
  • Relationship Management is your ability to use awareness of your emotions and the others’ emotions to manage interactions successfully.

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This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Michelle shares her personal journey towards Unconditional Positive Regard and self acceptance through the lens of parenting. This is a story about relationships and ultimately the relationship you have with yourself.

Michelle Charfen has had a lifelong passion for learning. She was fascinated by the human body and from an early age dreamed of becoming a physician. In high school, she began tutoring students, discovering a love of facilitating learning for others as well. She would eventually study Human Biology as an undergraduate at Stanford, teach preschool during the summer vacations, and spend the year after graduation teaching at an elementary school in East Palo Alto.

Michelle’s childhood dream was finally realized upon attending Harvard Medical School. She then completed a residency in Emergency Medicine at Harbor-UCLA Medical Center, followed by a research fellowship during which she obtained a Masters of Epidemiology from the School of Public Health at UCLA. Teaching medical students and residents in an academic environment was perfectly suited to her enthusiasm for constant learning. In 2008, she stepped down from her faculty position as an Assistant Professor at the UCLA School of Medicine to devote this period of life to her growing family while continuing to work part time in Emergency Medicine.

Her personal journey, struggles, and successes as a parent organically led to an interest in supporting other families. Michelle completed the Parent Educator Certification Program through Echo Parenting and Education, and now combines this training with her previous experience and knowledge to help others learn effective tools for compassionate communication.

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3. Walking Towards What You Want
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Director Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management is offering an Intensive For Couples Wanting To Enhance Their Relationship; For those couples who are having trouble in their relationship. If Anger seems to be an overriding emotions that comes up too frequently and too intensely lately, too many arguments, discord ever present, this is for you.

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–>You hear yourself say: “Our relationship is messed up!”

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2) Your partner tells you he/she loves you but behavior shows otherwise.
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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE SERIES II

Emotional Intelligence – What is it anyway?

Emotional Intelligence Series – Part II

Continuing this Emotional Intelligence Series,  I wanted to get more into “What is Emotional Intelligence.”

Links to Series below:

Emotional Intelligence Series – Part I
Emotional Intelligence Series – Part II

In Part I, I mentioned this is not a complete definitive article on Emotional Intelligence [ EI ] as that would be overwhelming and not serve the purpose I seek; namely to bring the term Emotional Intelligence [ EI ] and it meaning and it’s application in a more understandable way to the “normal” person interested or having to take court ordered/employer mandated course/class.

To keep things really simple, I like to open with the term Emotional Intelligence as saying “Lets reverse the words to Intelligence With Our Emotions”.

Many of us live in a reactive world to other people, events, situations, our own beliefs and therefore our emotions are highly experienced and expressed without a moment of thought or internal interaction. We simply react to stimuli.

If we observe animals, like our pet dog, we see how it inter-reacts to other dogs while walking it in the park, runners, children, smells, watching TV, etc. Our dog reacts. We often understand it dog’s nature, Dogs bark. Some people try to make their dog “behave” and not bark. They apply Behavior Training so their dog learns more “acceptable” ways of being at the park and at home in the backyard. Some dogs bark at everything others seem better suited to go along smelling, walking and doing their business. Some of this may have to do with the dog’s breed, some the pet owner and their vibes/beliefs, tolerance for the dog’s behavior, perhaps training.

We as human beings have a larger brain and have the ability to perceive more. Both in an IQ (Intelligence Quotient) analytical left brain sort of way and also on an Emotional level (Emotional Intelligence) right brain sort of way.

For example: Some of us are able to “read” people’s expressions, eye movements / eye expression and body positions / language to sense what they are saying….it adds clues to whether we “think” …”Are they are telling the truth?”…whether we are to “believe” that what they are saying is believable and therefore acceptable and true. We accept and discard the conversation and often the person too. So this ability can be also be called “common sense” or “street smarts”.

Most of us have some idea about those two terms called “common sense” or “street smarts”. We laugh and say the 21st Century person has lost that, hence all the online forums asking the most trivial questions, Facebook, the Call In Radio Shows, the Call In TV Shows, Reality TV, older newspaper columns handling such questions. People are very interested in what others think about their situation and what to best do about it. Most people do not look for inner wisdom or guidance from the quiet within.

On the other hand there are people with “Common Sense or Street Smarts” who do pretty well to very well in their lives, many without any or less than the best education. Why is this? They have a “knowing” to how things work and “work it.” This is a component of what is now called the field of Emotional-Social Intelligence. Fancy term for what many of us already know. But what about the others? What about you who think you know what is going on but find yourself reprimanded by the court system, your spouse, your family member, your employer. Are they just plain wrong? Or is there something more to be open to and learn and grow?

Is it possible to grow and learn about this interesting field of emotions?

I firmly believe there is! Emotions are complex and as we start to pay attention to ourselves we start to know who and what we are. Self knowledge often takes a life time of devotion and work. Who really are we as a person,  an individual? We do we accept/reject? Why?

Most people accept we are complex beings (called human beings) and that we are made up of three to four components or layers/levels.

  • Physical Level
  • Mental Level
  • Emotional Level
  • and overlooked/disputed: Spiritual Level
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4 Domains

Most people have a hard time balancing all three or four levels. Since I believe in the Spiritual and most people believe in some kind of Higher Power let’s call it four levels or domains.

The two most overlooked as you can acknowledge are the Emotional and Spiritual domains.

We will look at these four domains next. – Richard

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE SERIES I

Emotional Intelligence – What is it anyway?
 
Emotional Intelligence – Series Part I
 
The term “Emotional Intelligence” is used today as if “everyone” knew what the term means with all of its ramifications. As I introduce the term and concept in our Atlanta Anger Management, Anderson and Anderson™ , Anger Management Classes very few people have actually heard the term and know what it means.

This Emotional Intelligence Series will try to investigate the term and expand on its meaning and practical applications in everyday life. Join in the investigation if you have anything to add, ask, or correct.

“Emotional Intelligence” the term, was coined and formally defined by John (Jack) Mayer of the University of New Hampshire and Peter Salovey of Yale University in 1990.  1

They expanded on the concept by Howard Gardner (1983) while at Harvard University that multiple intelligences may exist in humans including an aptitude for introspection and “personal intelligence.”

Mayer and Salovey joined with their fellow colleague David Caruso to create a Emotional Intelligence (EQ) measuring instrument they named Mayer-Salovey-Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test (MSCEIT).

Also working in the field was Dr. Reuven Bar-On and by 1985 developed the concept of Emotional Quotient (EQ). He believed that our intelligence was made up both IQ but also of overlapping distinct attitudes and skills that he later defined into an instrument for measurement he called Emotional Quotient Inventory or for short EQ-i®

Of course there were many others all working separately on different concepts related to intelligence other than Intelligence Quotient (IQ). IQ had already been accepted and used in schools in many countries to measure students cognitive or rational aptitudes to determine “how smart” they were.

NOTE: This article is not a complete history of Emotional Intelligence. It is to open up the term to the “public” everyday person, so this portion is brief to keep things moving.

Daniel Jay Goleman is an author, psychologist, and science journalist who was writing for The New York Times (12 years) specializing in psychology and brain sciences. He studied and complied years worth of research in the field of psychological functioning and personal skills and in 1995 authored the book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. 2

As they say, “the rest is history”. The book was on the New York Times Best Sellers list for more than 1 1/2 years explaining that Emotional Intelligence existed with lots of research to back up the premise that EQ often is more important to the individual than one’s IQ as a determining factor for success in life.

There was a time when IQ was considered the leading determinant of success. In this fascinating book, based on brain and behavioral research, Daniel Goleman argues that our IQ-idolizing view of intelligence is far too narrow. Instead, Goleman makes the case for “emotional intelligence” being the strongest indicator of human success.  He defines emotional intelligence in terms of self-awareness, altruism,  personal motivation, empathy, and the ability to love and be loved by
friends, partners, and family members. People who possess high emotional  intelligence are the people who truly succeed in work as well as play, building flourishing careers and lasting, meaningful relationships. Because emotional intelligence isn’t fixed at birth, Goleman outlines how adults as well as parents of young children can sow the seeds. 3

So Mr. Goleman defines a set of skills: self-awareness, including control of one’s impulses, self-motivation, empathy and social competence in interpersonal relationships that determine one’s effectiveness in negotiating life.

Peter Salovey and Jack Mayer describe Emotional Intelligence as “the ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional meanings, and to reflectively regulate emotions in a way that promote emotional and intellectual growth.” 4

For people who need anger management, Emotional Intelligence is a key in learning to increase self-awareness and control one’s impulses along with many other skill sets that we will be looking at in the upcoming article series.
 

Next in series (II)
 
Emotional Intelligence – What is it anyway? Part Two

 

George Anderson of Anderson and Anderson is a pioneer in the field of Anger Management and has Emotional Intelligence as one of the key four “anchors’ of his model of anger management curriculum. He now has become one of the forerunners in using Emotional Intelligence testing instruments such as the Bar-On EQ-i 2.0 to help determine an individual’s strengths and weaknesses in Emotional Intelligence and provides coaching to help improve deficient areas. All Anderson and Anderson™ Certified Anger Management Providers (CAMF) are now trained in administering the Bar-On EQ-i 2.0 through Anderson and Anderson™ .

Mr. George Anderson also uses it in his Disruptive Physicians work.
 
Richard Taylor also offers Emotional Intelligence coaching in Atlanta to the public
and can fly to your location or do phone/Skype consults for Individuals – Attorneys – Business – Corporations –  Government – Universities & Colleges – Hospital Staff (not Physicians).
 
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1. P. Salovey and J.D. Mayer, “Emotional Intelligence”, Imagination, Cognition, and Personality, 9 (1990): 185-211.

2. Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ (New York: Bantam, (1995)

3. Amazon.com Review
Source: http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-Matter-More-Than/dp/055338371X

4. J.D. Mayer, P. Salovery, and D. Caruso, Mayer-Salovey-Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test (MSCIET) User’s Manual (Toronto: Multi-Health Systems, 2002).