ANGER MANAGEMENT TIP – LOVE TODAY

Anger Management Tip: Love Today

To help dissipate anger…begin to love today.

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day.

Some are going to celebrate it tonight, Friday night.

A call out to love. To show the people in your life a special reach out; a special meal together, spending time together, a gift of flowers, candy, a box of chocolate, a teddy bear, some pajamas, some diamonds, a sweet kiss, a tender embrace or some other gift of love and appreciation. Enact love today. Show love today.

TIP:
To help dissipate anger, jealousy, envy, remorse, depression, anxiety, panic, impulse control and more negative emotions and destructive interactions embrace learning to love today.

Dare yourself to grow and become more human. For to love is to be human.

To love is to be more Divine like.

What is love?

What is love in a relationship?

Why do most relationships have their ups and downs?

Why do you feel stressed and angry sometimes, or all the time?

  • What is love?

 

  • God is Love
  • Love is Light
  • Light is God
  • Love is patient
  • Love is kind
  • Love does not envy
  • Love is humility. It is not proud
  • Love is self less, not self seeking
  • Love is not anger
  • Love is slow to high emotions
  • Love is not ill-natured
  • Love is courteous
  • Love is not hate
  • Love is joy
  • Love gives without expectation
  • Love does not keep score
  • Love seeks Truth
  • Love is Truth
  • Truth is Love
  • Love is Trust
  • Trust is Love
  • Love desires another’s happiness
  • Love delights in another’s happiness
  • Happiness is in the heart
  • Love is felt in the heart
  • Love dwells in our hearts
  • Love is polite
  • Love esteems
  • Love praises
  • Love blesses
  • Love is content
  • Love is consistent
  • Love perseveres
  • Love is Charity
  • Love troubles no one
  • Love does not complain 
  • Love does not fret 
  • Love does not whine
  • Love does not nag  
  • Love does not boast
  • Love does not curse
  • Love does not lie
  • Love is not falsehoods
  • Love is not irritable
  • Love wishes well
  • Love does not judge but leaves that to God
  • Love forgives
  • Love lets go
  • Love flows through you
  • Love is respect for others and oneself
  • Love is courteous
  • Love rejoices is another’s success
  • Love treats others as you want to be treated
  • Love submits
  • Love bears all things
  • Love protects
  • Love gives
  • Love is not held onto
  • Love is empathy
  • Love appreciates
  • Love has gratitude
  • Love honors
  • Love is tender
  • Love is mild
  • Love is not violent
  • Love does not hit
  • Love is not harsh
  • Love is affectionate
  • Love is pure
  • Love is not haughty
  • Love is not proud
  • Love is not inflated
  • Love sees true reality
  • Love is not delusion
  • Love is not narcissism
  • Love is not self glamour
  • Love is not self grandeur
  • Love is not conceited
  • Love is not rash
  • Love is slow to act
  • Love is not tumultuous
  • Love is not chaos
  • Love is order
  • Love is peace
  • Love is delight
  • Love is joy
  • Love is laughter
  • Love is joyful dancing
  • Love is babies
  • Love does not desire to be noticed or praised
  • Love is not ignorant
  • Love is high moral values
  • Love weighs consequences
  • Love is not hypocritical
  • Love transcends
  • Love helps us grow
  • Love heals

  • Love inspires

  • Love helps us want to do and be better
  • Love endures
  • Love is forever
  • Love always Hopes
  • True love never fails
  • Love never dies
  • Without love there is no life
  • Love God
  • Love your neighbor
  • Love your partner
  • Love yourself
  • Love well

  • Love defers wrath
  • Love is God
  • God is Love 
 

Have you loved today?

 

QUESTIONS

Have you loved today?

Have you decided to Love God today?

Have you loved your spouse today?

Have you loved your partner today?

Have you loved your children really well today?

Have you loved your family today?

Have you loved your neighbors today?

Have you tried to share yourself and love another?

Have you smiled today in joy?

Have you laughed heartily today?

Have you practiced kindness to a stranger today?

Have you decided to not be impulsive today?

Have you been patient today?

Have you let go of anger today?

Have you let go of jealousy today?

Have you let go of envy today?

Have you let go of counting right and wrong today?

Have you let go of always being right today?

Have you let go of “white” lies today?

Have you stopped being selfish today?

Have you let go of nagging today?

Have you let go of blaming others today?

Have you Respected yourself today?

Have you Respected others today?

Have you treated others as you want to be treated?

Have you stop judging today?

Have you decided to Love God today?

Have you decided to love today?

If not today? When?

Today is now. Tomorrow may never happen.

Death comes to all. When is your last day, your last hour?

Act today. Love today.

It is easy. Just begin. Act. Do.

Your life becomes blessed.

Love overshadows all other emotions. Let love dissipate or dissolve your problems and anger.

What is love to you? Comments welcome.

Note: If you make hateful negative comments then you are deleted… so do not waste your time…for some it is hard to love…

 CONTACT

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

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DISSAPATE ANGER WITH LOVE PRACTICE

ANGER MANAGEMENT TIP : Love Others

If we choose to love more each day our anger will dissolve.

Love comes from the heart. As Valentine’s Day is upon us we see a lot of heart symbols on everything. Besides buying flowers, exchanging cards, getting large teddy bears, eating chocolate just maybe the real meaning to Valentine’s Day is to remind us to reach out of ourselves and actually learn to love another person well. To give them what all humans want: To be loved.

I always wondered why I give on Valentine’s but almost never received. Is it women want but don’t give? Is it tradition? I always felt loved. Yes and that was enough.

A wisdom teaching we heard in this video LETTING GO

Lesson 3: Give without expectation
That works perfectly for Valentines and every day after.

then…

I learn to give love without expectation.

Jesus told us to love unconditionally. To love those who insult you, love those who hate you. Maybe even love those who are angry with you! Tip: Remain silent and do not return their energy as it emboldens the aggressive person. Things get worse then. It is so hard to be silent. Impulse Control. Most angry people do not have any Impulse Control. So this is a profound teaching to us angry folks. Impulse Control is a key to good Anger Management. Mmm…be silent.

Jesus two commandments were: Love God And Love Your Neighbor. Simple right? Well most of us forget both.

Anger Management Tip:
Please consider this Valentine Day and each day after to practice the art of loving from the heart with intention. To give love without expectation. To smile at another without expecting anything in return. To practice random acts of kindness. To practice changing our negativity to positive thoughts and actions.

To let love flow through us. With intent we do not try to hold onto love. It is meant to be like a river….as it flows out more flows in to replace it. If we hold onto it, love becomes stagnant like a pond that needs draining.

So with intention I try to reach out to love others without expecting anything back. As I do so each day anger and other negative emotions dissolve and come up less.

This is good anger management. Love. Love without expectation.

For other anger management, stress management, communication life skills see our blog

or have courage and seek professional help with Richard Taylor. You will immediately feel better and be given Action Steps to get change started right away. Others will see and experience real changes in you for the better. Relationship Conflict eases.

Have courage and call today. Call Richard Taylor at 678.576.1913

CONTACT

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678.576.1913
Fax: 1-866.551.1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

DISSAPATE ANGER WITH LOVE PRACTICE

ANGER AND STRESS REDUCTION TIPS

Anger and Stress Reduction Tips By Past Clients

Occasionally when I get some extra time, I call some of my former clients to ‘check in” with them to see what changes they have made and what coping skills from the class they have actually adopted.

Enjoy! – Richard

 

Letting Go

“I finally realized that my anger from past situations was over.  Why keep thinking about it and feeling angry over and over. Hey I thought Let Go. As you said… the past is the past. I now try to live this moment and not live in the past or future. Living is right now. Hey, am I enlightened?” – Crazy Willy

Social Network

“Having  a group of real friends to be real with that meet regularly help me process my emotions like anger, frustration, alienation, helplessness and such. The key is to have real friends you can trust.” – Maria

Maritial Arts

“I do martial arts, called Taekwondo. When you sweat your brain releases endorphins, which makes you feel good. It is the happy hormone. I feel better after a workout.” – Sun Lee

Journaling

“I started writing journals. So I would write down why I felt angry and keep on writing and writing until I felt some relief. After a while you “auto write. The juice comes then. It takes a lot of my anger away and I feel more at peace.” – Brittany

Laughter

“Richard turned me onto Laughter Yoga. It’s free and I try to laugh a lot more. It helps release endorphins and dopamine, the feel good hormones and also releases my stress. It’s fun to laugh for no reason. Angry feeling come up less. Good people too.” – Jen

Nature

“I recently began walking in my neighborhood park. I try to stop thinking and just walk. No music. Just silence. I focus on the sounds I hear. I try to connect with my heart and kindle a feeling of love. Being in connection with nature is a wonderful way to release thought negativity and absorb quiet positivity. 30-40 minutes does it.” – Tee

Chocolate

“I eat chocolate and I feel better!” – Tanawin

 

Call Richard at 678.576.1913 and find out how to be less angry. Invest in yourself. You are worth it. Brief in duration and works wonders.

 

CONTACT

 

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

COMMUNICATION TIPS FOR VALENTINE DAY

C U P I D For Better Communication

CCommunication requires de-escalation: successful communication requires de-escalating your own heightened emotion before engaging your partner.

UUnderstanding is not automatic: you and your partner are not always going to share the same perspective—so the assumption that your partner should, by default, understand your perspective can cause frustration and alienation for both of you.

PPractice makes permanent: repeated practice, not just good intention or a single instance of success, brings about the change in your relationship that you want to see.

IInterdependence is the key: a good balance of dependence and independence is the key to healthy relationships.

DDe-escalate whenever needed: if emotions start to escalate, call for an immediate cease-fire or time-out to calm down before reengaging. Heightened emotion, whether it’s anxiety, fear, anger, or sadness, only heightens disconnect in an interaction. You need to de-escalate your own heightened emotion before you’re going to experience connection in any communication.

Copyright © 2013 New Harbinger Publications, Inc., All rights reserved.

http://www.newharbinger.com/

This is a extra fine book publishing company that should be supported for all the great books they publish.

 

 

CONTACT

 

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

INSOMNIA RELIEF

Stress – The Benefits of a Good Night’s Sleep

Adequate sleep is a key part of a healthy lifestyle, and can benefit your heart, weight, mind,  strengthen memory, results in more creativity,  improve your performance, curbs inflammation, improves your grades, affects weight loss, sharpens attention,  helps avoid accidents, lowers cortisol therefore lowers stress, keeps depression at bay.

INSOMNIA RELIEF – STRESS MANAGEMENT
Insomnia: Tips for Better Sleeping

1. Free Your Mind at Bedtime
Establish a “winding down” period in the evenings about an hour before bedtime. Read something calm, meditate, listen to soft music, or take a warm bath. Try making a list of any worries, along with a plan to deal with them, to bring closure to your day.

Tip: Even a 10-minute pre-sleep ritual may help when time is short.

2. Ban Blue Light in the Bedroom
Insomnia feeds on soft blue glow from a cell phone, PDA, speakers, clocks, etc. located in your sleeping room. The short waves of blue light may interfere with sleep.

Tip: Turn off TVs, computers, and other blue light producers an hour before sleep. Cover any blue displays you can’t shut off.

3. Avoid Naps
Napping makes matters worse if you have trouble falling asleep. But if you must nap, keep it brief, 20 minutes or less — and do it early in the day. Any shut-eye within eight hours of your bedtime can sabotage a good night’s sleep.

Tip: When an afternoon slump hits, go for a short walk, drink a glass of ice water, or call a friend.

4. Block the Clock
When you glance at the clock in the wee hours of the night, your sleep will suffer. You worry about how few hours are left before your busy day begins. Clock watchers should put their alarm away from view.

Tip: Use black tape for the blue LED digital clocks on the bedroom DVR.

5. Try a Leg Pillow for Back Pain
Mild low back pain may not wake you, but it can disrupt the deep, restful stages of sleep. Place a thin pillow between the legs for better alignment of the hips and reduced stress on the low back.

Tip: Back sleepers can tuck a pillow under their knees to help ease pain at night.

6. Put Your Neck in Neutral
If you wake tired with a stiff neck, blame your pillow. Pillows that are too fat or too flat cause problems. Your pillow should be just the right size to support your neck in a neutral position. For side sleepers, the nose should align with the center of the body. Stomach sleeping twists the neck and is best avoided.

Tip: Keep your neck neutral before bed, too. Don’t crane your neck to watch TV.

7. Reset Your Body Clock/Sleep Cycle
Go to sleep and wake up at about the same time every day — including weekends. This routine will put your brain and body on a healthy sleep-wake cycle. In time, you’ll be able to fall asleep quickly and sleep soundly through the night. Research says 8 Hours and 15 minutes permits the nature sleep cycle to be completed for best stress relieve and lower cortisol levels that lead to diabetes. Try to get at least 7 hours of sleep. Try to get to sleep before midnight. This also is important as 2:00AM is a critical time in the sleep/cortical cycle.

Tip: Get out in bright light for 5 to 30 minutes as soon as you rise. Light is the most powerful regulator of the biological clock.

8. Exercise Right, Time It Right
Regular exercise has been shown to improve sleep quality, as long as you don’t work out too close to bedtime. A post-workout burst of energy can keep you awake. Aim to finish any vigorous exercise 3 to 4 hours before you go to sleep.

Tip: Gentle mind/body exercises are fine just before sleep. Yoga, meditation, tai chi, and similar routines are a perfect, sleep-inducing nightcap.

9. Eat Right at Night
Avoid heavy foods and big meals late in the day; Last meal before 8:00PM. They tax the digestive system and make it hard to get high-quality sleep. Some people do well with a light evening snack of sleep-inducing foods. Not junk food.

Tip: Finish any snack at least an hour before bed.

10. Stop Sipping After 8 pm
Nothing to drink within two hours of bedtime. It’ll help prevent those sleep-wrecking middle-of-the-night bathroom trips. And it can be difficult to get back to sleep quickly after hitting the cold bathroom floor.

Tip: Keep a nightlight in the bathroom to avoid bright light at night.

11. Rethink Your Drink
Although the tranquilizing effects of alcohol may make you sleepy at bedtime, after the initial effects wear off, alcohol actually causes more frequent awakenings at night and less restful sleep.

Tip: Warm milk or chamomile decaff tea are better beverage choices in the evening.

12. Skip Smoking
Nicotine is a stimulant, just like caffeine. Smoking can keep you from falling asleep and worsen insomnia.

Tip: While you’re planning your quit strategy, you may sleep a little better if you smoke fewer cigarettes in the four hours before bed.

13. Lower the Lights
Starting two to three hours before bedtime, dim the lights around the house and put aside any work, arguments, or complicated decisions. It takes time to turn off the emotional and intellectual “noise” of the day. Lowering the lights signals your brain to produce melatonin, the hormone that brings on sleep.

Tip: Use a 15-watt bulb when reading in the last hour before bed.

14. Neutralize Noise
A dripping faucet, a child’s cough, or a barking dog can add up to big-time sleep loss. And parents may be hypersensitive to noises in the night long after children outgrow the baby stage.

Tip: Soothing “white noise” covers up bumps in the night. You can use a fan, an air-conditioner, or a white noise generator available in stores. Ear plugs also work.

15. Keep Pets Off the Bed
A cat or dog’s night moves can prevent you from settling into the deep sleep you crave. They can also bring fleas, fur, dander, and pollen to your bed, triggering sleep-wrecking allergies.

Tip: Ask your vet or animal trainer how to recondition your pet to sleep, happily, in its own bed.

16. Reserve the Bed for Sleep and Sex
Experts say sleep and sex should be the only pastimes pursued in the bedroom. Everything about the ‘bed room’ should be associated with rest and relaxation. Don’t balance the checkbook, talk on the phone, or watch TV.

Tip: The best sleep temperature for most people is between 68-72 degrees. Many like it colder with more blankets. Do what works for you.

17. Cut the Caffeine
Coffee in the morning is fine for most people, but as soon as the clock strikes noon, avoid caffeine in foods and drinks. Caffeine interferes with the deeper stages of sleep, so even small amounts found in chocolate and decaffeinated coffee may impact your rest.

Tip: Read labels: Lots of things we eat/drink contain caffeine.

18. Seal the Mattress
The sneezing, sniffling, and itching of allergies can cause fragmented sleep — and your mattress may be to blame. Over time, it can fill with mold, dust mite droppings, and other allergy triggers. Avoid these sleep wreckers by sealing your mattress, box springs, and pillow.

Tip: Air-tight, plastic, dust proof covers work best.

19. Use Caution with Sleeping Pills
Sleeping pills may be tempting on those nights when sleep just isn’t coming, but use caution. Some sleep medicines can be habit forming and may have bothersome side effects. Ideally, they should be used as a very short-term solution, while other lifestyle and behavior changes are put in place.

20. When Insomnia Means Something More
Sleep tips are nice when your insomnia is fleeting. But if your sleeplessness persists for at least a month, it’s time to delve deeper into what’s going on. Insomnia may be a symptom of an underlying problem. Depression is notorious for causing insomnia, as are other medical conditions, such as acid reflux, asthma, arthritis, and some medications. Chronic insomnia deserves a closer look and evaluation by a doctor.

Source: http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/sleep-benefits-10/slideshow-sleep-tips

CONTACT:

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

SIGNS YOUR MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP IS IN TROUBLE

SIGNS YOUR MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP IS IN TROUBLE 8


 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Smart Tip: Get help when things start going downhill. Nip things in the bud.
 
 

“Couples wait an average of six years of being unhappy with their relationship before getting help,” said John Gottman, emeritus professor of psychology at the University of Washington and executive director of The Gottman Research Institute in Seattle. 1

 
Many couples never seek any help and either break up or head to a divorce attorney.
 
The divorce rate in the United States is the highest in the world. Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. Sixty-seven percent of all second marriages end in divorce and 73 percent of third marriages end in divorce.2
 
Fifty percent of all children are children of divorce. 40.8% of all children are born of never married parents. 3
 
Divorce is expensive.
 

“It’s a lot more expensive to maintain two separate households and you’re having to do it on the same amount of income,” said Jeff Landers, CDFA, President of Bedrock Divorce Advisors in New York.

 
The impact of divorce is huge in their own lives and that of their children.
 
When children have a hard time, boys and girls suffer equally. They differ in how they suffer. Boys are more externally symptomatic acting out their anger, frustration and hurt. Boys may get into trouble in school; fight more with peers and parents. Girls tend to internalize their distress. They may become depressed, develop headaches, stomach aches, and have changes in their eating and sleeping patterns. Aggressive anger or passive anger is often felt and acted out.
 

What should people experiencing relationship/marriage problems do?
 

Get help when things start going downhill. Nip things in the bud.
 
 

Opposition brings concord. Out of discord comes the fairest harmony. 4

 
 
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Signs Of Trouble:

 
1 You’re Thinking About Having An Affair – STOP!
 

Having an affair outside the marriage/relationship does not solve your unhappiness.
Fact is affairs create unintended problems, generating a life of their own with unintended consequences no one can anticipant. It is not worth it. Stop the mental projections, the wishing immediately when they come up. Change your focus back towards your partner and seek help if you cannot work things out.
 
Bear in mind that counselors varying greatly on what they actually are committed to helping you accomplish.
Some have the goal of saving the relationship/marriage and is the driving point of their work; others maintain a goal of separate partner (individual) bliss. Divorce/Separation for the later is often guaranteed. Know your counselor point of view and goals before engaging them. Ask for a disclosure. Ask an open ended question like: ‘What is your main goal when working with couples with problems?’
 
Try and figure out if the counselor/anger management expert:
 
A. Fight for relationship/marriage at all costs
B. Main concern of the work is individual happiness and wellbeing
 
Instead of talk therapy, check out Anger ManagementCouples Conflict Management.
Atlanta Anger Management Couples Conflict Management is not talk therapy counseling.
 
It is client education and training re-framing the relationship patterns, enhancing assertive communication and active listening. It is increasing awareness of anger and other negative emotions triggers and hot buttons to understand relationship dynamics and handle them in a more productive way. It is changing destructive behavior patterns into more positive relationship patterns that are sustainable. It is not a short term fix but a new way of being/living. It is maintaining an exciting new way of being. Commit to being a “Creative Partner Invested In Positive Change”6.
 
Affairs Continued…
 
Once emotional or sexual involvement goes outside a marriage, the issues needing to be addressed become background issues.
 
Problems magnify and get worse:
 
• Lies
• Not doing what you say – See: Be Impeccable
• Broken promises
• Deceit
• Guilt
• Building Walls of separation
• Avoidance
• Less time spend together
• Shame
• Increased suspicions
• Trust erodes
• Responsibility diminishes
• Character flaws are magnified
• Love is crushed and turns to contempt
• I do not care anymore = death of relationship
 
If you’re considering being unfaithful, it signals something is wrong with your relationship.
Ask yourself and be honest. “Can I resist temptation?”
 
If someone threw themselves on me … Can I resist without thought because I am totally committed to my partner. This is what is needed even if you are fighting right now.
 
Remember: Any indiscretion is always found out. The Truth always is found out. The News verifies this daily.
 
There are solutions to your problems. Call Richard Taylor 678.576.1913
 
2 You Fight About The Same Thing Over and Over and Over
 
You should know with a 50% chance of marriage lasting that Marriage and Conflict happening is not if but when. Arguing from time to time is perfectly normal and is expected. That is not a problem. The problem is outlined with further points below.
Accept The Unsolvable
 
According to relationship scientist John Gottman, 69% of relationship conflicts are persistent problems, meaning they revolve around issues that tend to resurface no matter how long you’ve been together. If you find a problem seems to call up painful emotions, you’re looking at one that’s persistent.1
 
To stop this trouble from ruining your relationship, you’ll need to address the bigger issues underlying your difficulty. Take turns discussing with your partner what this loaded issue really means to you. When your partner is talking, your job is to listen, be nonjudgmental and to find something in her/his perspective that makes sense to you. When it’s your turn to talk, she/he should be doing the same thing. By treading more gently into touchy areas, you should at least be able to agree to disagree or make some small concessions for one another. Accept that some things are not solvable. It is best to not talk about it. Couples who have been together a long time have embraced this concept and saved their marriage by doing so.
 
Couples who focus on the negatives in their relationship surely self destruct.1
 
It is best to practice LIVING IN THE MOMENT and not bringing up the past. Live right now. Also do not project these beliefs into the future. Say: “ That was then, this is now.” All I can experience is right now. Work on catching negative thoughts and choose to ‘change the channel” with positive thoughts. Like “What is it I like most about my partner?” Focus with intention for 10-30 seconds on the good to help imprint it on the brain to rewire it.
 
3 Spending Less Time Together
 
 

“The number one cause for the breakdown in marriages today is couples aren’t spending enough time together.” 7 – Michele Weiner Davis

 
 
Everything is more important than setting aside sacred time for one another. Whether it’s work, kids, meetings, clubs, church, temple, friends, working out, hobbies, golf, sports, TV, social media, relatives, and so on, everything seems to take precedence over the relationship. When this happens, couples stop being friends and their emotional connection suffers. They begin leading separate lives. The often become housemates.
 
Marriage will remain in danger unless you change this. Make it your joint mission to re-establish couple time together and family time together. Perhaps real meals rather than fast food eating. Outdoor activities help relieve stress and help bonding. Put away your cell phones, texting, listening to “your” music. Embrace being present to those around you. Get out of yourself and into your relationships. You can choose to change. But no one can make you. Each person has to decide to let others in.
 
4 Talking About Superficial Topics
 

Communication is one of the keys to lasting relationships.
 
Partners often have different needs when it comes to talking. Often guys like to talk “about” things, while women like to often talk about their emotions and the meaning of things, events, family, deeper conversations that force us to think, feel, emote and define our beliefs. This is often harder work than the surface talk.
 
The “talker” in the marriage/relationship often feels let down, hurt, frustrated and alone because their partner does not participate willingly in the dialogue.
 
The “talker” sometimes talks about their needs and what needs fixing in the relationship which results in the partner shutting down and wants to disengage in the conversation. These produce avoidance, putting up walls and further shuts down communication. The result is negative feelings that might include frustration, isolation, uncooperativeness, unhappiness, loneliness, not being connected and depression.
Having these talks of the heart is needed to promote intimacy, acceptance, reliance, love, safety and security. Maybe even the feeling of feeling cherished. Being reluctant to engage in these conversations put your relationship at risk.
 
Unmet needs and boundary violations are the two main reasons anger is often felt and expressed.
 
So conversations discussing important matters about finances, your own feelings, loved ones, future plans and goals, what is working and not working, behavior change requests, etc are vastly important. Couples usually are able to move into these conversations in their 30’s and on. Not having them can make the relationship seem superficial, light and not very serious. Many, many people remain adolescent in their self development no matter what age they are. They are just not willing to do any self growth work.
 
5 Escalating Fights
 

Often we find our vocabulary limited and we rely on the same expression over and over and our conversations repeat themselves. He/she says the same thing, she/he responds always in the same way. We are on a gerbil round treadmill repeating the same relationship dynamics. We hear ourselves say…”Oh no, here we go again!”
 
This often leads to anger, contempt and withdrawal. Avoidance is a key destructive interaction in relationships.
 
Pay attention and notice if you are having the same fights.
 
If these arguments are growing in intensity you must act and do something about them. Seek outside professional help very soon, not six years from now! Sometimes these escalating fights manifest into either verbal abuse or physical abuse.
 
Rule #1 In Anger Management: Do Not Touch Your Partner When Angry. You Will Get Arrested.
 
Both verbal abuse or physical abuse are destructive to lasting relationships so act and get help.
 
Aggressive Communication Style often has components of:
 
Inattention

• Interrupting

• Control

• Manipulation

• Intimidation

• Hostility
 
These ongoing ever repeating fights or arguments definitely showcase that deeper underlying issues are not being addressed. Most often communication skills are lacking that healthy couples have. These communication skills can be learned so that unresolved issues can be worked through. We offer help in communication skills. Inquire.
 
6 Having Little Or No Sex
 
Usually one partner has a lower sex drive than the other partner. In other words one partner wants sex more often than the other. The problem arises when the partner with the lower sex drive refuses their spouse’s feelings and rejects most, if not all, sexual advances.
 
Often this results in hurt feelings, frustration, rejection, feeling unwanted, feeling deflated, emotionally disconnected, angry and desperate.
 
If this goes on too long be wary of one partner disconnecting and becoming removed. Intimacy ends. This can often lead to infidelity. Even if only emotional infidelity.
 
Divorce also happens.
 
Once you experience these feelings, many things can happen. You stop enjoying each other’s company, spending time together, connecting emotionally, and being friends. If you don’t do something about it the death of the relationship often results. Or you become housemates for the duration with little empathy or love for the other. You move into existence mode. This is unnatural and not healthy, especially when children are involved.
 
I have helped many couples that are sleeping in separate bedrooms, in essence co-existing.
 
If this is a religious decision of sexual abstinence that is a choice and is healthy and a positive thing, but most people are not in that situation. It is isolation, alienation that causes it.
 
If a spouse is not getting enough sex, or would like more frequency while the other not, you both need to examine the reasons it’s happening. If might be necessary get professional help in Sex Therapy. Do whatever it takes to re-create passion and intimacy in your marriage. Action is called for.
 

7 Focusing more on kids than each other
 
Fact: Empty Nesters are still divorcing in droves. Once the children leave home, the relationship often feels overwhelmingly void.9
Today’s American culture (and many others) has become very Child Centric; meaning making our children our number one priority placing them in the center of our lives.
 
Everything is about our children.
 
Often when we live this way, our marriages suffer. It is hard to follow the sage wisdom: God First, Spouses Second, Children Third, Parents Fourth. 10
 
Be careful to not feel more connected to your children than your partner. Doing so often disconnects us from our spouses, resulting in us becoming strangers. This empties the marriage of intimacy.
 
Making the marriage the most important thing in your lives is the best thing you can do for your children. Your children benefit enormously when you have loving close relationship, as it models what a good marriage is, giving them the image framework to repeat it in their own adult lives.
It also helps marital longevity more likely.
 
TIP: Analyze your family life. Are you on auto pilot? Are you placing your relationship to God 1st, Spouse 2nd, Children 3rd, Parents 4th? If not, try to change as this will put your marriage on a better path towards lasting fulfillment.

“Good character is not formed in a week or a month. It is created little by little, day by day. Protracted and patient effort is needed to develop good character.” – Heraclitus 3

 

QUESTIONS:

 
Do you see yourself in any of the above?
 
Do you see partner in any of the above?
 
Do you admit you might need to tweak some things?
 
Great. Awareness is the first key to change and make things better.
 
Do not be static, stuck and remain in your relationship patterns.
 
Do something.
 
Take a positive step and invest in your relationship/marriage, It is worth the cost of money, time, effort and growth.

Change is the only constant. All is flux, nothing is stationary. Everything flows and nothing stays. 3 – Heraclitus

Be exceptional and do not wait years, 2013 is the year. Heed these warnings if you are living them.
 
Make the call to Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management at 678.576.1913
 
When you do, your marriage/relationship will be a healthier, happier place to be and you will live longer due to less stress. Really.
 
 
CONTACT
Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers
Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA
Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: http://www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com
Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence
 
At Atlanta Anger Management, Atlanta, GA  Anger Management is offered:

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References:
1. The Gottman Research Institute
2. Leo Averbach, Author, Breakup: Enduring Divorce; BreakupAid
Follow Leo Averbach on Twitter: www.twitter.com/Breakupwriter
3. Heritage Foundation – America’s Greatest Weapon Against Child Poverty
4. Heraclitus – Ηράκλειτος (Herakleitos; Heraclitus) of Ephesus (c.535 BC – 475 BC) was a Greek philosopher
Good character is not formed in a week or a month. It is created little by little, day by day. Protracted and patient effort is needed to develop good character.
5. Ancient version of the Taijitu (太極圖), origins from Lai Zhi-De (來知德) alias Lai Qu-Tang (來瞿唐) 1525-1604). Black and white swirls around a transparent circle.
6. “Creative Partners Invested In Positive Change” © Richard Taylor 2009
7. Michele Weiner-Davis MSW http://www.divorcebusting.com/
8. Michele Weiner-Davis MSW http://www.divorcebusting.com/
9. Empty Nests and Empty Marriages
10. Happy Wives Club 

ANGER MANAGEMENT – WHAT IS IT

Anger Management  – What Is It?

ATLANTA ANGER MANAGEMENT

Anger Management is a course of treatment that seeks to help people whose anger emotion is causing negative problems in their personal, business or public life.

Anderson & Anderson’s Certified Anger Management Facilitators are influencing how anger management is practiced throughout the United States. Anger Management has moved from the basic idea of management of anger to a broader understanding of the relationship between anger, stress, communication, self-awareness, social awareness, impulse control, optimism, decision making, self-perception, flexibility and relationship management. This provides the client with self understanding (awareness), learning to control one’s emotions, social awareness for better interactions and more productive relationship management. 1

In most cases reduced recidivism is also achieved.

Professionally Certified Anger Management Facilitators (CAMF) take an active interest is specializing in understanding anger and all of it’s ramifications. Anger Management is not psychotherapy. Anger Management is psycho-education and a highly personalized form of treatment.

Anger Management does not seek to help those in need of counseling to find ways of avoiding their anger altogether. According to the American Psychiatric Association, anger is a normal human emotion. It is not a mental disorder, consequently it is not responsive to traditional counseling, psychotherapy or psychotropic medication. Additionally anger is not listed in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) DSM-IV-TR. 3

Anger is exemplified by anger outbursts or tempers that flair out of proportion to the causing stimuli or situation. Anger can be aggressive as in verbal or physical abuse but also passive as in emotional blackmail, negative control issues, silent treatment etc. The individual experiencing anger often lashes out against family members, friends, acquaintances coworkers, even strangers.

Anger is a problem under the following circumstances: 2

• When it occurs too frequently
• When it is too intense
• When it lasts too long
• When it leads to health issues
• When it destroys interpersonal relationships: personal, work and public
• When it results in person-directed aggression: verbal or physical abuse

Anger can be managed using skills/tools that can be learned through a course of proven Anger Management curriculum.

At Atlanta Anger Management, Atlanta, GA  Anger Management is offered:

 

Definitions:

Session (s): Meet in discrete private one on one Monday through Friday agreed upon time slot and individualize treatment plan. You receive an Action Plan (To Do List) that mobilizes you into changing your situation immediately. People around you will notice and things improve quickly.

Book Monday through Friday 8:00AM to 5:00PM | Monday 8:00AM to 10:00PM

Group Class / Class: Join a group of other people usually from 2-7 people and use an anger management workbook to learn the Anderson and Anderson™ four Anchors for change and life skills to better/change your life. Some conversation results from topics.
You can join an open class at any time. This is like attending a Self Improvement Class / Seminar. It is best if you can attend 8 Hours of Class Time to receive the main content so you can actually use all the material in a combined approach for lasting change.

Anger Management Class Schedule:
Tuesday Anger Management Classes
Wednesday Anger Management Classes
Thursday Anger Management Classes
Saturday Anger Management Classes

Accelerated / Intensive: A Monday through Friday usually 8 Hour Private One On One Session. Combines Individual Session Concepts and help with Workbook Structure.
Most often Corporate Sponsored or when Individual is going to jail and needs it right now.

Book Monday through Friday. Any number of hours needed. Inquire. 678.576.1913

VIP Concierge Service – We come to you. One on One private discrete Sessions.
Any length of time you want. Individual, Couples, Family, Teens, Corporate. Seminars.

Disruptive Physicians handled personally by Mr. George Anderson  ( Brentwood, CA)

VIP Concierge Anger Management Coaching Services Worldwide.
Harstfield – Jackson International Airport – Busiest Passenger Airport In World – Affordable Flights Everyday.
Certified In All 50 US States and Accepted By All Courts.

 Seminars – Group Classes for 2 or more people.
 
 

Richard Taylor of Atlanta Anger Management teaches core life skills in the following domains:

• Self Observing Self
• Anger Awareness and Anger Management
• Stress Awareness and Stress Management
• Improved Communication through Assertion Training & Active Listening
• Emotional Intelligence:
self-awareness, self control, social awareness and relationship management
• Relationship Management
• Cognitive Restructuring
• Learning to Respond To Another Person’s Anger
• Optimism and Gratitude

The first step is to call Richard at 678-576-1913 and we get to know one another. It is usually fairly brief but provides you the opportunity to discuss current situation and what some of the issues are.

Atlanta Anger Management work with Individuals, Companies, Corporations, City and Federal Government Institutions, Schools, Colleges and Universities, Health Care Companies in designing classes or group seminar programs in Anger Management, Stress Management, Improved Communication Styles, Couples Conflict Management, Rage Management, and Emotional Intelligence.

NOTE: NO INSURANCE IS ACCEPTED.

Anger is not listed in The Diagnostic & Statistical Manual of Nervous and Mental Disorders (DSM IV). Anger is a normal human emotion, which is a problem when it is too intense, occurs too frequently, lasts too long, has health implications, impacts interpersonal relationships or leads to person-directed aggression or violence. 3

Therefore anger is not considered a Psychological Disorder by either the American Psychiatric Association or the American Psychological Association in the way that depression or schizophrenia are, therefore services cannot be billed to client’s health insurance.

CONTACT:

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

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References:

1. https://www.andersonservices.com/blog/

2. https://www.andersonservices.com/blog/

3. https://www.andersonservices.com/blog/

SATURDAY ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASS FEBRUARY SCHEDULE ANNOUNCED

Saturday Anger Management Class Schedule 

ATLANTA ANGER MANAGEMENT

Saturday Anger Management Class Schedule
Georgia State Approved.

 Call Richard at 678-576-1913 to enroll and reserve a seat for free.

Judges, Solicitor General’s, Probation Officers, PreTrial Officers in different counties all have different anger management requirements to fulfill their needs for you. It is your responsibility to check with them and ask questions to what they will accept to fulfill your court requirements.

Check With Your Referring Party If They Will Accept A One Day Anger Management Course. If Not Attend a Tuesday or Wednesday Evening Class. or Thursday Evening Class.

  • All Payments Non Refundable.
  • Call your contact and ask what they will accept/require.

Limited Seating. Call to reserve your chair!

We sit around a conference table and learn principles of better relationships learning about anger, stress, communication styles and emotional intelligence. All to improve your reactions to anger and stress producing activating events. DVD’s and Videotapes also watched.

You are treated with respect.

Come join a select few who want the best anger management program [ Anderson and Anderson™ ] on the planet with a facilitator who is engaging, funny, gifted storyteller, and teacher.

Besides getting your Court Ordered needed Certificate of Completion you also learn something! Get your money’s worth!

Court Ordered Participants Usually Require 8 Hours Or More Of Classes.

People needing six hours can also attend for 6 hours $180.00

Call Richard Taylor To Discuss. 678-576-1913


WHAT YOU RECEIVE:

A.) All documents to relieve you of your case requirements.

B.) Certificate Of Completion Offered For All Who Complete The Class hand signed by our Certified Facilitator and Corporate Seal.

C.) Letter Of Completion Addressed To Your Referring Party With All Your Case Particulars, Completion of # of Hours Required, Explains Our Methodology, and who we are.

D.) Work Book of Class Topics

E.) You receive a model of Anger Management with tools/methods that actually work. When used they will improve your interpersonal relationships in your personal, business and public life. You will be able to reduce your reaction to anger triggering events to more appropriate responses that enhance your life.

F.) Complimentary Designer Coffee, Hot Tea, Hot Chocolate, Cappuccino, Filtered Water
OK To Bring Your Own or Snacks

G.) Free Safe Parking, Building has 24/7 Security

Call 678-576-1913 to join a class. No Drop Ins.

DIRECTIONS

CONTACT

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in: http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD – ANGER MANAGEMENT – ATLANTA

Be Impeccable With Your Word

Be Impeccable with Your Word is the first of The Four Agreements 2 developed by Don Miguel Ruiz.1

Expressing yourself impeccably is to express yourself in the direction of truth and love. This includes expressing love, respect, and acceptance for yourself.

It is to say what you mean. Do what you say. To live up to your core values and do not violate them.

We should consider our Word to be much more than the words and phrases that we speak. Our words came from our thoughts that come from our beliefs in how the world works, evolved from our socialization process and life experience. So our Word reflects our beliefs, attitude, our cognitive distortions, our emotions, become our words, and resulting physical actions in the things we do.

If we increase our awareness of ourselves, the first step towards growth we start to pay attention to what we believe, think and the words we speak.

Do we do what we say? No? Why?

In my own experience I have people every week who call and set up an appointment for help with anger. We agree on a time and they know the cost. I call them to remind them of the appointment time. They confirm the appointment and then do not call or show up for the appointment. It seems to be more prevalent then people actually appearing for their appointment. Why is this? Today a lot of people do not do what they say. A simple text or phone call cancelling the appointment would be the grown up responsible action to do. People who  break this agreement (Be Impeccable) , do not respect themselves nor other people. They are unreliable people and this manifests in all their relationships. No wonder anger and broken troubled relationships are increasing.

The word fickle 3 comes to my mind. Often people who need real help in Anger Management often are fickle. Old English version says they are deceitful. Not trustworthy.

fick·le  (fkl)

adj.

Characterized by erratic changeableness or instability, especially with regard to affections or attachments; capricious.


[Middle English fikel, from Old English ficol, deceitful.]


fickle·ness n.

fickly adv.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.


fickle [ˈfɪkəl]

adj

changeable in purpose, affections, etc.; capricious

[Old English ficol deceitful; related to fician to wheedle, befician to deceive]

fickleness  n

Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003

ThesaurusLegend:  Synonyms Related Words Antonyms

Adj. 1. fickle – marked by erratic changeableness in affections or attachments; “fickle friends”; “a flirt’s volatile affections”volatile

inconstant – likely to change frequently often without apparent or cogent reason; variable; “inconstant affections”; “an inconstant lover”; “swear not by…the inconstant moon”- Shakespeare

2. fickle – liable to sudden unpredictable change; “erratic behavior”; “fickle weather”; “mercurial twists of temperament”; “a quicksilver character, cool and willful at one moment, utterly fragile the next”erraticmercurialquicksilver

changefulchangeable – such that alteration is possible; having a marked tendency to change; ” “changeable moods”

Based on WordNet 3.0, Farlex clipart collection. © 2003-2012 Princeton University, Farlex Inc.

Self Awareness

Question to ask yourself:

  • Are you good to your Word?
  • Do you do what you say?
  • Do you live up to your core values?
  • Do you respect other people time and affections?
  • Are you reliable?
  • Are you trustworthy?
  • Do you have integrity?

If you answered “No” to any of these above questions, embrace Self Awareness and embrace Be Impeccable to Your Word and change for the better. Work towards truth and love.

These traits seems to be lacking in many people today.

To Be Impeccable with Your Word isn’t as simple as it might seem. Exploring the meaning of this first agreement your understanding of it will expand. Your self-awareness ( a key to personal growth) begins with paying attention to each moment of the day as it unfolds. This is called Mindfulness. You notice your thoughts that used to go unnoticed. You notice your comments that seemed you represent as true but notice they are not based on facts or faith you just copied something your read, heard on TV or YouTube. You notice that some of what you say is really personal beliefs not rooted in truth or love. You become aware of your subtle thoughts, beliefs, words, actions, and expressions of the day. Compared with this agreement Be Impeccable with Your Word things become more challenging than one originally imagined.

To master being impeccable requires that you heighten your awareness not just:

  • The words you say
  • The emotions you express
  • Your attitude
  • Your actions
  • Why you express the power of your belief and where it came from

You will need to develop a discipline of mindfulness to be impeccable in these expressional modes throughout the day.

Looking at emotions that bring up “negative” feelings in us: 4
  • jealousy
  • envy
  • frustration
  • sadness
  • anger
  • anxiety
  • fear
  • sorrow
  • disrespected (dissed)
  • offended
  • disgust
  • hate
  • grief
  • shame
  • embarrassed
  • panic
  • nervousness
  • insulted
  • humiliated
  • isolated
  • defeated
  • hopeless
  • grouchiness
  • moodiness
  • feeling misunderstood
  • isolation
  • alone
  • abandoned
  • self rejection
  • mad
  • enraged

While the feelings are what we feel, often being filtered though our Cognitive Distortions that are not rooted in truth and love. They are what we fall into without discernment. We react to stimuli, to events, to people, to things, and quickly let these “negative” unpleasant feeling wash over us. Many embrace them for days, for weeks, for a life time. Feeling Depressed? You let a feeling or many take a home in you instead of flowing through you as you should.

A key to good Emotional Health is to let our feeling flow through us. They are just a feeling and we observe them, we stay with them, embrace them, even if unpleasant. But they have a time and we let them go and move unto the next feeling. If we focus our attention to a positive experience, a positive thought, and positive action then they will replace the negative.

INCREASE THE POSITIVES

Positive always win over negative. Light always dispels the darkness. Truth always triumphants over lies.  The Sun will shine another day.

  • You can create and change how you feel emotionally by generating emotions, and then you feel them.
  • You can create dynamics of respect in relationship by being silent and active listening attentively.
  • Refrain from emotional reactions can create a different experience for yourself and others.
  • Express caring, compassion, appreciation in the activity of your actions.
  • Create a new different self image by new and different positive thoughts. New research shows it rewires your brain. You must implant the positive with 10-30 seconds of intentional focus. This helps the brain “remember”.

Being Impeccable To Your Word can be expressed in many ways in each moment that forms your day. ½ a day at a time. Being Present in the Moment. Being Mindful. This moment is what we have right now. The past is gone. The future, we can only hope for. It may never come. Death cannot be negotiated with. Live in the Present Moment to relieve suffering.

Silence can be Impeccable

Silence is an expression. And sometimes silence and refrain says a lot more than words can. Your actions are a part of how you create. Silence with good feelings is a positive. Silence with contempt is negative and not being impeccable. Active Listening with compassion goes a long way toward relationship building. Learn to not argue or quarrel.

Saying Sorry

Saying you are sorry is Being Impeccable To Your Word. It moves toward truth, love and forgiveness.

Fear – Anxiety – Panic

 

Fear – Anxiety – Panic are “negative emotions” that do not enhance life, they take energy away from us. They dehabilitate us. They render us ineffective.

Examples:

  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Death
  • Fear of Rejection
  • Fear of Ridicule
  • Fear of Loneliness
  • Fear of Misery – Poverty
  • Fear of Disappointment  – Ourselves vs. Others
  • Fear of Pain
  • Fear of The Unknown
  • Fear of Losing Your Freedom
  • Fear of Dating
  • Fear of Public Speaking
  • Fear of Success

Fear, Anxiety, Panic hold you back and are not being Impeccable.

When you experience Fear, Anxiety or Panic notice it. Embrace it. If you can stay with the feeling like diving into a deep swimming pool, swim to the bottom and be with the feeling. If you can stay with it without addictions like alcohol, drugs or other crutches it will ease. Peace will come. You can let it go. You make a choice to let it go. It goes. Then decide for a positive thought, a positive action and stay with that. Let that hold. Embrace it for as long as you can. Rewire you brain for the positive. Fear Anxiety or Panic will lessen and go elsewhere. Embrace Love. Fear and Love cannot exist side by side in you.

To Be Impeccable with Your Word is an art requiring constant vigilance with active awareness. You begin today and master over a lifetime of work. Some never master it.

It is in the trying, in the consistent practice to master our emotional expression, master our beliefs, master our thoughts, master our words and master our actions that we change into a person with Integrity, Character, Virtue, Truth and Love.

We become Impeccable.

Why not start today?

Result: Your life will become a masterpiece of beauty, grace, happiness and love.

The Four Agreements – 15th Anniversary Illustrated Edition 5

“Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are the ones we make with ourselves. In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible. One single agreement is not such a problem, but we have many agreements that come from fear, deplete our energy, and diminish our self-worth.”

“In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible.”

In this powerful book that has remained on The New York Times Bestseller List for over eight years, don Miguel reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. When we are ready to change these agreements, there are four deceptively simple, yet powerful agreements that we can adopt as guiding principles. The Four Agreements® offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

The Four Agreements are:

Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don’t Take Anything Personally
Don’t Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best

CONTACT

Director Richard Taylor BS, CAMF
Certified Anger Management Facilitator
Diplomate American Association Anger Management Providers

Atlanta Anger Management 
5555 Glenridge Connector
Suite 200 (2nd Floor)
Atlanta, Georgia 30342 USA

Office Phone: 678-576-1913
Fax: 1-866-551-1253
Web: www.atlantaangermanagement.com
E-mail: richardtaylor5555@gmail.com

Linked in:http://www.linkedin.com/in/richardtayloraam

A Certified Anderson and Anderson™ Anger Management Provider
The Best Of The Best In Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence

_______________________________________________________________
References:

1. Don Miguel Ruiz Website: http://www.miguelruiz.com/index.php

2. The Four Agreements Amazon

3. Fickle The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003

Based on WordNet 3.0, Farlex clipart collection. © 2003-2012 Princeton University, Farlex Inc.

4.  Emotions    http://atlantaangermanagement.com/anger.htm

5.  The Four Agreements – 15th Anniversary Illustrated Edition

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE SERIES II

Emotional Intelligence – What is it anyway?

Emotional Intelligence Series – Part II

Continuing this Emotional Intelligence Series,  I wanted to get more into “What is Emotional Intelligence.”

Links to Series below:

Emotional Intelligence Series – Part I
Emotional Intelligence Series – Part II

In Part I, I mentioned this is not a complete definitive article on Emotional Intelligence [ EI ] as that would be overwhelming and not serve the purpose I seek; namely to bring the term Emotional Intelligence [ EI ] and it meaning and it’s application in a more understandable way to the “normal” person interested or having to take court ordered/employer mandated course/class.

To keep things really simple, I like to open with the term Emotional Intelligence as saying “Lets reverse the words to Intelligence With Our Emotions”.

Many of us live in a reactive world to other people, events, situations, our own beliefs and therefore our emotions are highly experienced and expressed without a moment of thought or internal interaction. We simply react to stimuli.

If we observe animals, like our pet dog, we see how it inter-reacts to other dogs while walking it in the park, runners, children, smells, watching TV, etc. Our dog reacts. We often understand it dog’s nature, Dogs bark. Some people try to make their dog “behave” and not bark. They apply Behavior Training so their dog learns more “acceptable” ways of being at the park and at home in the backyard. Some dogs bark at everything others seem better suited to go along smelling, walking and doing their business. Some of this may have to do with the dog’s breed, some the pet owner and their vibes/beliefs, tolerance for the dog’s behavior, perhaps training.

We as human beings have a larger brain and have the ability to perceive more. Both in an IQ (Intelligence Quotient) analytical left brain sort of way and also on an Emotional level (Emotional Intelligence) right brain sort of way.

For example: Some of us are able to “read” people’s expressions, eye movements / eye expression and body positions / language to sense what they are saying….it adds clues to whether we “think” …”Are they are telling the truth?”…whether we are to “believe” that what they are saying is believable and therefore acceptable and true. We accept and discard the conversation and often the person too. So this ability can be also be called “common sense” or “street smarts”.

Most of us have some idea about those two terms called “common sense” or “street smarts”. We laugh and say the 21st Century person has lost that, hence all the online forums asking the most trivial questions, Facebook, the Call In Radio Shows, the Call In TV Shows, Reality TV, older newspaper columns handling such questions. People are very interested in what others think about their situation and what to best do about it. Most people do not look for inner wisdom or guidance from the quiet within.

On the other hand there are people with “Common Sense or Street Smarts” who do pretty well to very well in their lives, many without any or less than the best education. Why is this? They have a “knowing” to how things work and “work it.” This is a component of what is now called the field of Emotional-Social Intelligence. Fancy term for what many of us already know. But what about the others? What about you who think you know what is going on but find yourself reprimanded by the court system, your spouse, your family member, your employer. Are they just plain wrong? Or is there something more to be open to and learn and grow?

Is it possible to grow and learn about this interesting field of emotions?

I firmly believe there is! Emotions are complex and as we start to pay attention to ourselves we start to know who and what we are. Self knowledge often takes a life time of devotion and work. Who really are we as a person,  an individual? We do we accept/reject? Why?

Most people accept we are complex beings (called human beings) and that we are made up of three to four components or layers/levels.

  • Physical Level
  • Mental Level
  • Emotional Level
  • and overlooked/disputed: Spiritual Level
4 Domains

4 Domains

Most people have a hard time balancing all three or four levels. Since I believe in the Spiritual and most people believe in some kind of Higher Power let’s call it four levels or domains.

The two most overlooked as you can acknowledge are the Emotional and Spiritual domains.

We will look at these four domains next. – Richard

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